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Someone hurt you, and you've been carrying it ever since. You've told yourself you're over it, but then their name comes up and it's all right there again, just as sharp as the day it happened. You already know you'd be better off letting it go. Nobody ever tells you how.

If you've caught yourself reliving the same painful moment over and over, or felt it flare up again just from driving past somewhere you used to go, you're not alone. Most people carry this far longer than they need to.

In this episode, you'll learn seven practical tips for forgiving someone, and they work even when forgiveness feels completely out of reach. You'll discover why holding onto anger is like carrying a backpack full of rocks, why empathy doesn't mean agreeing with what they did, and why revenge never delivers the closure it promises.

Alastair is also clear about what forgiveness is not. It isn't sweeping things under the rug or pretending everything is fine when it isn't. He finishes with two questions worth sitting with: who are you holding anger towards right now, and how much longer are you willing to carry it?

The Anger Secrets Podcast helps men and women master anger management, let go of resentment, heal after being hurt, and create calmer, happier homes.

Hosted by anger specialist Alastair Duhs, creator of The Complete Anger Management System.