Trying to find love has been a shit show since… well, forever. We’re just getting better and better with age, but the dating scene, and let’s be honest, men in general, seem to be getting worse. Dating apps are dead, singles events make us feel like pigs being sold for slaughter, and meeting someone out in the wild is next to impossible. Even if you meet someone, the chance that they know what they want in a relationship, are emotionally mature, AND you find them attractive is rare, too. All that said, we’re still holding on to hope that the right person is out there. Cynicism feels safe, but we still believe in magic.

We’re too old and tired for NYC [2:05]

A less than stellar AI event [6:51]

No more ice-breaker activities [15:24]

Lore-dumping [20:19]

Living your “truth” [23:21]

Men aren’t suffering enough [25:15]

The state of dating apps [30:02]

Attempting to stay optimistic [35:10]

Safety in cynicism [37:01]

Love can’t be understood via algorithm [41:01]

Where do you even meet people now? [42:20]

Re-building communities [45:36]

Marketing ourselves [51:43]

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We would probably all agree that listening in on your partner’s therapy sessions or reading their journals is wrong, but what about reading their ChatGPT history? More and more people are working through issues in their personal lives using their AI chatbots as a journal-meets-therapist, and that might include relationship issues. And when someone inevitably finds some less than flattering information about themselves typed out to their partner’s own personal robot… shit gets sticky. Everyone is entitled to their privacy, but with new technologies, do new lines need to be drawn?

Walking around with a lady boner [1:02]

A very special wedding [7:30]

Being seen from your bad side [13:35]

Seeing your partner’s ChatGPT history [16:45]

An erosion of safety [20:12]

Is there an obligation to communicate every little issue? [23:28]

Eavesdropping on someone’s therapy [29:39]

The dangers of substituting therapy with AI [31:21]

We should all share less [34:41]

Owning your thoughts and feelings [36:21]

I Stumbled Across My Boyfriend's ChatGPT and It Ended Our Relationship - Lindsay Hall Writes

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Are we old now? Because we can’t remember anything anymore. Maybe it’s because of our hormones, or maybe it’s early-onset dementia, or maybe (okay, almost definitely) it’s due to our algorithm-trained brains forgetting how to focus on anything for more than 1.7 seconds. No matter the true cause, we feel stupid and we hate it. Are we alone in this, or are you struggling too, Bestie?

Celebrity train wrecks [1:53]

Our memories are fading [5:43]

Forgetting the facts of our own lives [8:43]

Maybe we’re just stupid [11:43]

A million things competing for our attention [14:00]

Is it our brains, or is it something else? [19:35]

What’s important to us [24:15]

Names and faces out of context [29:21]

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Nobody likes a girl who hates on other girls, especially for the benefit of men. Once upon a time, when we were younger, we would brag about how we “weren’t like other girls,” but now we know better. Our female friendships have saved us from our darkest moments, and we’d be honored to be exactly like other women. Femininity isn’t a weakness—it’s strength to find beauty and connection even in the darkest times. We don’t hate the “pick-me” girls out there, but we do feel kind of embarrassed for them.

The Bird Life [1:20]

Pick-me behavior [4:56]

Taking up a misogynist narrative [7:57]

Our female friendships have saved us [9:19]

Seeing femininity as weakness [11:29]

Internalized self-hatred [13:42]

Finding an appreciation for beauty [16:40]

Gaining maturity [21:41]

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Our algorithms feed us the things we consume the most, and unfortunately for us, we love looking at memes about men being evil. But as funny as the people of the internet are, we do want to be mindful of what we’re consuming because what consumer colors our perception of the world—and believe it or not, we don’t actually hate men. But the same thing is true for memes about being broke, fat, ugly, or any other negative thing we could call ourselves. If we take too much of it in, it starts to become our reality, and that’s not the Best Life we dreamed for ourselves, all those years ago.

In the new studio [0:59]

The importance of meeting your neighbors [3:08]

You create what you consume [6:04]

Relating to a reality you don’t want [9:06]

It’s hard to look away from a train-wreck [12:22]

We all need higher standards [13:51]

Making peace with being alone [15:42]

Don’t let things outside your control ruin your life [18:13]

When are we crossing into delusion? [25:50]

What reality do you want to have? [30:05]

Money isn’t moral [34:04]

Knowing who your true friends are [39:59]

Don’t let your algorithm happen to you [42:41]

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No one is more dramatic than a man who gets his advances rejected. We don’t mean to speak for every woman, but also… we’re pretty sure every single woman has either had an experience where a man lashed out at her for saying no, or she had to lie instead of saying no out of fear of backlash. We’ve heard men complain that they “can’t even approach women in public anymore” but we have no problem with being approached! The issue is that men just don’t seem to be able to take “no” for an answer. Our advice to men? Just be normal. Please, for the love of god, just be fucking normal.

Jill’s big move [1:54]

Long drives and nights in the hot tub [5:25]

No one is more emotional than a man who gets rejected [8:34]

When someone says no, walk away [15:35]

Saying yes out of fear of what comes after the no [17:33]

Just be normal [24:59]

It doesn’t have to be personal [29:37]

Just be a bitch [32:25]

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Break ups are hard enough as it is, but the longer you’re with someone, the more of a logistical mess it is to end your relationship. There are finances, housing, and even family members to consider as you separate your lives—but none of those are good reasons to stay if your heart is already telling you to go. We won’t lie to you, Bestie, it’s going to be hard. You just have to trust yourself to handle the hard stuff one day at a time, and know that you deserve happiness and peace… and sometimes the quickest way there is through the messy middle.

Why is everything so damn expensive? [2:04]

The logistics of a breakup [7:33]

Sometimes the most fair thing is to leave [10:15]

The first decision is the hardest [12:50]

You can’t predict the outcome [17:13]

A relationship is made up of two people [18:55]

The only thing you owe people is the truth [20:13]

Trust yourself to take it one step at a time [22:10]

You don’t have to make the decision right this second [27:23]

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Being in love is great and all, but the real benefit to being in a relationship is the opportunity to split costs. It’s ridiculously expensive just to be alive, which leaves single people unfairly disadvantaged—they have to take care of everything on their own. And it’s not just the financial burden you face when you’re single, there are social struggles, too. While everyone else has a person to celebrate the ups with and get support from during the downs, you have to ride the waves mostly on your own. We think it’s time to start sending a little more support to your single friends… and maybe a few hundred bucks, while you’re at it.

An awful first date [2:13]

Everything costs more when you’re single [8:28]

Making time to celebrate your people [12:34]

No where is left that’s affordable [14:21]

The older generations aren’t keeping up with the times [18:36]

Wanting to celebrate with someone [20:28]

You have to allow people to show up for you [24:16]

Thoughts on divorce registries [24:52]

Starting from scratch costs an arm and a leg [27:28]

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