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Following a unique format perfect for today's world, the renowned author of The Dance of Anger gives us just over 100 rules that cover all the hot spots in long-term relationships.

Marriage Rules offers new solutions to age-old problems ("He won't talk"/"She doesn't want sex") as well as modern ones (your partner's relationship to technology.) You'll also learn how to: 

  • Calm things down and warm them up 
  • Talk straight and fight fair 
  • Listen well as a spiritual practice 
  • Connect with a distant partner 
  • Survive the unique challenges of children, stepchildren and difficult- laws 
  • Follow a 12-step program to overcome defensiveness 
  • Know how and when to draw the line 
  • Take back your marriage when things fall apart     

Marriage Rules is a treasure chest of lively, practical advice to help you navigate your couple relationship with clarity, courage, and joyous conviction. If one person in a couple follows 10 rules of his or her choice, it will generate a major, positive change. All that's required is a genuine wish for a better relationship and a willingness to practice.

©2012 Harriet Lerner (P)2022 Penguin Audio

Critic reviews

“This is the marriage book we’ve been waiting for!” —Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW, bestselling author of The Gifts of Imperfection and Daring Greatly 

“Required reading for anyone hoping to interact successfully with any other human.” —Martha Beck, author of Leaving the Saints  

"If you're asking the question 'But what do I DO?', this book is for you. Marriage Rules is wise, gripping, funny, sanity-saving and above all, useful. It's brimming with Lerner's warmth, sharp wit, remarkable clarity, and practical advice." —Edward M. Hallowell, M.D. author of Driven to Distraction

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