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  • The Emotionally Absent Mother

  • How to Recognize and Heal the Invisible Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect, Second Edition
  • By: Jasmin Lee Cori MS LPC
  • Narrated by: Emily Durante
  • Length: 8 hrs and 49 mins
  • 4.7 out of 5 stars (61 ratings)

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By: Jasmin Lee Cori MS LPC
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Summary

The groundbreaking guide to self-healing and getting the love you missed.

Was your mother preoccupied, distant, or even demeaning? Have you struggled with relationships - or with your own self-worth? Often, the grown children of emotionally absent mothers can't quite put a finger on what's missing from their lives. The children of abusive mothers, by contrast, may recognize the abuse - but overlook its lasting, harmful effects. Psychotherapist Jasmin Lee Cori has helped thousands of men and women heal the hidden wounds left by every kind of undermothering. In this second edition of her pioneering book, with compassion for mother and child alike, she explains:

  • Possible reasons your mother was distracted or hurtful - and what she was unable to give
  • The lasting impact of childhood emotional neglect and abuse
  • How to find the child inside you and fill the "mother gap" through reflections and exercises
  • How to secure a happier future for yourself (and perhaps for your children)

©2017 Jasmin Lee Cori (P)2017 Tantor

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"This book is a revelation to those of us whose mothering was short of what we needed." (Connie Dawson, PhD, coauthor of Growing up Again)

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This book held answers for me

I found this book very accessible and it answered a lot of questions I had about my upbringing. It has opened more doors of emotion than I expected but it also gives some very practical exercises to help. I'd definitely recommend this book if you're on your emotional journey of healing. Thank you

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so helpful

I have been working on this mother wound area for a long time. this book hits the mark so well. I feel it is a useful book no matter at what point of the journey a daughter is at. even just bringing the wound in to conscious awareness is healing. Also the validation of the book was really empowering to me, and the understanding we can heal without our mums taking an active role (or any role for that matter).

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Amazing book!

Highly recommended if you are in the path of personal growing. It has practical exercises and very well detail examples. I love it.

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Very important book

Eye opening and very easy to follow. I have also now ordered the physical book so that I can do the exercises

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Amazing book. No other book needed on the subject

I wish I found this book 10 years ago. It would have saved me from so much pain. I'm still a better person because of this book. Great insights. Thought provoking. Wonderful writing. Appreciate the authors examples and clear way of expressing the points. A pleasure to read and re-read

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Enlightening

This book clarified so much for me, I would recommend to anyone who is at least wondering if they were brought up by such a parent. It made me look at my behaviour as a mother too. Lots of ideas on how to tackle the issues arising as a result, although anything severe will need therapy, as the book says.

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eye-opening book

Really good book for anyone to read and understand why they behave in different ways.

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Deep and thoughtful

If you are stuck and need to get clearer understanding in the process of coming to terms with mothering related issues/trauma. This might just help you get some clarity.

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An awakening and confirmation

… sadly I learnt so much from this book and for many years thought my instincts were wrong. But now after much emotional turmoil I can move on and learn about how I can be my own mother. My belief was you were born and you raised yourself. I wonder if my own mother has Asperger’s. It’s brilliant and I’ll listen again. And I can’t wait to be my own best mum. Thank you x

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Just an another heal your inner child book

This book wasn't quite what I expected it to be. Only few first chapters concentrated briefly on these mothers themselves. Briefly explained what psychological disorders these mothers usually exhibit. There is not much of info about the things the mother might do wrong and hardly any examples. Another chapters give overview on what therapies are available and what's most common approach versus more controversial approaches in therapies. And rest of the book is description of exercises one should do to explore why did we get hurt and trying to find out any helpful advocacy for the hurtful mother's behavior towards us. As I was not looking for self help workbook narration I was disappointed by the half of the book when I realized that's probably all I'm able to source out of it. It however didn't teach me at all how to be good mother for my children and what mistakes I have done previously. It just reminded me of how much bad I felt as a child when my mother was with me anytime anywhere and how anxious I felt when my main caregiver left me every evening with her. Probably I just realized where my social anxiety came from and confirmed I'm a victim of narcissistic mother and even I understand why she is like that and what kind of childhood trauma she had endured this book isn't helpful to resolve it. The author herself warns the reader that doing these exercises all alone without therapist can be dangerous and triggering. So its kind of self advertisement book I guess. Its not a book I would read over and over again or recommend to my friends to read.

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