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Summary

Do you need to know how to disarm the narcissist in your life?

If you have a narcissistic partner, parent, child, friend, or coworker, you’ve likely been told that you should leave them behind. But sometimes, that’s not possible or even desirable. There is a way to make your relationship work without having to suffer from narcissistic victim syndrome or end the relationship.

I was married to a narcissist, so I understand how difficult it can be to understand this condition and try to make it work. My experience with a toxic spouse is what prompted me to get a degree in psychology and write books about narcissism and recovering from emotional abuse. Now, 99 percent of the books written about narcissism will advise you to leave, and that’s what I did - but what if you can’t leave?

This book gives real stories from narcissists, their loved ones, and psychotherapists to help you tame your beast.

It is designed to help you learn the narcissist from the inside, and with that knowledge, you can take the right steps to protect yourself without suffering from gaslighting or making trauma bonds.

You’ll also learn about the following topics:
 

  • The causes, symptoms, and traits of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD)
  • How to identify a narcissist
  • How the narcissist thinks
  • Common weaknesses of the narcissist
  • Whether a narcissist can truly love you
  • The different kinds of narcissism, manipulations of toxic people, and much more

If you want to learn how to live with your loved ones instead of leaving them, this is the book that can help you learn all about surviving a relationship with a narcissist.

The book will help you understand the condition and gain insight into how the narcissist thinks. You’ll also learn about the narcissist’s manipulative techniques and how to avoid falling prey to them.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2021 Elena Miro (P)2021 Elena Miro

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Good book

The book overall is easily understandable, accessible, and concise. More depth is one of the main things I would have liked to see, but I enjoyed the book as a whole.No tips for healing from narcissistic abuse but a great listen if you deal with narcissists in your family or workplace

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I'm learning so much from the book

I like this book. It has a lot more information and useful tips than expected. This audiobook is well-organized, and the ideas to implement are very well-thought-out and based on social researches and practice! Confessions of the narcissists and much more! Highly recommended to listen! Thanks for the PDF!!!

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This book helped me to understand Narcissism.

This book helped me to understand Narcissism and to see how not just my partner has these attributes, but so do I. I didn't give five stars total because I wish it would've gone more indepth about the reactions partners can have and how codependency can evolve in these relationships as well. Hope to this this in the next book

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Knowledge for life, everyone should read this once

An all encompassing, guide on the complexity of poorly behaved people. This is a crucial read for anyone who's been through a difficult relationship of some kind. This book contains key information that help one to get a clearer picture of the landscape we call life. With that in mind, you still have to make the journey but it's much easier when you have clarity of sight, or in this case, thought.

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Book is written by a narcissistic abuse survivor!

Learning approach with facts and psychology. Providing proven tips, explanations and steps. This book is easy to listen and contain really useful information especially for Better Way to Understanding the Disorder of Narcissistic Personality and narcissistic personalities. I highly recommended this book!

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Next level of Understanding the narcissism

I recommend this book to everyone! It tells about the nature of narcissists and teaches understand them better. Wish I knew it in my marriage...

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The most informative book I read on the topic

a very in-depth depth explanation of what narcissism is, it's an eye opener however it doesn't mean you will not fall in the traps of a narcissist. It must gives you the tools to recognise this mental disorder. Very highly recommended.

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Great audiobook with information on Narcissism.

Great audiobook with a ton of information on Narcissists and NPD. I highly recommend it as informative listen for everyone on how to deal with Narcissists in their lives

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Comprehensive Guide to Narcissism

This is a well written comprehensive guide to Narcissism, helping the reader to understand the various types of Narcissism. The real testimonies give added insight and understanding to the mind of a Narcissist. It is narrated well and is easy to listen to. Knowing how the Narcissist understands and sees things can help you to choose the right course of action. if you are looking to understand more about Narcissim then this is definitely for you.

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  • 13-05-21

Everything you need to know about NPD

The author explains narcissism in the simple words. I understand NPD and narcissits much better now and it will be easier to deal with them. Nice pace f narration. I enjoyed listen to it!

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  • Helen M
  • 06-05-21

Now I understand

I have just finished listening to the book and it was so informative and revealing.it almost felt like I was reading my past relationship. It was empowering to understand and recognise the narcassist traits and gain some closure, I know I will never gain that through him but for myself.the biggest revelation I found was why they are drawn to us 'normal' folks! As I was left feeling that I was weak, a bad judge of character and not deserving of love..

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  • Robiyn
  • 13-05-21

I am so grateful for insight and suggestions.

This book is so helpful and informative. I couldn't even figure out how to communicate with them until I listen this audio book. I am so grateful for insight and suggestions I got from this book

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  • Taniya Mage
  • 13-05-21

Great audiobook with information on Narcissism.

Great audiobook with a ton of information on Narcissists and NPD. I highly recommend it as informative listen for everyone on how to deal with Narcissists in their lives

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  • Kelley Robison
  • 13-05-21

This audiobook is a completely nice

This audiobook is a completely effective listen to understanding and dealing with a range of narcissistic personalities covers even the tiniest details from defining narcissism, giving you an insight into the disorder and its origins

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  • Marufa Sumi
  • 13-05-21

The most informative book I read on the topic

a very in-depth depth explanation of what narcissism is, it's an eye opener however it doesn't mean you will not fall in the traps of a narcissist. It must gives you the tools to recognise this mental disorder. Very highly recommended.

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  • Vanessa
  • 11-05-21

Narcissism unmasked

The book is just great! It is solely based on scientific facts, researchers' results, professional opinions, and the honesty of some narcissists. Now I understand why they are like that. The author did a great job of explaining the issue. Highly recommend this book for everyone who deals with a narcissist in their life!

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 08-05-21

Must listen for EVERYONE

That is the first book that explains why narcissists are monsters and who they are inside their heads. The author did great research into the topic. Every chapter I was like "WOW, I didn't know that." I divorced my ex-husband narcissist, more than 2 years ago, but still, questions were in my mind. This book answered them all. If I knew all this, my marriage could be different...

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  • Nicholas Marshall
  • 20-07-21

Narcissism is unmasked

Get this book and you will understand everything about narcissists and even more, about human psyche. Wish I read this book 2 years ago, I could save my marriage.

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  • Dominic Francis
  • 20-07-21

Very helpful in my case

This is an extremely helpful read for anyone dealing with a narcissist. The explanation of narcissism as a spectrum and the details of what healthy narcissism looks like as opposed to extreme narcissism provides a lot of much-needed clarity to a topic that is usually seen as more black and white. Real life examples and practical suggestions on how to maintain healthy boundaries, particularly with the emphasis on keeping the peace rather than wasting energy on unproductive confrontations that will just trigger a narcissist, make this book very encouraging for anyone dealing with this type of situation.