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Summary

Janet Lansbury is unique among parenting experts. As an RIE teacher and student of pioneering child specialist Magda Gerber, her advice is not based solely on formal studies and the research of others, but also on her 20 years of hands-on experience guiding hundreds of parents and their toddlers. No Bad Kids is a collection of Janet's most popular and widely read articles pertaining to common toddler behaviors and how respectful parenting practices can be applied to benefit both parents and children. It covers such common topics as punishment, cooperation, boundaries, testing, tantrums, hitting, and more. No Bad Kids provides a practical, indispensable tool for parents who are anticipating or experiencing those critical years when toddlers are developmentally obliged to test the limits of our patience and love. Armed with knowledge and a clearer sense of the world through our children's eyes, this period of uncertainty can afford a myriad of opportunities to forge unbreakable bonds of trust and respect.

©2014 Janet Lansbury (P)2014 Janet Lansbury

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A must read for all parents and carriers of toddlers

A well written and read book that is to the point with clear examples. Buy this book before you buy any other.

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  • 24-02-17

A poorly assembled collection of blog posts

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The core thesis of this book can be summarised as: accord your child's feelings, opinions, needs and wants with the same respect you would give any other persons. This is a compelling proposition, I've read the primary research that substantiates it and, because my initial, uninformed opinion was more "authoritarian", I've seen the happy, emotionally mature and thoughtful children its progressive adoption has created in my own family.

So the idea behind this book is good. But the book itself is terrible and best described as a "listicle of listicles". As the introduction notes, the content is mostly sourced from the author's blog posts and it shows in the low quality book that results.

Consisting of about 30-35k words, the book is divided into 35 short chapters. Whilst these are loosely grouped into themes it's hard to find an arc to the book. Certainly none is articulated. What's more, most of the individual articles are themselves nothing more than lists. Whether it's inability, lack of effort or a genuine, unarticulated impossibility, the author has not attempted to synthesise any overall conclusions or connect chapter to chapter. The resulting text is, quite literally, a list of lists:

"Chapter 1. First, XXX. Second, YYY. Third, ZZZ. Etc"

Some of the more interesting content are the letters from parents with the author's response. Whilst the responses almost always devolve to a list, prefaced with "Dear" and suffixed with "Warmly", the case example provided by the initiating letter provide context to an otherwise platitudinous flow of words.

And this is the deeper problem. Whilst I agree with the author's mindset and perspective, an agreement based on my own independent reading of the research, she presents no research or arguments for why her view is right. An endless sequence of platitudes and appeals to the authority of someone else who says the same thing is no more convincing than Gina Ford's (antithetical) arguments for scheduling and authoritarian discipline.

To summarise: A book is much more than a collection of chapters. An argument is much more than an assertion. Other books ("Raising Boys" and "Raising Girls" come to mind) put this poor effort to shame.

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unruffled parenting approach

love how Janet takes the pressure and guilt out of parenting to help us become better.

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Indispensable advice

Brilliant advice with real life examples and steps to follow. All resonate with every parent in the world. Thank you!

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  • Jess
  • 16-07-15

Absolutely worth it!

This book is so wonderful for me, as a parent of an 18 month old. Love the principles and I've seen positive results to the application. She doesn't just talk method, she shares specific examples, which I find invaluable. Highly recommended!

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  • Rahma S.
  • 23-06-16

Changing Lives

This is the best book on toddler discipline I have read. Janet's instructions are easy to implement. This book changed our family dynamic in just a week!

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  • Meg L. Miller
  • 10-01-16

We can do this.... Great mantra

I love her specific examples and advice. I wish I had read this when my son was a baby.

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  • Rafaela Walker
  • 15-07-16

great!

this was a great book. it contradicts many other books I read but it has helped me with realizing I shouldn't lose my cool with my daughter. the only complaint I have is that it was too short lol

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  • Ben Caparoon
  • 19-10-16

Wow! I can't believe it works.

I was a bit skeptical in the beginning since I've been given several books with contradicting advice. I'm a first time mom/SHM and my son is now 16 months. I began using the practices in this book a few days ago and noticed a major change in our interactions. I would get frustrated with myself and with him when he would throw, hit and spit - and just about every normal toddler behavior you could think of. I've finished the book and now have a completely different perspective on parenting and i just a few days of work I feel like I understand my son and he understands me. I don't use third person narratives like "Mommy doesn't want you to hit" instead I just say, "I won't let you hit me". I recommend this to all. Thank you, Janet, for really helping me to change my entire perspective on parenting.

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  • Thea
  • 12-01-16

A must read for every parent

This book is simple to listen to accessible and hugely important. This is life-changing material and I can't wait to put these practices to use with my toddler.

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  • Caitlin Cotton
  • 07-07-15

Powerful

I can't wait for to put everything into practice with my 18 month old. Thank you!

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  • CatBrower
  • 19-06-16

Highly highly recommend

Amazing! Such good information and examples. Made a huge difference in my kids. Want to share with every mom! Also read whole brained child which was helpful showing how these applications positivity effect the brain.

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  • HideAdelHeid
  • 11-06-16

life changing!!!

this book is amazing and has changed my life. It's changed the way I parent and the way I co-exist in this world. I recommend anyone reads this and applies the tools that RIE uses.

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  • Georgina Martell
  • 01-06-16

Wonderful resource for parents

This book is an invaluable resource for parents. We have an especially strong willed child and nothing except for RIE principles have worked for her.

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