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Mixed Up
- Narrated by: Tineka Smith, Alex Court
- Length: 5 hrs and 36 mins
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Summary
Tineka Smith always knew that growing up Black in America meant certain restrictions. Don’t talk back to white people, expect to be stopped by the police, always be on your guard. So, when she moved to the UK - and fell in love with Alex Court, a white man - she wondered if things might be different.
When Alex proposed to Tineka, it was the easiest decision in the world. What he didn’t anticipate was the reaction - sometimes subtle, sometimes overt - from friends and strangers alike. Nor did he expect to have to think about Tineka’s race, and his own white privilege, every single day.
Tineka has always felt the burden of calling out and educating people, only now she has to teach her new husband at the same time - asking him to see, hear and think with a new perspective about the things he had never noticed before.
But what does this mean for Tineka and Alex’s relationship? With anecdotes, analysis and honest conversations, Mixed Up has the pair attempting to navigate their new and challenging world, confronting race and relationships in the 21st century head on.
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"A must read book that will change the way we see mixed race couples and make us question our own entrenched beliefs." (Melissa Fleming, award-winning author of A Hope More Powerful than the Sea)
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- Zyra H Reyes-Kyle
- 13-08-21
Mixed Emotion and Thoughts
It's thought provoking. I am a non-white woman married to a white man and I had mixed thoughts/emotion with this book.
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- Anonymous User
- 10-02-21
Would absolutely recommend!
Great audiobook, made me think about the topic for many weeks and months after I listened to it. Would 100% recommend.
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- Tatiana Mota
- 01-11-20
Loved it
It was quite an experience to hear Tineka talking through her pain, that is too close to home for me, and also be able to hear Alex and understand how difficult it can be sometimes for the other person to understand how race matters, maybe especially where this is treated in a subtle way. I have learned and cried a lot, and inspired by Tineka I want to gather more courage to stand for up for myself and others.
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- Wesley G Davidson
- 18-01-23
Hidden truths.
This is a must read. It's relevant and informative contirbution. Salute to both of you.
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- R
- 18-10-20
Highly recommended
A must-read for everyone, everywhere, by no means only for those in interracial relationships.
Excellently narrated by both authors, a personal narrative which allows listeners to understand the broader issues and how to make positive changes.
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- melin edomwonyi
- 08-12-21
Needed and very valuable stories
Thank you- throughly enjoyed - I can’t imagine this being easy to share! Great to hear opinion and feelings of both sides - great listen too.
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- 22-10-20
Biracial Excellence - thank you
Thank you Tineka and Alex. As a black woman in a biracial relationship of 11 years, with two beautiful biracial children, your words were like a weight lifted off my back and replacing them with wings.
I wish I had your book/ audible to share with my partner years ago, actually even just a year ago. We might not be separating now.
Tineka, the issues you raise in conversation with Alex are mirror like to mine with my partner. Except, where your husband Alex stayed in the room to listen, process and learn from your experiences and reactions, my partner left the room - sometimes literally. To hear you both talk so openly and stay present for and with each other was inspiring. The frustrations and resentments that can fester when the reality (and struggles) of how two different lived experiences do coexist and do impact a biracial couple and their family's lives is a real danger if left unchecked or dismissed. Alex, you are an example of what can happen when a white person/ ally/ partner/ loved one walks through the door of defensiveness to truly listen, empathise, and talk about the experiences their black loved ones (person/ ally/ partner) go through daily. Tineka, your patience, trust and willingness to share the insidious hurts and deepest cuts we experience from society is transcendent. I cried for the pain I know you've experienced and with joy because finally, someone else has eloquently described the emotions and feelings that I have felt alone in expressing to my partner.
It does take patience and love of the highest form to share these embedded vulnerabilities with your loved ones, let alone the world. And it takes patience, love and humbleness to listen and accept what you do not see, understand or experience to be a Truth. Positive vibes and bravo to you both.
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- muki
- 20-02-21
Uncomfortable and enlightening
I am white and grew up in a small German village. Books like this give me a bit of hope that I can understand myself and my and society's racism better, and that I may be able to speak up more. But it has been uncomfortable and challenging to listen to this, in a good way. I loved the vulnerable conversations within their relationship. Brilliant. Thank you. I am so sorry for everything that has happened to Tineka. I hope the best for you!!
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- Ashtead reviewer
- 16-10-20
Small actions big implications
The format of a dialogue between husband and wife means that the listener is always hearing two sides of each experience. Thus, both sides have to examine situations from each other’s perspectives and work together to understand the world in a way that makes sense to them as a couple . This is difficult enough for couples who have similar backgrounds and are of the same race. Congratulations to Alex and Tineka for having the courage to be honest and frank about how that has has played out in their own marriage.
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- Patsy
- 14-03-21
Turly insightful
The best book so far that I've found and listened too regarding racism .
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