How can a marriage survive an affair? Infidelity is one of life's most painful experiences for everyone involved - the betrayed spouse, the children, the extended family members, and even the lover and the wayward spouse. Once trust is broken, how can a couple ever hope to reconcile?
In Surviving an Affair, Drs. Harley and Chalmers help you understand every aspect of infidelity - from the beginning of an affair through the restoration of the marriage, including· why affairs begin and end· how to end an affair· how to restore the marriage· how to manage resentment and rebuild trustSurviving an Affair guides you step-by-step from the devastating blow of infidelity to a loving and trusting marriage.
It's a non theoretical work piece with out two it only serves to equip the individual who can then use it's valuable information on the needs that so rarely are made this simple to understand. when in need seek out this book and others like it. the author overrides our basic human intention to throw in the towel on love what ever the situation.
One of the best books I have ever read. So in-depth it will amaze you how much you learn about human nature and it at its basics how marriage is such a tricky minefield.
The book gives you clear and concise ways to attempt to end an affair and restore your marriage . It is not for the faint hearted though. Dr. Harley and his wife have devoted their professional lives to helping people recover from an affair and restore their marriages. They are so passionate about their work and it shows through in this book. I have even spoke with them as a consequence of my own marriage troubles.
A well worth read for those who feel that their marriage is under threat, going through and coming out the other side.
Have faith, follow the plan and you will achieve an outcome. It is always best to try rather than live with the regret of not trying to save your marriage. There is fantastic advice contained within. Now read on......
Would you say that listening to this book was time well-spent? Why or why not?
Sad. The majority of this book really coddles and protects the integrity of the adulterer. Very little accountabilty for the cheater. This book also has little regard for, and mostly neglects, the feelings of the betrayed, and puts most of the heavy lifting of rebuilding on the betrayed's wounded shoulders. Insinuates it as mostly the betrayed's fault for "pushing" the cheater to into their affair.
While both partners are equally responsible for the problems in their marriage, that does not give anyone the right to bring another person into the marriage. No one is holding a gun to the adulterers head. There are many better options.
Plus... Sue is a materialistic bitch.
Would you be willing to try another book from Willard F. Harley Jr. and Jennifer Harley Chalmers ? Why or why not?
No. The distribution of blame and rebuilding is not fair and balanced.
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Would you consider the audio edition of Surviving an Affair to be better than the print version?
My husband and I listened to this book and it has a lot of GREAT advice and tips. I am a big urked that there is no pdf to download for the pages he talks about for his book. All I know is all married couples should listen to this...so that an affair WILL NEVER happen. But if you are in the midst of an affair or know it is happening, get this...it will help . I think the audible version is a great way for a couple to listen or someone who is stuck driving and needs to learn important things...to easy to put a book down...this is in your ear. ONLY bad thing...no pdf.
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Wow what a great book! I have said for years that no matter how moral you are, you can end up in an affair! I have used some of these methods for years to affair proof my marriage. It is good to know I have always been on the right track! I would suggest this to all couples but especially couples just married to hopefully never have to experience the extreme pain of an affair!
My spouse and I have just completed this audio book. It has helped us more than our current marriage counselor. It covers topics so throughly and accurately. It put words to my feelings that I could never articulate. We are going to listen again, and they love on to his next book.
This book has help relieve the devastating blow of my husband's infidelity. We are in recovery and we will have a much greater chance of recovery because it helped me understand.....How Could He Do This To Me????