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Girls Will Be Girls

Dressing Up, Playing Parts and Daring to Act Differently
Narrated by: Olivia Caffrey
Length: 7 hrs and 43 mins
Categories: Non-fiction, Gender Issues
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Summary

Being a woman is largely, about performance - how we dress and modify our bodies, what we say, the roles we play, and how we conform to expectations. Gender stereotypes are still deeply embedded in our society, but Emer O'Toole is on a mission to rewrite the old script and bend the rules of gender - and she shows how and why we should all be joining in.

Exploring what it means to "act like a girl", Emer takes us on a hilarious and thought-provoking journey through her life (including singing "Get Your Pits Out for the Lads" on national TV after growing out her body hair). Cross-dressing, booty shaking, sexual disasters, family dinners, and full-body waxing are all lovingly dissected in search of wisdom.

With game-changing ideas, academic intelligence, and laugh-out-loud humour, this book will open your mind and revolutionise the way that you think about gender.

©2015 Emer O'Toole (P)2015 Audible, Ltd

Critic reviews

"A fascinating exploration of how we 'do' gender. From the early labeling of infants to the ironclad enforcement of grooming and interpersonal behavior, gender expression is neither a matter of biological mandate nor individual choice. Emer O'Toole nimbly weaves philosophy and personal experience into a vivid depiction of gender identity as performance art." (Lise Eliot, author of Pink Brain, Blue Brain)
"The blogger and columnist, who is emerging as one of the leading lights of the new feminism, uses anecdotes from her own life - from 'cross-dressing to pube-growing and full-body waxing' - to illuminate some of the the dos and don'ts for women trying to set themself free from gender stereotypes." (The Guardian, "Unmissable books for 2015")

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A Treat for Women and a Must for Educating Men

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Unlike many other books I've read that touch on similar subjects, this book is not ethnocentric, it's not a rant from a man-hater or spoilt girl with first world problems... Girls Will Be Girls is balanced, well researched, beautifully told, funny, thought-provoking and all-round-loveable. It's the kind of book that gives credit to feminism as a movement. The tone is refreshing (we don't have to be angry, defensive and offensive to champion equality. We can also be soft and conversational too). It's a book that men should read or hear...maybe even more than us ladies :)

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As as woman- very revealing.

I'm going to have to look at many of my views, attitudes and actions through a different lens after reading this book.
Mid-life review called for.

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Feminist tract entertains and gives insight too

It was good that the narrator was the author since much of the book is written in the first person

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How to be a feminist

Thank you Emer. As someone struggling to find feminist role models, your experience, learning and wisdom are extremely helpful to me. I've thrown away the razor, but I think I'll keep the lipstick.

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Brilliant

Loved this funny insightful book! Learnt more from this than any feminist book I've read so far! Everyone needs to read this!

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A good companion !!

I liked chapter 11 the most because I can relate to the story narrated. I would recommend this book to feminists who feel depressed by men in their society. Good for train trips!!

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Just great.

Of course we can find critiques in all writing, but O'Toole's way of drawing her theories from her own experiences makes this a delight to listen to /read. This is a personable and accessible place to start your ideas on your feminism.

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Ok

Not as funny as I thought it would be.Disappointing.Caitlin Moran is funnier by a long way.

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  • Sarah Kaiser
  • 22-07-15

Witty and insightful

I enjoyed hearing the author's Irish accent as she read her story. Her experiences aligned with mine, and helped me see the rituals that young girls undergo in a new light. I'm going to put segments of her book on my syllabus and make it required reading for my students.

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