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The State Of Affairs

Rethinking Infidelity - a book for anyone who has ever loved

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 ***THE NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER FROM THE HOST OF HIT PODCAST 'WHERE SHOULD WE BEGIN'***

Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Is it possible to love more than one person at once? Why do people cheat? Can an affair ever help a marriage?

Infidelity is the ultimate betrayal. But does it have to be? Relationship therapist Esther Perel examines why people cheat, and unpacks why affairs are so traumatic; because they threaten our emotional security. In infidelity, she sees something unexpected - an expression of longing and loss.

A must-read for anyone who has ever cheated or been cheated on, or who simply wants a new framework for understanding relationships.

'Esther Perel does nothing short of strip us of our deepest biases, remind us of our purpose in connecting as lovers, and save relationships that might otherwise sink into the sea-all with even-handed wisdom, fresh morality, and wise prose. Thank heavens for this woman.' - Lena Dunham

'Beautiful. A brilliantly intelligent plea for complexity, understanding, and - as always - kindness.' - Alain de Botton

'She's the guru on relationships... she's the first person I ask for advice' - Cara Delevingne

'Wisest sex therapist we ever did meet. Her new book, THE STATE OF AFFAIRS, proposes a new perspective on infidelity' - GRAZIA

'This is a must-have for all married couples and has completely changed my thinking.' - SUNDAY TIMES STYLE©2017 Esther Perel Marriage & Long-Term Partnerships Personal Development Personal Success Relationships Infidelity Marriage Inspiring
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If you could sum up The State of Affairs in three words, what would they be?

A powerful, intrinsic reminder

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From start to finish my partner and I were glued to this book. We played it during a long car journey and the conversations, insights and reflections that we both took away will stay with us for the rest of our lives.

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I loved this book. I am a psychotherapist, but this book is s great book for anyone wanting yo understand relationships better. if you have been part of an affair, been hurt by an affair, thought about the concept of monogamy or just want a better relationship, this book is a must. It's easy to listen to and Esther Perel perfectly captures the emotion in her narration.

Great for anyone interested in relationships

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Insightful, thoughtful & brilliantly honest. Refreshingly frank and thought provoking, I can’t imagine this book not being of use to anyone.

Hooray!

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The uncomfortable yet fascinating thought provoking true book I've ever read . I recommend it wholeheartedly.

everyone who has a relationship should read this !

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Whether you have or have not been affected by infidelity, this book will change your outlook on emotional and intimate connection.

Life changing!!

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