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This Is Not About You

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For once, these men are the objects; I am the subject. Me, me, me.

Rosemary Mac Cabe was always a serial monogamist—never happier than when she was in a relationship or, at the very least, on the way to being in one. But in her desperate search for ‘the one’—from first love to first lust, through a series of disappointments and the searing sting of heartbreak—she learned that finding love might mean losing herself along the way.

This Is Not About You is a life story in a series of love stories. About Henry, with the big nose and the lovely mom, with whom sex was like having a verruca frozen off in the doctor’s surgery: ‘uncomfortable, but I had entered into this willingly’. About Dan, with the goatee. About Luke, who gave her a split condom. About Frank, who was married…

But mostly, it’s about Rosemary, figuring out just how much she was willing to sacrifice for her happy ending.

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I loved this book and particularly enjoyed it in the audio format due to the author's own narration, which really brings the story to life with her beautiful Irish accent and dry wit. I laughed out loud at points and was then deeply moved in the final two chapters. Rosemary has a true gift for writing. I am hoping for another book from her as soon as possible!

An amazing book!

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As an Irish woman in my early 40s I can relate so much to the author’s stories about dating and meeting men in Dublin, Ireland. Some chapters seemed a little repetitive at times. Good listen. Would recommend.

Funny, relatable and honest.

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Amazing Read! hope Rosemary's next book Is just as good, I'd highly recommend 👌

amazing

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Great story, a bit low budget on the recording in terms of different sound quality at different times but over all a great juicy little number

Very honest memoir

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Such a great record of dating and navigating all the red flags available out there. Great insight into how us females lose ourselves to accommodate a relationship, how we might jeopardise those all important friendships to fit a man into life and how we tolerate the most awful behaviour. Great lessons shared and to be heeded in a highly entertaining story. I wish Rosemary had even more dating stories to tell as I was sad to be finished it.

Great story that will resonate with all heterosexual women

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