"I found proof he was cheating—but was snooping really what I needed to finally leave?”

This week's Fan Mail comes from a listener in Dublin, CA, who, after reading Dr. Kerry's book "Love You More," recognized her own relationship mirrored Dr. Kerry's experience, including the urge to snoop.

In this episode, Dr. Kerry explains why the urge to snoop is actually all the evidence you need that something's wrong and why finding "proof" never actually breaks the cognitive dissonance.

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Ever wonder why narcissists feel impossible to leave—even when you know something's wrong?

This week, filmmakers Ali & Stefanie Schmahl reveal how their docu-fiction hybrid "I Love You My Narcissist" portrays what no other film has: the internal experience of being slowly trapped by someone you love.

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Ali Schmahl (Director) and Stefanie Schmahl (Producer/Actress) are Berlin-based independent filmmakers who created "I Love You My Narcissist"—a groundbreaking docu-fiction hybrid featuring expert interviews with Dr. Kerry McAvoy, Dr. Ramani Durvasula, Lisa Sonni, and others.

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"My abusive partner refuses to leave or get help—and I'm trapped in a 'silent divorce.' What are my actual options?"

This week's Fan Mail question comes from a YouTube listener navigating an impossible situation: a long marriage, adult children, religious pressure against divorce, and an abusive partner who wants to maintain the status quo without doing any of the work to change.

In this episode, Dr. Kerry untangles the confusion between church annulment and legal separation, explains why staying together without changing is still a form of abuse, and breaks down the critical difference between spiritual status and legal protection. She addresses why "no divorce" doesn't actually mean you're trapped, how to tell who really benefits from keeping things status quo, and the essential first steps to take when you're caught between religious beliefs and your own safety.

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Lost empathy for yourself? You've already lost the fight.

This week, Tammy Triolo reveals the shocking connection between self-empathy loss and narcissistic abuse.

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• The Empathy Gap: It Is Black and White

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Tammy Triolo is a cultural strategist, author, and creator of the Empathy Scorecard. As founder of PCQ Consulting, she works with companies to improve culture and develop sustainable DEI initiatives.

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“My doctor keeps telling me it's all in my head—but I know something's wrong. Why won't they listen?"

This week's Fan Mail question comes from a podcast listener who writes: "Dear Kerry, could you do a podcast on the topic of narcissism, psychopathy and healthcare?…”

In this episode, Dr. Kerry breaks down why healthcare settings attract people who crave power and control, how the doctor-patient dynamic creates dangerous vulnerability, and why women are especially at risk of medical dismissal.

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Ever wonder why you didn't see it coming?

This week, Don Hennessy joins Dr. Kerry to expose the hidden playbook male predators use to infiltrate your mind—without you knowing it happened. We unpack the shocking truth about what predators are actually really after.

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• How He Gets Into Her Head
• Steps to Freedom: Escaping Intimate Control
• How He Wins: Abusive Intimate Partners Going Free

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Don Hennessy is an Irish psychotherapist and author who spent decades working directly with abusive men and their partners. He’s at work writing his fourth book.

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Does Narcissism Come and Go? What "Good Periods" With a Narcissist Really Mean

This week's Fan Mail question comes from a listener in Dubai who writes: "Can narcissism in a person wax and wane? There's been years when my husband was acting like a narcissist, and then there's also been chunks of years where he's been incredibly supportive and uplifting. Can a narcissist change depending on their current situation?"

In this episode, Dr. Kerry explains why narcissistic behavior can absolutely shift between good and bad periods and what those changes really means.

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Slowly losing control in your relationship—but can't quite put your finger on what's happening?

This week, Dr. Christine Cocchiola breaks down coercive control as the invisible foundation beneath all abuse.

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• Podcast: Perfect Prey
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DR. CHRISTINE COCCHIOLA is a leading expert on coercive control, protective parenting, and family court abuse. After surviving 27 years and 11 months with an abuser despite being a trained professional who taught about domestic violence, she now dedicates her work to helping others recognize the invisible tactics that strip autonomy. Dr. C specializes in supporting protective parents navigating family court.

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