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Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex
By: John Gray
Narrated by: John Gray
Length: 1 hr and 32 mins
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Get seriously involved with the most famous relationship book ever!

Once upon a time Martians and Venusians met, fell in love, and had happy relationships together because they respected and accepted their differences. Then they came to Earth and amnesia set in: They forgot they were from different planets.

Based on years of successful counseling of couples and individuals, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus has helped millions of couples transform their relationships. Now viewed as a modern classic, this phenomenal book has helped men and women realize how different they really are and how to communicate their needs in such a way that conflict doesn't arise and intimacy is given every chance to grow.

(P) and ©1993, 2003 HarperCollins Publishers, Inc., All Rights Reserved. Harper Audio, a division of HarperCollins Publishers

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"A valuable, much-needed book. A contribution to the understanding of the communication styles of men and women." (Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., author of Getting the Love You Want)

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Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

I had bought the book ages ago and never managed to read it so to listen to it was ideal, however, the reader was a bit flat and he did not make it seem particularly interesting. Rather monotone!

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Not sure why it was a bestseller...

I've heard of this book from so many sources and finally decided to read/listen to it. Good job I didn't waste my time reading it. I found it disappointing and I found it a bit patronizing...not sure why...may be some of the ideas were so basic to me that I found it patronizing for the author to mention them...but I got a couple of new ideas about men's behavior which were helpful to know.

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Was this the whole book?

I've tried to listen to this once already, but I thought it was about 10 CD's worth if listening. This seemed awfully short. Was this the whole book?

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Best to go for Unabridged books

It is best to buy audiobooks that are the unabridged versions of the book. A few key elements of the book were missing in the audio book version (as evident from the Wikipedia page on the book). But enjoyable listen nevertheless.

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awesome

Must read / listen by every individual.
It cleared some of my questions especially why people fight often in a relationships.

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Great read. some really great examples too :-)

amazing read! it starts off with a story and making you feel like men and women are actually from different planets.

Also I love the way the narrator uses modern day examples of arguments which are so relatbaly.

overall great read.

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excellent!

amazing life/ relationship skills passed on through this book! it is actually wonderful a blessing in disguise

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  • 06-04-18

Recommend to all couples

The narrator explains both views of men and women and how to understand and respect each other and how to improve one's relationship.

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Brilliant!!

love the narrator. the contains good and informative. not long enough, a bit out of date i think at times? but good information. Thankyou.

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Eye opening

Amazing book, very insightful and educational. It really does make you think why things go wrong and what could be done to fix them and how to speak to your partner better and show them the love they need.

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  • Shamarie
  • 01-05-14

Oldie but a Goodie

This abridged version was short and sharp but I good all of the salient points in 1 hour.
Brilliant!

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  • Jill
  • 19-10-13

Boring - I have another recommendation for you

The narrator of this book made this book even more boring. If you want a book on this subject choose "For Women Only" and "For Men Only" and they discuss all of the points in this book and more in a much better way.

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  • Gregory R. Martin
  • 08-06-19

Good abridgment

This abridged version runs about 90 minutes and covers the key concepts very well without being too repetitive. If you’re already a little familiar with the general ideas (men value independence above feelings, women value community and sharing above ego) then you may find the shorter version is enough. This book is still relevant for couples today, whether you’re only dating, newlyweds, or more seasoned.

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  • @Firecrackerkaylyn2-IG
  • 04-10-17

Eye Opening

I learned a lot from my past mistakes with this book. Truly Self transforming and an Eye opener. I've got my work cut out for me.

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  • Ari
  • 30-11-16

Insightful and easy language - a must read!

If you could sum up Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus in three words, what would they be?

Insightful, easy, worth it.

What did you like best about this story?

I found this book very insightful. It was good to hear/read helpful information for both the male and female behaviors. I read some of the reviews where readers found the book "sexist" and I have to totally disagree. The author paid enough attention to both the female and male needs when it comes to relationships and communication, offering concise input for both. The tips provided in the book are practical and easy to execute. I highly recommend any couple and/or single person to read this book.

Did the narration match the pace of the story?

TBH I found the narration rather slow and uninviting. however I used the speed-up option to 1.25x and 1.5x and it was much, much better!

What did you learn from Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus that you would use in your daily life?

I learned of the different ways we cope with frustration and love needs. it was easy to go back onto my memories and point out areas where in the past it was hard to understand why as a couple we acted so different when it came to communication, hardships and love language. I could clearly see where the misunderstandings where created while reading the book. Great insight for my current relationship.

Any additional comments?

A must read and the audiobook is short. I listened to it in my car from place to place. will definitely listen to it again over and over. I also suggest reading "The 5 love languages" to complement the information given regarding relationships.

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  • Matthew
  • 03-08-15

A MUST READ FOR ANY YOUNG COUPLE

Where does Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

Ranks pretty high.

If you could give Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus a new subtitle, what would it be?

A road map into how the minds of men and women are different. Would'nt you like to avoid all those stupid little fights that seem to break out on the way out to dinner Friday night for example.

Any additional comments?

News Flash Men and Women think differently! This book gave me in site on how my wife thinks and how we can communicate much better....

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 23-02-12

Very Helpful

If you could sum up Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus in three words, what would they be?

Worth reading once

What did you like best about this story?

helped me understand why men do some of the things that are upsetting to women

Which scene was your favorite?

men hide in caves

What insight do you think you’ll apply from Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus?

pep talk for being more patient with men's behavior

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  • Claire
  • 07-07-18

Love this book

This book has really helped me with my relationship
I had my bf listen to this book and at first he hated the idea but once he got into it he started being so much nicer and more understanding
And the book wasn’t boring at all and had great use of examples

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  • Mackenzie
  • 24-09-16

Most

Most men are from Mars, Most Women are from Venus. Doesn't sound as good for a title though.

I, a woman, am from Mars and I believe my husband is from Venus according to the behavior explained in the book. We are the one couple, or one of the few that have the same issues but from the opposite ends. Maybe not 100% but at least 80%. I enjoyed the book. I have heard the infamous title for years and, in the middle of a sleepless night, listened to it. Very informative on both the average or common man and woman. This book definitely explained why my relationships with women never worked out, both platonic and romantic. I will suggest my husband reads/listens to the abridged version soon and I would bet that he will have the same opinion as I regarding the rolls in our relationship.

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  • catalino
  • 12-09-11

Men are from Mars Women are from Venus

Great content, but terrible delivery. Buy the book! I read the book years ago . . . so I knew the content was great. It was painful to listen to this audio book. I wanted to refresh my memory on the topic, so I stuck it out. Again, I suggest buying the book.

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