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Summary

Restore Your Love/Power Balance, Transform the Inner Voice That Holds You Back, and Find Your True Self-Worth

Elaine Aron follows up her best sellers on the highly sensitive person with a groundbreaking new book on the undervalued self. She explains that self-esteem results from having a healthy balance of love and power in our lives. Listeners will learn to incorporate love into situations that seem to require power and deal with power struggles that mask themselves as issues of love. From the bedroom to the boardroom, her strategies will enable us to escape feelings of shame, defeat, and depression; dissolve relationship hostility; and become our best selves.

With Aron's clear, empathetic writing and extraordinary scientific and human insight, The Undervalued Self is a simple and effective guide to developing healthy, fulfilling relationships, and finding true self-worth.

©2010 Elaine N. Aron (P)2010 Gildan

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Nggets of wisdom within

This is not a book to be read once. I find myself going back to chapters I have read before even before I got to the end. Already seen shifts in my temperament.

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  • Dawn Mitchell
  • 20-09-15

Life Changing!

I am sooo grateful for this book! It has absolutely changed me and made me more aware of why I act and did the things I used to do. Everyone I recommended this book to thanks me, tells me how their brain has been rewired and how much more sure of themselves they are. Definitely a great read for EVERYONE! I am excited to see where I take myself now that the persecuting and critical voice in my head is virtually non existent!

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  • Erik Eierud
  • 02-01-17

Super clear psychology

Elaine is not just a genious, but also generous by sharing ideas that has the power to make many break free from medications. Since the book uses many high level ideas it took me a while to see Elaine loves to keep things to common sense. Something that today should be called rare sense.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 25-11-16

Valuable concepts on relating to one's self

I enjoyed the clear content the author explains about how to better manage one's own self-talk and manage relationships.

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  • 04-01-18

Amazing material. Narration can be irritating.

This is a great book and unusual. A synthesis of some psychology, evolutionary psychology, behavior and power topics. An application of behavioral theories on jockeying for status / hierarchy combined with our need for social connection and how these things play out in our self-concept and, thus how we live our lives... wish I could find more books like this. The narrator's voice was hard for me to sit with. I kept wanting to tune her out or got so tired of hearing her I shut the book off just to take a break. A little more relaxation in narration would make a big difference. Too rigid for my taste but others may enjoy her voice.

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  • 30-03-17

Brilliant book!

I can honestly say that this book has transformed my life. I understood a lot about myself, tactics that I had been inadvertently using to sabotage myself.

I think every one should learn about the linking/ranking concept and protector/ persecutor reflex.

Would highly recommend it.