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Summary

Still struggling from the effects of a narcissistic or psychopathically abusive relationship?

Many people do and sadly there is very little information available to be found online or in the written research, or with counsellors and therapists that can help. Narcissistic Victim Syndrome is not officially recognised, nor is it widely even known.

Even when it is accepted, recognised, and known, not many people seem to know what to do about it to heal it...The fact is being in a relationship with a narcissist over a long period of time has long lasting traumatic effects that can be extremely catastrophic to the person suffering them.

Do the following symptoms sound familiar?

  • Ruined self confidence
  • Doubting yourself and your sanity
  • Mood swings
  • Sleeplessness
  • Extreme weight loss or weight gain
  • Uncharacteristic jealousy/ insecurity
  • Feeling like you don’t know the difference between right and wrong
  • Extreme paranoia (being turned into an obsessive detective)
  • Endless, repetitive obsessive thinking about your ex
  • Constantly trying to find explanations for what has happened
  • Feelings of helplessness and despair
  • A desire to self isolate
  • Feeling desperately misunderstood
  • Overwhelming feelings of loss and grief
  • Extreme bouts of rage
  • An inability to be comfortable with yourself
  • Strange dreams

The list goes on...

Covert Narcissists dangle their vulnerability in front of you as bait, just waiting for your good nurturing mothering/fathering instincts to kick in and rescue the poor little lost child they are presenting to you.

But beneath the mask of a shy, vulnerable and “good person” something far more sinister lurks.

And this what makes covert narcissism so damaging and dangerous: The nature of the disorder is such that you are brainwashed into thinking you are dealing with a human being with a morality, perhaps even a “pillar of the community”.

©2019 Gd Publishing Ltd (P)2020 Gd Publishing Ltd

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everyone should read this book

This book is written in a clear concise way. the author captured so much if my experience that I had no words for. it is a very liberating and useful tool. It is the best book on this topic that i have cone across. excellent.

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Thank you

This has got to be the best audio I have listened to about covert narcissist
Anyone been or going through life with a covert must read this.
Thank you so much x

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Thank you for your book ! I discovered some traits

Thank you for your book ! I discovered some traits of covert narcissism on me, I also have bpd and ptsd. What can I do to overcome all of this? I am willing to change! Is there hope for becoming a better person?

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Thank you for this book.

Thank you for this book. This helps me explain to family and friends. The covert narcissist is hard to identify and therefore as a survivor it’s equally hard to explain to others.
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How do people with covert narcissism react ..

How do people with covert narcissism react when they realize they have this? Good One.

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Thank you for all you do!

Thank you for all you do! Please consider a book on BPD in and exacerbated by chronic illness, invisible illness and the effects on BPD of being dismissed and judged. Thank you!

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Love this.

Love this.I think you just described every single SJW in the world. Very happy to have this book.

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This was awesome ..

This was awesome as it showed how all narcissist including covert act in certain situations.

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Narcissists often have this erroneous belief that

Narcissists often have this erroneous belief that they deserve to be with other people who are special, and those special people are the ONLY ones who can appreciate them fully. But, as soon as you do something that disappoints them, they could turn on you and usually you’ll have no idea of exactly what you did. They have this excessive interest or admiration of themselves and they’re very toxic!.

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I never realized my mother was a covert narcissist until I went to counseling..Good Book

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  • 06-11-20

The covert narcissist

This is the best book I have ever read on this subject. For the first time I don’t feel like I’m crazy. I have been in a relationship with one of these for 37 yrs. There’s not much left of me at this point but at least now I know I’m not imagining things. It read like I wrote it myself.

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  • Anthony Tin
  • 03-04-20

An uplifting perspective

I was down on myself for becoming entangled with a covert narcissist, believing myself to be dysfunctional and defective in some way. I mean, why else would she have chosen me? Like attracts like right? But this book showed me how false that belief was. I now realise that I am not defective, but actually the opposite. It highlighted what I've always felt deep down about myself. That I am strong, and always have been. Thank you for sharing this important perspective and allowing me to heal.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 05-04-20

This book is exactly what I needed.

I couldn’t have described it better myself. I now can put my finger on it and just being able to define him has helped me tremendously. This book is exactly what I needed.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 15-03-21

BURPING AT THE END OF CHAPTER 7 on Audible

VERY UNPROFESSIONAL. Listening to this book on Audible at the end of chapter 7 there is a brief pause by the reader, followed by a sigh, smacking and a loud belch/burp.
On such a serious topic this is insensitive to the listener and unprofessional. It made me question the seriousness of the author on the topic.
Positives. It was helpful to identify detailed characteristics and relationship traits of covert narcissism. I did however fell there was a heavy emphasis on the “victim” of the narcissist. Without taking into consideration how that person got into the relationship to begin with. We are only prey to narcissism when we understand ourselves and where we came from. Understanding m the signs & manipulation of narcissism is invaluable and this author provides validation to people in these abusive relationships. But it’s also important to identify why we are vulnerable to such relationships and how to set healthy boundaries with everyone. Only then will we not repeat those relationships with someone else.

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  • Paul G. Carter
  • 04-04-20

Good Book..

Great lists of narc traits translated into the covert variety. You will recognize your narc. More importantly you will recognize the damage done by them, the road to healing, and your own inner beauty. Extremely encouraging and hearable.

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  • Vanessa
  • 16-02-21

Don’t read this

I feel for the author, sounds like a hard relationship and I’m grateful for their story. My partner and I read this book and were a little co concerned with the labels, tone and conclusions. This is not written by a professional at all. It makes things sounds like facts or truths that are just anecdotal and opinions. It paints the picture that the goal in life is to rid yourself of people who behave like this and cancel them out of your life. The danger in this is it doesn’t require you to look in the mirror yourself and realize many of these things are within both partners. I fear for people to read this and make drastic decisions that impact their relationship and life. I am sure these element within this story are apart of many people’s relationship and they can work together towards healthy patterns. Where I feel this book can be dangerous is that it villianize the covert and says they can not change or grow. Both my partner and I have grown and changed so much in our relationship. We look back and see how our communication had many toxic components to it and we got help, grew and changed. We are both different people because of the to willingness and vulnerably of an honest hard conversations. I do not think this book is helpful and only create confusion for those looking for resources in relationship.

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  • Veronica Martin
  • 21-01-21

I gain knowledge and understanding of a covert nar

This book helped me to understand some of the things that, I suffered over a 16-year period and I couldn't quite put my finger on, what the problem was constant trauma constant pain and constant abuse and always make an excuse for the abuser

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  • Anonymous User
  • 05-04-20

I look forward to living my own life knowing...

I look forward to living my own life knowing the truth of who I really am. A good person with compassion toward others and the ability to give and receive real love. Thanks to Theresa's commitment toward helping others to recover, I will forever be grateful.

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  • Some guy
  • 17-05-21

Skip it. Read another

There are too many good books on the subject. This is not one of them. Skip it.

There are no unique incites

The translation is about a google translate level ( this was translated to English right? It must have been)

The performer is lackluster and should have caught the mistranslations but was clearly not paying any attention to what she read. Far too easy to become background noise.

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  • Debra Bunger
  • 18-02-21

Excellent summary of CN. Also empowering

Nothing mew here, for those of us who have been studying this toxic disorder, but written and summarized succinctly and effectively. I did not care doe the reader’s voice but that is personal preference. I thought the reader was a bit too dramatic.

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