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The School of Life

An Emotional Education
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Emotional intelligence affects every aspect of the way we live, from romantic to professional relationships, from our inner resilience to our social success. It is the ultimate soft skill of the 21st century.  

It is also the core focus area of the hugely successful School of Life organisation, founded and run by reigning master of popular philosophy, Alain de Botton. For 10 years this organisation has offered practical guidance and wisdom, from a team of world class specialists, to ordinary people who want to live better. Now this extraordinary body of work is drawn together, shaped and introduced by de Botton himself, in an encyclopaedia of how we interact with each other and with ourselves, and how we can do so better.

©2019 Alain de Botton (P)2019 Penguin Random House UK

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More Alain needed....

I bought this as I love the works of Alain, but in particular I adore his voice, which is on the sample recording. I was therefore wholly disappointed that this was not actually narrated by him, as his voice is utterly charming and reassuring. Should have just bought the book and imagined it. :-(

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The most imporant book ever written

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I realise what a statement that is. Some people may even take offence, but none is intended. Alain de Botton and The School of Life have managed to produce a work that explains "How our minds work". It is titled "Emotional Intelligence". Reading this has laid my mind at peace on so many levels it is simply wondrous. Our knowledge of our emotional inner selves is so poor it beggars belief.
How come the contents of this book have not been openly, publically taught to us before? It's simple; we still don't talk about our deepest fears and issues. Our emotional wellbeing is not a topic for open discussion; the stigma is still too much for most of us, as they point out.
" it remains markedly strange to imagine that it might be possible - or even necessary - to be educated in our own emotional functioning, for example, that we might need to learn(rather than just know) how to avoid sulking or how to interpret our griefs, how to choose a partner or make oneself understood by a colleague."
The book is simply brilliant at breaking down how WE ALL work. This is not a self-help book in my view; it is The self-help book!
It is the first time I have ever come across a book that clearly explains how to think about YOUR personal life, how similar we all are and how to make sense of the myriad thoughts, fears, concerns, obsessions and failings with which we are all preoccupied.
"Our emotions, if left unexamined and unschooled, are liable to lead us into some profoundly counter-productive situations in regard to our love choices, our careers, our friendships and the management of our own moods."
Everyone should read this.
To understand your parents.
To understand why you are the way you are.
To understand everyone else
To help children have a better life
To make the world a better place.


I wish I had been taught this in school.
Why isn't this taught in school?


Being honest I didn't read the book, I listened to it on Audible, which I recommend as having it read to you makes most complex texts a lot easier to digest I find.


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Well explained and well referenced!

This book will help the listener accept, at least in part, some of the chaos we live within. We’re all a bit of a nitwit, and Alain de Botton explains how that’s a good thing.
10/10 would listen again.

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Funny and wise: all we want to be.

Funny and wise: all we want to be. Articulates the home truths we all know but never admit in a gentle, understanding coaxing way.

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Required Listening for All

This is a mind blowing book that everyone should read. Details the human experience beautiful and gives you tangible advice on how to handle and avoid it's inevitable struggles. Easily accessible yet deeply profound!

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Why???

My first question when reading this book was, why on earth has no one told me this before?
This is all the more bewildering as I am a trained psychiatrist.
This book deals head-on with the most complex and universal issues of our lives, such as love, disappointment, expectations. It is truly amazing that these things do not figure on our school curriculum.
At the end there is perhaps an over-reliance on finding wisdom in the arts, especially the visual arts. I think that can feel alienating to some, but this book remains, by far and away, the best attempt I have read on guidance to living a wise life. I’m grateful for what it has added to my life, and perhaps even to my patients’ lives.

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Fantastic!

Important nuggets of age old as well as modern wisdom cleverly organized and ordered to be useful for all of us average human beings. Also charmingly delivered to be understood accepted and some of the most important concepts put into action in our everyday lives. The book has as a goal to change and rather to improve our outlook on life. It explains with some degree of useful oversimplification complex conundrums of everyday existence.

Should definitely be read/heard by anyone who want to be able to better tackle life as a whole.

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A user manual for human beings! Amazing

What a brilliantly insightful book.
This is a humble yet superb user manual for human beings.
It should be a set text in secondary education.

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No emotional education

This book on emotional education comes down to this: pessimism and the valuing of accepting your lot in a life of misery.

Some message.

This book does what liberal 20th/21st century thinkers all do: it knows that life is dissatisfaction, makes no attempt to really, deeply understand why, and then offers absolutely no message of hope or optimism or betterment. It simply offers a limp, stagnant, toothless acceptance of a nihilistic worldview. This isn’t emotional or philosophical or religious, this is simply banality wrapped as profundity.

A hugely disappointing and pessimistic take on what it is to be human. There is also nothing profound, original or deep here either. It is just what you’d expect from an atomised, extremely rich and rootless member of the liberal intelligentsia.

For a REAL emotional education I’d recommend the work of B Alan Wallace, Matthieu Ricard, Osho and others who combine respect for western science with Buddhism and Buddhist mindfulness meditation.

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We are all understandably fucked up, this book helps you understand why.

It also made me laugh when the delightful Charlie Hanson delivered rude words with such eloquence. Well done to all the writers for their insightful and generous wisdom.

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  • M.Inés Bustamante
  • 16-01-20

Descubrimiento

Excelente obra. Me ha dado una vision renovada para comprender la vida de una manera mas humana. Quisiera seguir de cerca al autor.
Espero pronto este disponible en español

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  • 10-10-19

amazing

best book I've ever read about life, Button is a genius at showing reality in simple, clear ways