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The Disease to Please Audiobook

The Disease to Please: Curing the People-Pleasing Syndrome

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Publisher's Summary

People pleasers are not just nice people who go overboard trying to make everyone happy. Those who suffer from the Disease to Please are people who say "Yes" when they really want to say "No". For them, the uncontrollable need for the elusive approval of others is an addiction. Their debilitating fears of anger and confrontation force them to use "niceness" and "people-pleasing" as self-defense camouflage.

Featured on NBC's Today, The Disease to Please explodes the dangerous myth that "people pleasing" is a benign problem. Best-selling author and frequent Oprah guest Dr. Harriet Braiker offers clear, positive, practical, and easily do-able steps toward recovery.

Begin with a simple but revealing quiz to discover what type of people-pleaser you are. Then learn how making even small changes to any single portion of the Disease to Please Triangle, involving your thoughts, feelings, and behavior, will cause a dramatic, positive, and long-lasting change to the overall syndrome.

As a recovered people pleaser, you will finally see that a balanced way of living that takes others into consideration but puts the emphasis first on pleasing yourself and gaining your own approval is the clearest path to health and happiness.

©2001 Harriet B. Braiker, Ph.D. (P)2004 AMI

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    Filippo 24/10/2015
    Filippo 24/10/2015 Member Since 2016
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    "This Book Is Life-changing."

    If you are a people pleaser you need to listen to this audio book. It will open your eyes to the reality that, if you have been living your life putting other people first ALL THE TIME, you have been deceiving yourself. It's important to love other people, but not at the point where you put your own dreams and desires on hold. I hope you enjoy listening to it.

    4 of 4 people found this review helpful
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  • HawtDogFlvrWtr
    01/12/14
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    "Not overly religious"
    Would you consider the audio edition of The Disease to Please to be better than the print version?

    I've read the paperback version of this book and it was painful to get through. This may be, because I just don't like reading books.


    What was one of the most memorable moments of The Disease to Please?

    From the very beginning of the book, it pulls no punches. It explains that you can really screw up your life by letting others walk over you. It also tells you that you can cause relationships with others to fail because of your "give all" reactions to everything.


    Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

    While I didn't cry, the book gave me strong emotional reactions because it was like looking in a mirror. It has definitely helped me alter my life in a positive directoin.


    4 of 4 people found this review helpful
  • Urias Silva
    Sao Paulo, Brazil
    17/12/09
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    "Maybe all the people need this"

    Although this is a self help book it contains valuable and acessible information. Harriet Braiker is very very good in explaining the problem and remedies. She is not rosy, she is not tragic. Bernadette Dunne has a crystal clear pleasant voice. Maybe you think you don't need it. I dare say you are wrong.

    7 of 8 people found this review helpful
  • Cameron T. Freeman
    Orlando, FL
    16/12/17
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    "Good information but left me feeling abandoned"

    This book is helpful in identifying the disease, offers only little guidance to remedy it.

    2 of 2 people found this review helpful
  • Brooke
    19/07/15
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    "Focused on sexual abuse"
    Would you say that listening to this book was time well-spent? Why or why not?

    This book is only about 4 hours long and she spend quite a lot of time on sexual abuse...which was disappointing because not all people who want to please others have that problem. And the example story she gives out is quite gruesome and disturbing, which I could not relate to at all.


    Any additional comments?

    I wish she wrote less about the sexual side of it and focused more on interpersonal skills in general so that the broad audience can relate to it. Talking about sexual abuse is fine, but that's not what the title represents. I was looking for general interpersonal skills based on guilt, insecurities, etc.

    8 of 12 people found this review helpful
  • Tara
    24/01/18
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    "This book is a must"
    Would you listen to The Disease to Please again? Why?

    Yes, absolutely address again. Notit explained how I felt for many years.


    What other book might you compare The Disease to Please to and why?

    I can't think of any but I would like to some books along the same lines.


    Have you listened to any of Kate Redding’s other performances before? How does this one compare?

    The reading was very good.


    What did you learn from The Disease to Please that you would use in your daily life?

    So very much, I would encourage an individual that has been branded codependent to read this.


    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  • Kitty
    11/01/18
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    "Excellent "

    Kris Gordinez LPC recommends this highly on You Tube. Awesome! This has helped a lot.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  • Owen Miller
    Nantucket,MA
    25/09/17
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    "Wow"

    As far as content,his book really spoke to me!
    It was not too long, didn't ramble yet gave me all the info I needed.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  • Miller Fam
    05/02/17
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    "Understand how"

    all INFORMATION no real techniques. great to understand yourself. but thats all. i still enjoyed that part of it

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  • Kimberly L.
    17/12/16
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    "Eerily accurate"

    no one thing will apply exactly to everyone but about 90% this applied to me. very insightful.
    I'd recommend this book to anyone who goes out of their way for someone and then finds that often people will turn on you. I though, " I have noting but good to her, and she turns around and slaps me in the face."

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  • Peaceful Dreamweaver
    01/10/16
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    "Extremely useful, and pertinent for my awareness."

    This book explained not only what I do, but why. I am grateful for this awareness so I can change it.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful

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