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When You Lose It

By: Gay Longworth, Roxy Longworth
Narrated by: Imogen Wilde, Gay Longworth
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A gripping memoir of two battling narratives and a mother-daughter relationship stretched to its absolute limits.

Roxy was 13 years old when she was coerced then blackmailed into sending explicit photos, which were spread around her school. The shame led to self-loathing. The blame led to a psychotic breakdown. Roxy started hearing voices. Then she started seeing things...

What happens when your teenager starts to lose it, and then you lose each other? What happens when you can't tell your mother you desperately need help? And how can a family move past a devastating mental health crisis?

'Read this book. Then talk to your sons. It is essential reading' Jamie Theakston

'An extraordinary and important book. Read it immediately' Claudia Winkleman

'Superbly written, this deeply moving book underlines how truly precious mother-daughter relationships are, and never more so than in those teenage years' Gloria Hunniford

©2022 Roxy Longworth and Gay Longworth (P)2022 W.F. Howes Ltd
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Now I’m a BIG reader. But this is the best book I have ever read.

It should be read by every teacher, every medical practitioner, every parent, ever care giver, in fact every human being.

The insight into a teenage mind and the bravery needed to navigate this crazy world is so clearly felt. It’s written with a frankness and honesty that make it as uplifting as it is harrowing.

It’s impossible to do it justice in a review, so you’re just going to have to pick it up and start at page 1. I guarantee you won’t put it down until the end 🙏

Thank you Roxy and Gay for saying what needs to be said. ❣️

Everyone should read this book!

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Loved this book. Such an amazing listen - totally moved by the narration. A must listen

Amazing listen

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Phenomenal writing and such an important story - both the topic of sexting and the misogynistic view from society of female children. So refreshing to read from both points of view and brutally honest.

A must read for all parents.

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This book is a must for all parents of teen girls and boys. Recommended by our daughter's educational psychologist, this book shows agonisingly the two sides of a child's mental health breakdown, from the child and parent's point of view. Thank you for doing this book xxx

an insightful and true story about child mental health and parental struggles and achievements

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The sadness of both throughout this book due to the complexity of mother daughter relationships. It shows the fear we have as parents but shows we can stop everything no matter how we try!

The importance of hearing each other (which is hard with young people) as a parent but still parenting.
How hard it is for young people in a world where they have devices that brings them into adult worlds without the knowledge of understanding the risk no matter what a parent says!
How the girls get the blame when they haven’t the mental growth yet!
In this time it is still very much a man’s world still with no fault or blame!

Such an insight and well with parents and appreciate young age listening/reading

I love how it’s split by mother’s view and daughter’s view of each other!

I felt emotional for both one being the daughter of out of family trauma and being a mum to a beautiful daughter.

So well written and read

Thank you for sharing these life experiences and awareness.

Gale & Roxy - mother & daughter complexity in hours of need

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