What does it actually take to become more emotionally intelligent? In this episode, Brielle and Michael share how they each work on it day to day: journaling, check-ins, getting curious instead of reactive, and changing the beliefs underneath our emotions. We're not perfect, and we're not experts. This is what's working for us.

00:00 Welcome back to the Ma-Honeys

01:09 Today's topic: emotional intelligence

02:05 Why affirmations alone don't work (the thermostat analogy)

03:12 Taking feedback and growing up emotionally

04:41 Music as a metaphor for the mind

06:09 Brielle's routine: journaling and asking herself questions

09:58 Autopilot, and setting check-in timers

13:30 "Emotions validate what you believe, not what's true"

14:50 Shadow work: whose voice is that?

16:09 Useful and resourceful vs. right and wrong

17:02 Why the best athletes stay calm

18:05 Getting triggered: pause, get curious, respond

20:20 How we handle disagreements in our marriage

21:06 The cost of holding grudges

25:15 Emotions and the body

27:08 Why kids should be taught emotional intelligence

28:25 You can't breathe your way into a new belief

29:37 How do you change a belief? Step by step

34:57 Core beliefs and confirmation bias

37:05 Why coaching and being pushed helps you grow

39:13 A message for anyone going through a hard time

41:36 Brielle on changing her beliefs during a hard season

42:56 Man's Search for Meaning and the power of faith

44:40 Wrap-up

Books mentioned:

When the Body Says No by Gabor Maté

You Are the Placebo by Dr. Joe Dispenza

Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl

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