shorter than I had expected. But a good start

I listened to the whole thing in one sitting. I am a 43 yo working class man who is trying to save my relationship. And I am a habitual liar. I do not want to be. But that is the hand i was dealt. After my first time through it, I found this book vaguely informative in understanding most types of lying. But with confidence I can say that if you're trying to quit this ugly habit it's a good place to start. And it also helps explain the other steps I need to take to help myself become the person I want to be.

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Good Source for Therapy Labels

If you are looking for techniques it’s not that great. Looking for a therapy for someone I love so it was helpful in siting the types of therapy available. I always prefer books with peer reviewed research but for under $3 not bad.

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Text book

Truly, How To Stop Lying was like reading a psychology textbook during my freshman year in college. It was somewhat dry and banal and like college text books, painfully didactic. Most of what was shared and offered is common knowledge in the psychological and behavioral sciences in regards to compulsive/pathological lying. In essence, I am NOT lying when I declare that this Audible Book is not worth purchasing unless you are currently a Freshman at the local City College thirsty for pop psychology jargon to impress your Zoom Dates or IG Followers.

My gratitude to the writer

I want to thank you for putting together this kind guide. I have been searching for helpful information on lying and everything I came across made me feel further diminished. Some writers and bloggers consider people like me to be narcissists, sociopaths and trained unfeeling manipulators whose only goal in life is to deceive everyone, make their lives a living hell and get what we want from them. Many advices that people should avoid us at all cost. You however, took the time to understand. For the first time I’ve read something that truly shined some light on my condition without judgement. You offered many different options to choose from so that I know where to start to find the help I need. You alone explained the shame, the low self esteem, the pain and loneliness that people like me live with and our inability based on a horrible lack of control and years of conditioning to censor what comes out of our mouth. I want to be truthful but I’ve lied for so many years-a half century to be exact-that I always slip back into my lies. I have been too ashamed to admit I have a problem to anyone until recently when I discussed it with my niece. It felt so liberating to have a candid conversation with no judgement. After that conversation I found your book. This book became the icing on the cake, your empathetic, and nonjudgmental approach has given me hope and direction so that I can seek the help I need. Thank You!

overall description, provide no tools to help.

This is an overall description of a problem, with no real roads or tools to self help.
no real help here, just a narration in definition of a problem.

A Great Primer

Will give you the foundation for solving your problem. Plenty of topics and resources for research.

Doesn't deal enough with cause and effect of lying

the content needs more examples or case studies of particular situations to better clarify types of lying.

Not a how to guide

I feel lied to by the title of this book; this is not a how to guide.

The majority of the book is spent on where a compulsive liar may have picked up the habit, why someone may lie, and different types of therapy - which is literally just a list of different types of therapy, no explanation on why each type may help.

There is about two minutes spent on How To do anything, for example the author suggests meditation but doesnt explain how to do it or why it would assit someone in their effort to stop lying.

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Great book! Loved the author's transparency.

Exceptional I will definitely share these techniques. This was an easy book to listen to.