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Summary

Do you feel like you are talking and talking, and your partner is never listening?

Do you feel like you keep saying the same thing over and over again?

Does your partner make promises, only to break or betray your trust repeatedly?

Is your partner controlling or just plain mean?

Have you read every relationship book out there, practiced your communication skills, and still feel unheard or neglected?

Are you done with second chances?

Should you stay or should you go?

We live in a world of romance and rescue - where everyone believes love will conquer all, and the more we put up with, the more loving we are being. It doesn't work that way. Sometimes we choose mean people, and before long we are in so deep, we don't know whether we are coming or going. One day you want to fight harder, and the next day you are ready to pack it in, and the next day you want to fight harder.

Should I Stay or Should I Go? is a survival manual, a guidebook, and a shot of reality. Some people will never change, and kissing frogs is the stuff of fairy tales, not real life. The Beast never turns out to be a nice guy (or gal). This is a book that breaks down what mean people do to us, how they do it, and what we can do to survive.

©2015 Post Hill Press (P)2015 Post Hill Press

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Very useful audio book, thank you Dr Ramani

Very useful audio book, thank you Dr Ramani, especially for recording this yourself! One minor comment; as a male 'reader' coming out of a relationship I struggled a little as you refer to the male as the narcissistic partner throughout the book!

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Hard to hear.

If you want a reason to leave listen to this, if not don't. One person's narcissist is another's life partner.

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Definitely worth the read

This book is well set out, meaningful and in depth. I'd highly recommend to anyone in a relationship with a narcissist.

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  • 21-06-16

An absolute insight into the mind of a narcissist

..and an arsenal of advice on how to survive them. This book is a must-read.

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This book is everything you need!!

Objective, precise and straight to the point. it's a life saving tool for victims and a source of knowledge for professionals in the field

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A great overview of narcissism

The book provides a good overview of narcissism and specifies traits. However I felt the book geared towards leaving the relationship. It only had one chapter of staying in the relationship.
I would’ve like to see equal measures of this without imposing leaving to the reader.

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A game changing book

A clear , thorough , thoughtful, calm work providing absolute clarity on this subject . Thank you for your hard work Dr R

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Excellent book !!!

Loved it ! Would recommend to anyone who live with Narcissists. There so many advices, I wish this book was written 20 years ago.

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Great book

Narrated by the author herself which is great , best book I listened on Audible and definitely a must read for those people that want to understand narcissism . Do not think twice about getting it ! Thankyou Dr Durvasula

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if you've experienced abuse, listen to this book.

if you have, or are experiencing abuse then you need to read thos book! get the audio and the written book.

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  • 18-08-16

Wake up call !

This audio book really hit home for me. It was like it was a story about my life, literally. I now realize how and why I have been suffering for decades. I knew something was wrong but didn't realize the extent of it. Listening to this book on audio was more powerful than reading it because hearing Dr Durvasula beautifully explain herself really was empowering for me. Also, listening to this book in the privacy of my car while driving about was much safer than being caught by my narcissist with such a book in my possession. Thank you!

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  • Darren E from Toronto
  • 06-06-16

This should be your Primary Guide dealing with a Narcissistic Relationship

If I were to purchase one book to deal with this subject matter, this would be the book. It is clear, concise, and very accurate to all other information I have researched in this field.

For me this book is the Bible for trying to figure out how to recover from a soul destroying relationship with a narcissist. It has been incredibly helpful and I will refer to it again and again. I cannot recommend it enough.

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  • 22-07-17

Helped me immensely

I had already read at least 5 books on narcissistic personality disorder but none were as clear as this one. I love that it is based on research but still very interesting. I also love that she does not come off as judgmental in any way. It's very well-organized facts that make so much sense. The book is written with compassion as well. I can't say enough about it.

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  • 16-01-19

This is By FAR THE BEST BOOK ON NARCISISM EVER

Dr, Druvasula, explains in so much detail the syndrome that can help you pin point exactly all the behaviors, characteristics and trends of the narcissist as well as how those affect you. One of the most valuable things compared to any other books its that She gives you the tools to deal with the narcissist if for some reason you decide or must keep them in your life. Tools to protect your self and your own self worth.

Extremely recommended to anyone.

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  • Mary Meeker
  • 29-07-19

In Shock

It is hard to listen to this book. I felt sick to my stomach by what has happened over 20 years in my marriage. This hits directly to the core issues of Narcissism.

I believe that personality disorders should be taught much earlier in life. I am well into my 50’s and just learning more about this. I cannot believe I was so blind.

The author makes excellent points and it will only get worse as we head into a world of instant gratification.

Thank you for your work here, it has opened my eyes. With greatest appreciation.

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  • alina c
  • 22-04-19

Exceptional

A must read book if you are dealing with a narcisist.
It will change your life for the better !

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  • AA75
  • 18-06-18

The best on “narcissistic disorder”

I am a victim of a narcissist... I could not understand what was happening to me and had no idea that such people exist...
Oh, boy... they do exist...
this book will open your eyes...
This book will be very helpful to anyone!!!
I HIGHLY recommend it!!!!

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 31-01-19

Iam absolutely speechless!!!!

Tears of relief. When I lost all hope, I will survive!!! Absolutely worth every bit!!! Thank you so much. Headphones never left my ears once I started until it was completely finished. I have my life back!!!! Astonishing in every way possible. This book gave me my Hope's dreams and sanity back all with still understanding my narc and having compassion for him, as he is a human too. Always love yourself. My life will be forever changed, as I opened my eyes for the first time in 12 years. Tears, tears and more tears are streaming down my face, as I celebrate my freedom once again!!!!!

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  • Jessica Cotten
  • 29-12-16

Only book that breaks down BOTH options!!

Great book, I loved that it gave both options, & so true what you'll face if you stay in "survival mode". I think it would literally kill me, it almost has. I pray one day soon I'll be grateful he's gone. It's fear of failure, but he eventually always tore me down anyway, no matter how hard I tried. I've come back a lot already, & I'm guessing within the next year I'll be grateful I'm out of the decade & a half of hell. To a better life!

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  • 28-01-19

Totally Accurate, Completely Helpful

This is one of the most comprehensive books on the subject I've read, and I've gone through a lot of them trying to figure out this relationship. Completely non-judgemental, very informative, and totally accurate. This one is a must for anyone living under the dark cloud of narcissism, and is probably also good for anyone living with BPD or comorbid disorders.

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