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  • It Wasn't Your Fault

  • Freeing Yourself From the Shame of Childhood Abuse with the Power of Self-Compassion
  • By: Beverly Engel
  • Narrated by: Kate Rudd
  • Length: 8 hrs and 47 mins
  • 4.6 out of 5 stars (40 ratings)
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It Wasn't Your Fault

By: Beverly Engel
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Summary

Shame is one of the most destructive of human emotions. If you suffered childhood physical or sexual abuse, you may experience such intense feelings of shame that it almost seems to define you as a person. In order to begin healing, it's important for you to know that it wasn't your fault.

In this gentle guide, therapist and childhood abuse expert Beverly Engel presents a mindfulness and compassion-based therapeutic approach to help you overcome the debilitating shame that keeps you tied to the past. By following the step-by-step exercises in this audiobook, you'll gain a greater understanding of the root cause of your shame. And by cultivating compassion toward yourself, you will begin to heal and move past your painful experiences.

Recent studies show that trauma survivors, particularly those with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) resulting from abuse, can greatly benefit from incorporating elements of self-compassion into their treatment. Furthermore, the practice of self-compassion has been shown to decrease PTSD symptoms, including, self-criticism, thought suppression, and rumination.

This audiobook is based on the author's powerful and effective Compassion Cure program. With this audiobook, you will develop the skills needed to finally put a stop to the crippling self-blame that keeps you from moving on and being happy. You'll learn to focus on your strengths, your courage, and your extraordinary ability to survive. Most of all, you'll learn to replace shame with its counter emotion - pride.

©2015 Beverly Engel (P)2014 Brilliance Audio, all rights reserved.

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Excellent

If you need guidance understanding and help in the right direction then Beverly is the one. Thankyou very much indeed

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Helpful but...

The information and exercises are good and helpful I think but the reader was a bit clunky and irritating. Wish I'd read it instead

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Great book

I really liked the book. What was very helpful was the exercises which actually helped. So many books state the facts but fail to show the way out of the situation.
The narrator's voice was sometimes a bit too robotic.

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Fantastic

Many of the issues discussed are some of which I can personally relate too. I hope to continue to extinguish the self-critic and focus on self-compassion.

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Amazing book!!

This is a MUST READ!!! An amazing book accompanied with excercises!!! Highly recommend!!

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AVOID AT ALL COSTS.

This book essentially implies trauma gives you a free pass to your own bad actions. Whilst your trauma is not your fault, how you treat others is your responsibility to manage. Any DECENT book would tell you how to actually work to process the trauma, and how to work on improving how you respond but this book is all "It's fine that you do horrible things because bad things happened to you". Total nonsense. Spoken to professional who said this book actually does more harm and means more to undo later with proper help. There are better books by far out there. You will not improve by telling yourself "I hurt because I have been hurt so I shouldn't feel bad about it". That will just feed the problem.

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absolute must read

If you're looking for a self help book for overcoming the shame you feel as someone who experienced childhood abuse, this is the book. The best thing this book does is provide insight into your reactions, you come to realise that many of the things you think, feel or behaviours that you have adapted are actually a common response for people with your experiences. Realising this helps you to have more compassion for yourself.

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excellent

excellent easy to hear
touched my feelings and informative although I cannot keep up with the exsersises at the end

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Incredible book let down by narration

This book is changing my life, it really is absolutely incredible and I am so glad it was recommended to me. Invaluable for most people I would say, as I would guess that very few people have a really healthy childhood. However, personally I really hate the narration; it sounds unnatural and computer-generated, and like the narrator is faking an American accent. The parts where she is speaking pretending to be someone else really made me cringe, this surely could have been done another way (for example with other people speaking on these rare occasions).

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Amazing!

I found this book to be absolutely amazing!!! It was everything I needed it to be. Some books is very dry and other books trying to much almost as trying to convince you. Those books push you away. In my personal believe they're unfinished. Nothing like that with this one. It's gently written book where person shares her experiences from a bottom of the heart to give people oportunity to make a difference in their lives. I can't strech enough how greateful I'm that I bumped in to this book.

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