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My Grandmother's Hands

Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies
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The body is where our instincts reside and where we fight, flee, or freeze, and it endures the trauma inflicted by the ills that plague society. In this groundbreaking work, therapist Resmaa Menakem examines the damage caused by racism in America from the perspective of body-centered psychology. He argues this destruction will continue until Americans learn to heal the generational anguish of white supremacy, which is deeply embedded in all our bodies. Our collective agony doesn't just affect African Americans. White Americans suffer their own secondary trauma as well. So do blue Americans - our police.

My Grandmother's Hands is a call to action for all of us to recognize that racism is not about the head, but about the body, and introduces an alternative view of what we can do to grow beyond our entrenched racialized divide.

  • Paves the way for a new, body-centered understanding of white supremacy - how it is literally in our blood and our nervous system
  • Offers a step-by-step solution - a healing process- in addition to incisive social commentary

Resmaa Menakem, MSW, LICSW, is a therapist with decades of experience currently in private practice in Minneapolis, MN, specializing in trauma, body-centered psychotherapy, and violence prevention. He has appeared on the Oprah Winfrey Show and Dr. Phil as an expert on conflict and violence. Menakem has studied with best-selling authors Dr. David Schnarch (Passionate Marriage) and Dr. Bessel van der Kolk (The Body Keeps the Score). He also trained at Peter Levine's Somatic Experiencing Trauma Institute.

©2017 Resmaa Menakem (P)2017 Central Recovery Press

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Great book!

Illuminating and timely. Woke me up to issues in trauma work and society I'd been asleep to. Especially relevant to Somatic Experiencing folks...

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  • 11-05-19

Powerful piece for unraveling white supremacy .

This is a powerful contribution to the unraveling white supremacy. The author provides tools for healing, which is truly needed today.

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  • Rurik McKaiser
  • 10-04-19

One of THEE best books I have ever read!

This book NOT for the faint hearted. If you are open to healing your Soul then read this book. If you live living an unconscious life of pain an hurt and wish to break the cycle of intergenerational pain and harm, then book is for you.

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  • VeganTurtle77
  • 06-03-20

I wish this was required reading for all Americans

This book is exactly what the US needs. As our culture becomes more and more polarized and hostilities rise, its clear that Americans are falling back on age-old practices of fear and disconnection that leave none of us better off. Almost as soon as I began reading this book, I realized this is the book I have been waiting to read ever since I first became aware of trauma, epigenetics and how it all lives in our bodies. Having read The Body Keeps The Score, by the man who mentored this author, and It Didn't Start with You, I still felt something was missing. This book is the missing peice.
One of my favorite aspects of this book that is also very different from most books about trauma is that it provides readers with practical strategies to begin healing ourselves, and to share this healing with our families, friends, communities and even strangers! It doesn't just drop a heavy message with nowhere to go. And as a therapist, this author admits the limitations of talk therapy for healing trauma which is something not talked about enough.
Since reading this book I have been telling everyone I know about it. My partner, my family, I even sent a hard copy to my parents! I bought the hard copy myself, to have the practices easily accessible.
The narrator was wonderful and handled the material with grace and skill. I already know I'll be listening to this book again.

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  • 13-04-18

urgent and important

this book will, if humans survive their self inflicted crisis, become one of the cornerstones of our healing -- looking back we will wonder how this basic information, about how human mammals cope and cover up their trauma, about how to restore the body after trauma, was so out of reach of the common people for so long.
no more! this book brings what we need to know now.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 10-07-19

meh

I wish the analysis went further. it appears to coddle white people and cops. doesn't include imperialism or colonialism despite its obvious connection to white body supremacy . a humble beginning. co ops a lot of relaxation practices from Asia with little to no awareness or lip service of such appropriation.

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  • Patricia Hampton
  • 27-01-20

Remembering/reflecting

This book is definitely one worth reading. The author uses personal stories to take the reader on a journey that requires one to remember their stories as well as reflect on them.

Some of the topics mentioned may be of a sensitive nature and may even cause a few tear-jerking moments but, overall, these words need to be read and shared with others.

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  • English Teacher + Her children
  • 26-01-20

Amazing read with helpful strategies for healing!

Menakem has done a great job of providing “Black bodies”, “white bodies”, “police bodies” with strategies to assist in mending the heart. Each chapter contains body practices and “Re-memberings” that are also helpful.

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  • E. Tallman
  • 06-12-19

Critical Book for Resilience in America

This book is exactly what my last four years of research and work as a consultant on childhood trauma was missing. Resmaa beautifully weaves together the pieces of our broken society and broken hearts. He gives strength and guidance to anyone who wants to free themselves from the bondages of our former and present US systems of brutality and gives practical tips to move forward as healthier individuals, families and communities. I am eternally grateful for this contribution to the understanding of our shared traumas and the push for us all towards healing. The meditative exercises, physical exercises and body healing components are unique in the discussion of trauma and fast track growth and healing.

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  • Aero
  • 03-10-19

Ground breaking must read!

Read it, share it, and start to make a personal change to bring equity to all!

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  • Walt
  • 02-10-19

Road map for understanding and for Justice

I’m a Christian white man with Black son. My hispanic mother raised me to know that white America does not treat people of color fairly.
“But, didn’t Jesus teach us to love our neighbor as ourself?” How can white Americans be so unjust?
For most of my 62 years, I have been troubled by this reality. “How to make an America that cares for all?”
Mr. Menakem gives an essential entre into why.
Our inherited body traumas - for Black, white, and Police bodies - are unseen, but they cause the injustice.
Mr. Menakem helps us understand - with understanding now comes the ability to do the hard and painful, but necessary, work to heal.