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Triggers

Exchanging Parents' Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses
Narrated by: Amber Lia, Wendy Speake
Length: 5 hrs and 25 mins
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Summary

Do you believe your struggle with anger stems from the wrong behavior you see displayed in your children? The knee-jerk reactions and blowups you're facing are often a result of a bigger set of "triggers". Some of these are external, like a child's disobedience, back talk, or selective hearing, while others are internal, like an overflowing schedule, sleep deprivation, or perhaps your own painful experiences from childhood. Triggers: Exchanging Parent's Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses examines common parenting issues that cause us to explode inappropriately at our children. Moving beyond simple parenting tips on how to change your child's behavior, authors Amber Lia and Wendy Speake offer biblical insight and practical tools to equip and encourage you on the journey away from anger-filled reactions toward gentle biblical responses.

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I read parenting scripts first which is also a life changing book. I would recommend reading this one first...

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  • Utilisateur anonyme
  • 13-02-18

Amazing!

I loved this book! Definitely a great biblical parenting book for moms who find themselves triggered to yelling and anger. I’ll be buying a hard copy to have in my home as well! :)

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  • Sandra Harris
  • 09-11-18

I will choose God's path.

Inspired words. There are no easy answers but this book inspires us to press on and be the parents that He would have us to be. i will reread and share this amazing book as I am on my journey to respond to my children with Gods love not my anger

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  • Mercedes and Jason
  • 07-03-19

Triggers in Review

Written by Amber Lia and Wendy Speak

Quote: “Moms don’t have to be perfect we just need to yield to being perfected in Christ.”


I listened to this book through audible.com. I was not given this book in exchange for a review.

This book was recommended to me by Mirror Ministries, an organization that helps restore local victims of human-trafficking. They have a heart for the hurting and have a plethora of resources and recommendations for healing.

I enjoyed listening to the authors’ voices and the information they provided was insightful and helpful.

I love that there is a chapter specifically focused towards parenting children with health conditions.

They give multiple examples of ways our children sometimes trigger us and provide various examples of how to cope through them.

The biggest piece of advise I plan on implementing moving forward is to not try and teach a lesson when triggered. My plan moving forward is address the behavior, make the correction then take a “break” to write down what about that situation bothered me, why I felt a correction needed to be made, and develop a “training plan” to move forward.

For example: I’ve told my kids multiple times that I’m on the phone and they continue to get loud and rambunctious. That triggers my anger and before I snap I put my phone on hold, get my kids’ attention, ask them to quietly wait in their rooms until I’m off the phone. I would , finish my call then jot down what happened and why it needed to be addressed. Like “mom needs to make important phones calls to benefit the family and make sure we stay healthy”. Then, I’d pray. Later that day I could sit and have a conversation to explain that if mom is on the phone, it’s usually to talk to important people so that our family can stay healthy, sheltered and fed. And then I can tell them “from now on, when mom is on the phone, we need to pause and have quite time in our rooms until she comes to get us. That way we can stay happy, healthy and respectful to each other.”

More helpful take aways:

▪️ Shift focus from fixing “tempers” to praying as we endure the child rearing days. I’ve implemented this by turning on worship music and praising my way through the tough days as well as the good ones.

▪️ The power of “uh-oh” as an exclamation pointer to remind our kids and warn them that they have “stepped out of bounds”. This way they are gently reminded they created a faux pas while still keeping the mood light and supportive.

▪️ Meet their bad behavior with good behavior.

▪️ The Holy Spirit is responsible for controlling their moods and hearts, not us. We are here to be their earthy guidance and comfort.

▪️ Schedule family meetings in advance to remind everyone of family expectations and standards. It’s ok to “pause” a teaching moment especially if you’re (I’m) struggling to control my own moods.

▪️ Keep the meeting positive and remind everyone that we are all working together for the greater family good. We as parents want what’s best for our children.

▪️ If you are feeling overwhelmed and feel like the household responsibilities are not equally divided, have everyone write down all their responsibilities (work, school, community, familial, personal etc) and compare notes. It is a good exercise for everyone involved and will be an ice breaker to family adjustments.

I give this audiobook and its content a big thumbs up!

Please consider reading or a listening to Triggers if you are losing the battle of triggers and struggle with parenting from a place of peace and calm.

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  • That's What She Said
  • 25-06-19

Wow

Transforming book. I’m considering buying several copies for parents to pick up at orientation for the new school year!

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  • Devin
  • 19-06-19

Must read for Christian moms! For all moms!

This should be one of those books you read a few times. I laughed, cried and prayed with these two wonderful women and learned so much. I can't thank them enough for compiling all of this knowledge together and sharing it with us. Thank you for living it so we might not have to!!

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  • Utilisateur anonyme
  • 27-05-19

Opened my eyes

I haven't been touched by a book like this in each chapter in a very long time. This book has opened my mind (to thinking about how I act), my eyes (to notice what I put out onto my children), my body (to stop my actions as I realize they are not of God's word) and my heart (to turn back to God and His purpose for my life).

I have always wanted to be a mother, and felt that my roll as a mom of 3 boys 5, 2 and 3 months has not been good as I wanted. But I know God has led me to this book so that I could turn back to Him in all my ways.

Thank you so much for sharing this with all of us and helping us grow into the moms God made us to be.

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  • Momof5
  • 11-04-19

Great read for any mom

This will be a book I will listen to again. Such a good book to listen to as I parent my 5 kids.

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  • Van
  • 01-04-19

Eye Opening

I did this book as a Bible study and it was really eye opening! I was having difficulties after I had my second son and this really helped me to see what my triggers are and how to handle them.

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  • erinrosebud
  • 07-03-19

Wordy, slow and hard to listen to.

Wordy, slow and hard to listen to. No energy, very monotone. i tried several times to like this audiobook.

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  • Utilisateur anonyme
  • 07-03-19

ENCOURAGED AND WISER FOR IT!

Really enjoyed this book. Really felt encouraged and uplifted throughout the whole process of reading it!