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Summary

In How to Get Over a Boy, best-selling author Chidera Eggerue will show you, once and for all, how to reframe the stale goal of finding a man. She will equip you with tangible and applicable solutions for every part of your dating life, helping you recognise that men hold as much power in our romantic lives as we grant them. 

In the past, dating books tend to lean more into the territory of 'how to make him find you hot!', 'how to make him jealous!', 'how to get him to propose!'. But these how-tos are placing men on a pedestal of being 'the prize'. Men are never the prize. You are. Let The Slumflower show you why. 

©2019 Chidera Eggerue (P)2020 W. F. Howes Ltd

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I don’t like the racial split undertones

But overall the book is good . I feel like it talks about feminism and empowering women, but still divides women by their race. It’s a shame. But each to their own.

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Not as described

This isn't a bad booklet (very short 3 hours on audio) but it's absolutely NOT about 'getting over a boy'. Which is a shame as I bought it intending to recommend it to my niece who is going through an awful break-up.

It's a sort of generic positivity, Lousie Hay-ish ... Love yourself first type book. And if I thought this would help her I'd recommend Louise (who is awesome) but my niece is younger so I thought something a little trendier might work for her.

This is just a bunch of internet memes strung together with a little basic body positivity thrown in.

Honestly, I feel pretty conned - and the audio isn't particularly well-read either.
Disappointed

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Sublime

This is the best book I've come across on self love and freeing oneself from dependence on validation from men. An intelligent, intersectional, refreshing insight into break-ups, this helped me finally move on from a relationship that had been hanging over me for more than a year. I felt so seen and understood and I cannot overstate how much I wish everyone would read/listen to this book.

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So boring

It’s too slow and the content is just not gripping. Really doesn’t help you get over someone. Just tells you to love yourself

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Waking up my conflictingly ideological brain TFU!!

This book is read by Chidera Eggerue, which is honestly my personal favourite thing about listening to books in general. It's an incredible experience, to hear it read out loud, hearing their voice creates the reality and makes it feel personal, to hear it and understand how they wrote it.
The nature of the book has admittedly loosened some grave dirt for me, those Skeletons I thought were packed tight 6 feet under.
Some subjects on socialisation, sexology (I'd never heard of before this book) and how my time is precious, valuable and anyone who wants my attention should earn it!
The book is very liberating, it's enough to deal with those Skeletons I've avoided for so long.
Thank you Chidera Eggerue!

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A must listen/read

Although not currently going through a break up, as a 26 year old women I found this so helpful for helping me get out a rough patch in so many ways. Will listen to this again & again!

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wrong title

this book is about falling in love with yourself.
it's powerful, beautifully written, well paced, and has so many incredibly useful day to day tips and pieces of advice for how to become the woman you already are.
100% recommend. for everyone. at any stage in life.
truly magnificent and uplifting.
can't wait to start on What A Time To Be Alone.

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Thank you

I really enjoyed this book was a nice easy listen & completely resinated with so much off it empowering book to read when you have lost your self esteem

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Amazing

For every woman in her twenties, highly highly recommend. A much needed sentiment in the dating world.

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Amazing!!!

I’ve read Chidera’s other book, what a time to be alone and I loved it, but I wish I got it in an audio book purely to hear her tone. I’ve just gone through a break up and this book has made me feel so much better to navigate the world alone! I’d really recommend if you have just gone through a break up, want to learn to be more independent or be your truest self!

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  • 21-04-20

Touching

Beautifully written and worded. Precise and direct. A wonderful reminder of the power you hold, and also the power people can hold over you if you don’t pay attention. As a victim to many of the situations mentioned, I found this book comforting, eye opening and heart shattering.

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Amazing

This is a book every woman should read or listen to. I feel as if the writer has walked me through some of the roughest points in my life and that she has turned the mirror of love, strength, and exeptance around to face me, and I'm seeing clearly for the first time. I've already recommend this book to multiple friends and I'm going to buy copies for them. 10/10!

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  • Erica swinney
  • 29-07-21

A Must Read for all women and girls!

This book is a guide for healing! It should be a coming of age gift for girls transitioning into adulthood. Chidera encourages women to know our worth and gives us steps on how to claim it! For me there were lots of confirmations and affirmations spoken. She made me feel like I’m not crazy for feeling the way I have in relationships with my significant other, best friends and even my mother. This book was short, sweet and right to the point!

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  • anna amaya
  • 07-06-21

Speechless.

This book is revolutionary. It has blown me away in so many ways... I recommend this book to every woman in my life. I seriously don’t have the words to describe what this book has done for me. Please please please get it!

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 29-04-21

Childera is a Goddess!!

This book has been unbelievably influential and transformative in helping get out of a toxic relationship and putting myself and my needs first. Childera is an incredible narrator; the way she speaks is simultaneously soothing and empowering!❤️

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  • Kayla Major
  • 21-04-21

phenomenal book

I personally believe every woman needs to read this book and will find value in this book at some point in their life. This is the type of book I will be sure to encourage my future daughter to read BEFORE she experiences her first breakup. The narrator's tone is a brilliant bonus to the value of this audiobook. 10/10 recommend. Men should read it and learn a thing or two as well

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  • Desiree
  • 27-10-20

Breakup or not, read it

Breakup or not, every woman (or woman identifying person) must read this book. A wealth of empowerment, psychological knowledge, strategy, beautiful remarks... thank you

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  • Nora
  • 23-08-20

Wish I had this book years ago

I wish I had this book during my toughest breakups years ago and at the same time I wish I could send this to everyone no matter where they are in their relationship status because these wise words are so valuable at any stage in your life.

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  • 21-04-20

Speaks to the heart of the issue

I loved this book. I just wish I had this when I was young, but am finding it a transformative guide even at 50.