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Summary

Still struggling from the effects of an abusive relationship? 

Many people do and sadly there is very little information available to be found online or in the written research, or with counselors and therapists that can help. The Gaslight Effect is not officially recognized, nor is it widely even known. 

Even when it is accepted, recognized and known, not many people seem to know what to do about it to heal it.... The fact is being in a relationship with a narcissist over a long period of time has long lasting traumatic effects that can be extremely catastrophic to the person suffering them. 

Do the following symptoms sound familiar?

  • Doubting yourself and your sanity
  • Feeling like you’re losing your mind
  • Feeling like you’re always apologizing
  • You’re second-guessing your memory
  • Feeling like you aren’t good enough
  • Feeling misunderstood
  • Feeling lonely
  • Ruined self confidence
  • Extreme weight loss or weight gain
  • Uncharacteristic jealousy/insecurity
  • Feeling like you don’t know the difference between right and wrong
  • Extreme paranoia (being turned into an obsessive detective)
  • Endless, repetitive obsessive thinking about your ex
  • Constantly trying to find explanations for what has happened
  • Feelings of helplessness and despair
  • A desire to self-isolate
  • Feeling desperately misunderstood
  • Overwhelming feelings of loss and grief
  • Extreme bouts of rage
  • An inability to be comfortable with yourself
  • Strange dreams
  • Sudden inexplicable anxiety followed by rapid dips into depression
  • The list goes on....

“Nobody understands!” I hear this frustrated cry from abused people a lot.

Gaslighting is a covert aggressive way of distorting another person’s perception of reality to the point that that person questions their sanity or their memory. 

Gaslighting is crazy-making, it makes you think that you’re actually going crazy. 

Gaslighting is a way of hiding the abuse. 

Gaslighting is lying with a goal. 

The motive behind the gaslighting is to make you think that you’re crazy or that your memory doesn’t work right. So you can’t trust yourself and your perceptions of reality. 

This means you’ll defer to the abuser for an account of what’s real so slowly over time the abuser becomes the authority over your life. 

Gaslighting takes place in relationships, like one-on-one relationships. It takes place in friendships, in family, in work, you’ll see gaslighting on the news, you’ll hear gaslighting coming from politicians, corporate shills, cult leaders, advertising commercials, etc. 

What you will learn:

  • Top 10 signs you're being manipulated with gaslighting
  • 80 things narcissists say during gaslighting
  • Six empowering ways to disarm a narcissist and take control
  • How to avoid mental manipulation
  • How to deal with the effects of gaslighting
  • How narcissists employ smart devices 

 What you need now: 

  • Someone who has been through the same experiences you have and understands them from the inside 
  • Someone who has the knowledge, training, education, and experience working on himself and others to lead you through the emotional sh*tstorm that breaking with a narcissist can create 

I can’t promise you that listening to this audiobook is going to be a “total cure”, but I can promise that if you apply yourself dilligently, take notes, listen and re-listen the sections, follow all instructions to the letter, with a  tenacious resolve to get better you will feel an instant decrease in anxiety within the first 24 hours and should see huge improvements within the first three days.

This is not hype, this is what my audience commonly reports.

©2019 Dr. Theresa J. Covert (P)2019 Dr. Theresa J. Covert

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Comprehensive - saved me

I ended the relationship because I was sinking: unhappy gaining weight and questioning myself.
He lied and manipulated me
This book saved me....am 60 years old and have never experienced this type of experience
This book is insightful a saviour and a guide.
I play chapter 22 over and over
Each day I am getting stronger
Even a highly emotional intelligent professional can fall victim....never again now I have knowledge
Thank you.x

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very informative and gives good solutions too to everyone who has suffered from gaslighting and its terrible effects

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no gaslighter has hope of redemption

i found myself exhibiting gaslighting behaviour towards my wife, and also experienced the behaviour from colleagues. i bought the book to try and pinpoint these issues in myself to address them, and this book feels like it states that people who gaslight cannot be helped. i want help, and nowhere on the market has a book to help me.

performance was robotic, not my preference of audio experience.

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Extremely helpful!

Helped me to understand devastating situations in my relationship, just on time. Thank you so much!

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Life changing

An excellent book to recognize abusive patterns and red flags of Cluster B personalities. Beautifully written, very understandable and relatable book for anyone going through the emotional roller-coaster of an abusive relationship. The first step on the road to healing yourself and leading a happy and healthy life. I opened my eyes to the kind of relationship I had in my life.

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  • Sandra N. Bourg
  • 07-09-19

Wow awesome audio book

This is a book about how to restore yourself after a toxic relationship.What i loved most about this book was voice it was listen in.You can let go of feeling like you can't live without them and you an afford the life that you want.I highly recommend this book.

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  • susannah
  • 13-12-19

Stop scrolling and buy this: Life Changing

I have read many books on the issue and this one is the best. It is clear and hits the mark on what gaslighting is and how to recognize and recover.

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  • Florine J. Sarabia
  • 07-09-19

Excellent audio book

This book is a must for anyone who’s questioned or is questioning the health of a relationship, including politicians who represent us. This book not only helps me identify gaslighting behavior but also gives concrete, doable recommendations that have helped me live a healthier and much less stressful life. Thank you!

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  • Maria C. Bennett
  • 07-09-19

A well balanced book.

A well balanced book. A lot of important information gathered in this book. I was actually impressed by how much useful information squeezed in such a short book. This book described every single thing very clearly with some proper explanations. Such an excellent book.

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  • Gertrude W. Salas
  • 06-09-19

Powerful tool for learning how to effectively

Powerful tool for learning how to effectively and safely deal with a narcissist.This book helped me to finally understand what I was dealing with in a close personal relationship

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  • Annette D. Wise
  • 07-09-19

I liked the helpful insights in this book.

I liked the helpful insights in this book. I would like more examples of relationship interactions. The book uses a handful over and over again to illustrate points and explain emotional situations.

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  • Caroline L. Westhoff
  • 07-09-19

I really love this audio book

Being able to understand how certain individuals may affect your general wellbeing is vital. One of the most important aspects was understanding that gaslighting can happen in nonrelational settings and target men as well.

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  • AG516
  • 24-10-20

Practical

This is a very good book if need help convincing yourself you are the victim of gaslighting. I wish there was more info on how to deal with a narcissist.

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  • Natisha Mullis-Brooks
  • 25-07-20

Painful to listen to.

This book did have a few good and educational points, but none very impressive. It felt like the book was written by a layperson, whom one day decided to write about their personal experiences and then submitted the title to be read by an inexperienced narrator, whom performed with little inflection or inflection in all the wrong places! What's worse is that it feels like the book didn't have an editor. I'm unsure if this is due to the author's bad grammar or the narrator's inability.

There are many, MANY much better books Bout narcissism, on the market. I'd recommend one of them, instead of this one. "When Love Is a Lie", for instance or "Psychopath Free". Both examples are excellently written and well read audiobooks, on this subject.

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  • Rebecca J. Rudd
  • 06-09-19

This book is a must for anyone who’s questioned

This book is a must for anyone who’s questioned or is questioning the health of a relationship, including politicians who represent us. There are lots of easy to listen descriptions, quotes, behaviors to watch for and ways the listening can deal or get out of the relationship. A whole section of resources is also provided for additional national help.

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