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The Connected Child

Bring Hope and Healing to Your Adoptive Family
Narrated by: Anna Crowe
Length: 6 hrs and 49 mins
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"An extremely useful parenting handbook... truly outstanding...strongly recommended." (Library Journal, starred review)

"A tremendous resource for parents and professionals alike." (Thomas Atwood, President and CEO, National Council for Adoption)

The adoption of a child is always a joyous moment in the life of a family. Some adoptions, though, present unique challenges. Welcoming these children into your family - and addressing their special needs - requires care, consideration, and compassion.

Written by two research psychologists specializing in adoption and attachment, The Connected Child will help you:

  • Build bonds of affection and trust with your adopted child
  • Effectively deal with any learning or behavioral disorders
  • Discipline your child with love without making him or her feel threatened

"A must-read not only for adoptive parents, but for all families striving to correct and connect with their children." (Carol S. Kranowitz, author of The Out-of-Sync Child)

"Drs. Purvis and Cross have thrown a life preserver not only to those just entering uncharted waters, but also to those struggling to stay afloat." (Kathleen E. Morris, editor of S. I. Focus magazine)

"Truly an exceptional, innovative work...compassionate, accessible, and founded on a breadth of scientific knowledge and clinical expertise." (Susan Livingston Smith, Program Director, Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute)

"The Connected Child is the literary equivalent of an airline oxygen mask and instructions: Place the mask over your own face first, then over the nose of your child. This book first assists the parent, saying, in effect, 'Calm down, you're not the first mom or dad in the world to face this hurdle, breathe deeply, then follow these simple steps.' The sense of not facing these issues alone - the relief that your child's behavior is not off the charts - is hugely comforting. Other children have behaved this way; other parents have responded thusly; welcome to the community of therapeutic and joyful adoptive families." (Melissa Fay Greene, author of There Is No Me Without You: One Woman's Odyssey to Rescue Africa's Children)

©2007 Karyn B. Purvis, David R. Cross, Wendy Lyons Sunshine (P)2019 McGraw-Hill Education

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Best book I read on parenting

Has a foster parent I keep reading to find answer tip and strategy that could help me. This is the best and most comprehensive I read so far. Thank you for making it an audio format. Has I don’t read very fast.

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very good

Excellent advise and examples of situations likely to be experienced through the adoption process. Easy to listen to and provides great support

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  • Brian
  • 19-10-19

very insightful

a must-read for any teacher professional or parent who is in contact with hard to reach child.

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  • John
  • 01-06-19

A must read for all parents, bio, Foster and adopt

this book is a must-read for biological parents foster parents and adoptive parents! Will read again.

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  • Jennifer M.
  • 29-05-19

Stop and take s breath

I am a huge fan of Dr Purvis and was super excited when this book came out on audio. I’m only disappointed that the narrator is edited so that there are not more clearly defined breaks when starting a new heading. Concepts get run together. Just a short 5 second pause in editing would be more effective and easier to shift topics for the listener.

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  • Jenilyn Gilbert
  • 13-03-19

Most helpful book on adoption

I’ve read many books on adoption and this has been the most informative. There is also a sense of compassion for the adoptive parents that other books seem to lack.

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  • Lcskinnyb
  • 18-10-19

So glad I read this

I am just about to be licensed to foster and I am so glad I read this. The author gives many practical tools to respond in a trauma informed way. I would recommend this to any person considering mentoring children - parents, teachers, church staff could all benefit from this knowledge.

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  • DeAnna
  • 04-09-19

Changed the way I'm parenting and connecting

I took my time with this book and listened a little at a time so the truth could really sink in. As a mother of three adopted special-needs children this book gave me the courage to keep trying and tweak/change the way I'm doing things! To not give up and have hope. The information on the child's brain is so interesting and valuable, fueling compassion & understanding. My relationships with my children havd grown stronger and healthier as I practice what Karyn Purvis has taught. What a remarkable woman whose legacy has changed the world with her compassion & understanding for kids from hard places.

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  • Drop of Ash
  • 18-07-19

Good info for any parent

This book is mandatory reading for a fostering agency we're going through and for good reason. I enjoyed the information and the presentation. I'd recommend this book for anyone who has difficult children, fostered or not, especially those with sensory processing issues.

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  • Anna L.
  • 18-01-20

Great Book!

As a former adoption social worker, I can say I would definitely recommend this book to parents adopting special needs children. I would however emphasize to them that no one book can solve all problems and books should be used to support and inform professional advice and therapy, not replace it as the book seems to suggest. I also thought more emphasis should have been placed on the role of loss and grief in adoption, and how it shapes behaviors and parenting. The "adoption triad" concept was never mentioned. For these reasons I gave an overall rating of 4 out of 5. The narration was excellent and the real life examples of children and family situations really hit home.

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  • Titlow Beach Mama
  • 30-12-19

This should be required reading

I am the parent of 4 children, three of whom were adopted via fostercare.
I wish that this book would have been part of the foster/adoptive parent preparation classes. I have been a very mindful parent, but I would have done somethings very differently in the early stages of building relationships with my kids had I read this book before hand.
I highly recommend this book for parents, educators, therapists and anyone who works directly with children from difficult places.

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  • All Is Well
  • 24-12-19

Powerful Guidance that Helps Immediately!

If you are a foster or adoptive parent for a child from a difficult background, this book will give you clear, actionable ways to help your child and family live a better life. It's helped us tremendously!