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Summary

A revised and updated edition of the best-selling guide to understanding borderline personality disorder.

After more than two decades as the essential guide to borderline personality disorder (BPD), this new edition now reflects the most up- to-date research that has opened doors to the neurobiological, genetic, and developmental roots of the disorder as well as connections between BPD and substance abuse, sexual abuse, post-traumatic stress syndrome, ADHD, and eating disorders.

Both pharmacological and psychotherapeutic advancements point to real hope for success in the treatment and understanding of BPD.

This expanded and revised edition remains as accessible and useful as its predecessor and will reestablish this audiobook as the go-to source for those diagnosed with BPD, their family, friends, and colleagues, as well as professionals and students in the field.

©2019 Jerold J. Kreisman and Hal Straus (P)2019 Penguin Audio

Critic reviews

"A book that may save you a lot of time and wasted, misguided pain in dealing with a loved one (with Borderline Personality Disorder)." (SystemsThinker.com)

"A good resource for professionals and families, because it provides therapists with concrete ideas to incorporate both instruction and hope into their practice by providing patients and their families suggestions in simple, non-condescending language. It is by far the best book on the market on BPD." (Anita Biase, StrugglingTeens.com)

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Dreadful

Absolutely horrible- pretty much blames BPD on women. whether it be leaving the home to become (gasp!), something other than wives and mothers, or having greater freedom to leave abusive marriages leading to single parent households, this joke of a book makes it clear that were women to "know their place" and stay in the home, BPD cases would be a fraction of what they are now. Also they describe individuals with BPD as selfish and manipulative, not to be trusted, histrionic, nasty, and all around terrible people. They also advocate manipulation tactics and deception in order to "deal" with those with BPD. There was a nice slab of racism that they threw into the mix as well, so that really was the rotten cherry on top of this particularly nasty cake.

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Informative

Loved it, very insightful and lots of info, expecially if you've been experiencing or know someone suffering.

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  • Matthew Barton
  • 25-11-19

Borderline Personality Disorder, understanding.

a bit technical but definitely worth reading especially if your living in a BPD's world.

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  • Cody Adams
  • 19-09-20

Re-title this to: “I Hate You, Please Leave Me — a Useless Guide to BPD Survivors and Their Loved Ones”

The only useful thing in this drivel is the title—and only because “I hate you, don’t leave me” is a recurring battle those with Borderline Personality Disorder battle regularly. The author dehumanizes people who need support overcoming, coping, and living with a major mental illness that is estimated to kill 1 out of every 10 BPD-sufferers. Every reference to “the borderline” instead of a real living person in the anecdotes and unhelpful data provided reminds us how little helpful content has been written by anyone besides Marsha Lineham who has done more groundbreaking research in transforming the lives of those with BPD (or anyone else for that matter) through her research and development of Dialectical Behavioral Therapy. Don’t waste your time unless you want to feel hopeless — and if you don’t have this diagnosis, know your BPD loved ones are reminded once again how much content is by people who don’t have Borderline Personality Disorder, but hate someone who does. Mild appreciation to Mel Foster who managed to somehow make it through recording this garbage and keeping it as clinical a tone as possible without storming out of the recording booth.

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  • Anastasia Lankford
  • 25-08-20

If you have BPD do not read this

This book made me feel so much worse about myself and gave me barely anything to better myself with.

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  • Heidi Marissa Hageman
  • 30-04-20

ugh.

very negative. biased and annoying to listen to. I'd like to know more about the "characters". not just the negative traits. guess I'm not in the mood for self evaluation or self critique. I'm getting a fiction book ugh. LOL

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  • Nadine Reeves
  • 05-03-20

Real Case Studies

The information in this book is really helpful, in particularly the real case studies. There are suggestions that can be applied to relationships now as well as in depth research shared in an easy to understand way.

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  • Julio Valdes
  • 05-03-20

Fantasy book

So far the best book I found to understand Borderline personality disorder. Hands down recommended.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 23-02-20

very insightful on the topic of BPD very good

I really enjoyed this read 10 out of 10 would read again ha ha ha

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  • Heather Crittenden
  • 03-02-20

really hard to listen to

The narrator isn't what I would have expected to keep my interest long enough to complete the book.

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  • Rose
  • 30-01-20

Eye opening

Parts of this book was like living with a love one w/ BPD. Many good techniques to use.

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  • Matthew Bringhurst
  • 20-01-20

Hindsight 20/20

Sure could have used this a year or so ago before getting into my last relationship!

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