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  • The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman
  • By: Ian Kerner
  • Narrated by: Ian Kerner
  • Length: 4 hrs and 35 mins
  • 4.1 out of 5 stars (387 ratings)
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She Comes First

By: Ian Kerner
Narrated by: Ian Kerner
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Summary

As women everywhere will attest, when it comes to understanding female sexuality, most guys know more about what's under the hood of a car than under the hood of a clitoris. And while it seems that men have struggled valiantly since the dawn of time to find ways to reliably elicit the female orgasm, rare is the guy who has the modesty to ask: "What do I do?" Ironically, the answer has always been right there on the tip of his tongue.

Welcome to the world of She Comes First, where the mystery of female satisfaction is solved and the tongue is proven mightier than the sword. According to Ian Kerner, clinical sexologist and evangelist of the female orgasm, oral sex has long been deemed an optional aspect of foreplay, but, in fact, it's coreplay: simply the best way for leading a woman through the entire process of sexual response.

Fun, informative, and easy to read, She Comes First is a virtual encyclopedia of female pleasure, detailing dozens of tried-and-true techniques for consistently satisfying a woman and step-by-step instructions to ensure success. These simple methods represent a new era in sexual intimacy, one in which the exchange of pleasure occurs on a level playing field and fulfillment is mutual.

She Comes First exuberantly offers a fresh new sexual philosophy that inspires every man to make a mantra of Rhett Butler's infamous line to Scarlett O'Hara, "You should be kissed, and often, and by someone who knows how."

For Adults Only: Explicit language. Must be 18 years of age to purchase.

For Adults Only: You must be 18 years or older to purchase.

©2004 Ian Kerner (P)2005 HarperCollins Publishers, Inc.

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"An entire book written strictly for the pleasure of women by a man. Hallelujah!" ( Playgirl)

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My wife says this is the best book I've ever read.

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Get another narrater

There are some good tips and tricks on this book. However, Ian Kerner needs to find someone else to read it. The subject matter is about something intimate and wonderful but it's delivered with all the romantic subtlety of a jack hammer. The prose are as purple as can be and it takes five hours to say what could probably be said in two, due to the unbelievable amount of repetition. There are many better books than this so give it a wide birth

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Information is good. Narrator not so much.

The information in the book is interesting and potentially helpful. However, the narrator of the audiobook has quite an annoying voice, and we can hear him swallowing, fidgeting, and even his stomach rumbling! He speaks in quite a monotone and doesn't actually sound particularly enthusiastic about what he is saying. I would recommend the written version over the audiobook.

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great remainder to take your time....

Thank you buddy! this book helped me to understand women's mechanism. ...and remained me to take my time !!!! I'm once again I'm one of the happiest man on earth.... she said "please stop I can't any more"
will recommend this book to any one!!

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Crucial to a guy's (or lesbian's) education

It my my second time going through this book. The school education skips many key learning points. Some i fill with documentaries on Netflix about how to take care of the planet and body. This is a key learning point for how to take care of my lover's body and orgasms. It has many for a more confident self in everything I do not just sex.

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good book, but the first few capters could be skip

a good book, but with audio books, no pictures or diagrams fail to add value to the instructions. Then again we do have the internet and there's a detailed picture \ diagram for everything. Not a bad book overall. worth a purchase. If it helps keep the spark a live, isn't it worth a purchase

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So disappointing

Picked this up thinking, "Ah we could all do with a few tips". Wow, the tone alone this guy is talking with. Alot of generalising men's intentions with sex and our general attitude towards it.

It is completely focusing on oral sex which is great but you have to put up with his babble for the first part of the book to get to anything actually useful.

There's so many more ways to get this information faster and more efficiently than through this. Do not waste your time.

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Sit down, listen up and learn the secret.

To say this book does what it says on the tin is an understatement. Without trying to sound like some sort of Casanova this foolproof step by step model has changed my sex life completely, she comes first, second, third, fourth, tenth. There’s not one woman it doesn’t work on, some take longer than others but it always works so be patient and communicate just like the book says. I’ve recommended this to others and they can’t believe the results and differences aswell, don’t think twice just go for it and thank me later.

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Loved this!!

Empowering, thought provoking, so detailed. All in all , sooooooooo good to read this as a woman. My boyfriend is reading it now. delighted!! thank you!

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good guide

listen to in two days, nice short parts so easy to follow. fingers crossed the advice works

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