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Stop being a people pleaser! Learn to set boundaries and say no to people - without feeling guilty!

Are you fed up with people taking advantage of you? Are you tired of coworkers, friends, and family members demanding your time and expecting you to give it to them?

If so, The Art of Saying No is for you.

Imagine being able to turn down requests and decline invitations with confidence and poise. Imagine saying no to people asking you for favors, and inspiring their respect in the process.

Download The Art of Saying No: How to Stand Your Ground, Reclaim Your Time and Energy, and Refuse to Be Taken for Granted (Without Feeling Guilty!)

Amazon best-selling author Damon Zahariades provides a step-by-step, strategic guide for setting boundaries and developing the assertiveness you need to maintain them. You'll learn how to say no in every situation, at home and in the workplace, according to your convictions. And best of all, you'll discover how to get your friends, family members, bosses, coworkers, and neighbors to respect your boundaries and recognize your personal authority.

In The Art of Saying No, you'll discover:

  • My personal struggle with being a people pleaser (and how I overcame the habit!)
  • The top 11 reasons we tend to say yes, when we know we should say no
  • 10 simple strategies for turning people down with finesse
  • Why saying no to people doesn't make you a bad person (the opposite is true!)
  • The best way to develop the habit of setting personal and professional boundaries
  • How to know whether you're a people pleaser (and how to gauge the severity of the problem)

©2017 Damon Zahariades (P)2017 Damon Zahariades

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So so..

Wasn't bad... Good suggestions and ideas for me to apply now. Is harder in reality.. But is good to take in consideration the suggestions. 😍

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Really drives home the point

Great book
Short and sweet.
Gives you practical strategies that you can execute straightaway.
Above all - it just resets your mindset !

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Great book. Simple and useful to start reversing some bad habits.

If you want to start reversing some bad habits this book is a good start.

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Great book, Insightful and challenging and very helpful

Highlights the importance of saying no and establishing boundaries assertively and courteously to help you work towards achieving your priorities.No can be such an empowering word for the recipient of the no. Highly recommended for people feeling overwhelmed with heavy schedules or feel like they are doing too much.

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Just didn't get to the point.

just tell me which lines to use. Thats all i need to know. Too many examples, literally don't even know what to say. Did not learn anything 🙈

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Great book!

Just the right length, lots of info and tips without saying the same thing over and over like some other books of this type. Really enjoyed it

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It could help some, but it was lacking

The book had potential and some elements were very good. However, it is far too short and I never really appreciate adverts in a book I've bought.
worth a read, but don't think it'll change your world

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Inspiring, had more potential

I feel a lot better reading this, but I wanted more research in the book.

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Confusing and full of contradictions

I wanted to love this book but found it very difficult to follow. Say a simple no/don’t use the word no, don’t give an excuse/give a reason etc.

I think the author meant to offer different approaches to different scenarios but this wasn’t made very clear.

He spends a lot more time talking about what not to say rather than giving great examples of what to say.

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Important book to enhance your self-image

Digestible, practical, and with good examples. I recommend it to people who struggle to say no in general life, although the book covers different aspects in life, but not in advance way.

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  • 08-02-18

Good listening

Compulsive “yes” to every request is not my problem, rather finding nice ways to decline unnecassary requests from zero-tolerance people. I did find parts of the book useful for that, especially regarding respectful “no’s”. It was good to listen to.

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  • Jacques A. Simon
  • 21-09-17

Don't Waste Your Time

This book is generic. You've already heard or concluded everything the author has to say. I feel like I could have wrote something better. Very little insight is offered on this subject by this book. Not worth the time. It may be good for junior high or high school kids but not adults with a lot life experience. Furthermore, the assertiveness problems the author presents is only from a first world privileged position i.e. Someone getting your order wrong at Starbucks. Really? There's real issues in the world. I recommend reading Brene Brown's books instead. Her honesty through vulnerability approach to solving people pleasing has been working well for me. Save your money or audible credits!

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  • Fred Bunsa
  • 07-10-17

Assertiveness is a Muscle

A thorough treatment if how to recognize if you are a people-pleaser and need to grow in assertiveness, and then everyday ways to practice building that muscle (hint: start with low resistance and work your way up the stack). Simple but not easy. Well done.

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  • Rahul Vartak
  • 20-09-17

Awesome!

Very well written and equally well presented. The strategies listed here are simple and yet very workable!

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  • Stephen
  • 17-10-19

Extremely beneficial. Highly recommended.

Extremely beneficial. Highly recommended for anyone who wants to learn how to say no with confidence, in their personal life, employment, and in business. One of the important lessons I learned from this book is that the saying YES to people and perceived opportunities which not in line with your goals it’s saying YES to yourself.

Thank you, Damon. Great work!

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  • 27-03-18

Great book.

Great book on this topic. I highly recommend it to everyone who struggles with this.

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  • A. Karode
  • 28-06-22

Great book with helpful tips

Found great & helpful tips. I will recommend my family. I wish there were more tips on ‘Boss’ section.:)

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  • Paragon Enterprises
  • 14-06-22

Very Helpful Indeed

“I don’t write reviews on Amazon.”

See how effective the book was?

Honestly though, this book was very helpful in showing me ways to decline requests without going too far or being needlessly cold once finally frustrated.

This book is good for putting out smaller fires before they become larger ones.

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  • LaNeva Turner
  • 06-06-22

This book was amazing !

This book was amazing and blessed me dearly now I speak up and say no to people 🙌🏽

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 27-05-22

Succinct

This book was short and to the point. It had a lot of helpful tips!