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Summary

For her latest Audible Original, Where Should We Begin?: The Arc of Love, Esther Perel invites you to listen to private and intimate conversations exploring the evolution of relationships. Hear six sets of people at different points in their quests for romantic and familial love, including a young couple whose immigration status has forced them to consider marriage, a stepmother trying to put the pieces back together for four children whose mother died by suicide, a nonbinary child desperate to connect with their single mother, a divorced couple whose two-household relationship may prove that marriage doesn’t have to end after divorce, and more. Listen and better understand your own relationships through the struggles of these people and Esther’s remarkable insights.

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Insight into people's minds and relationships

Simply engaging all through the episodes. You can put things in perspective. Esther is very articulative , clear and supportive in her talks. Very engaging. At times seems like eavesdropping into the couple's personal sessions.

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Captivating

It has been such a privilege to get to hear these intimate experiences of various people handled with such nuance, compassion and reason. Although I am only 20 and not in any form of a romantic relationship, listening to this has enlightened me more about the intricate nature of human relationships.

Thank you Esther and all the people involved.

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A forensic investigation of dysfunction

This series is enthralling. The second episode in particular, I was on the edge of my seat the whole way through, it was so intense . It’s like listening to a seasoned interrogator use empathy and guile to unearth a couples deepest secrets and untangle decades of miscommunication in minutes. There’s a new catharsis every five minutes- it’s almost exhausting, how good she is.

Everyone should listen. We all have something to learn from this.

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Deep and relatable.

Listening to these therapy session is so deep and eye opening. It really makes you reflect on your relationships both romantic and non-romantic. Thoroughly enjoyed listening to this. Highly recommend!

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Enjoyed this!

I found it a very interesting listen and I'm going to look up some more of her stuff!

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Brilliant

Thank you Esther and all these couples for this amazing series. I've learned how to read situations better and understand my own thoughts and emotions from listening to all of you!

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Amazing sessions

Cant stop listening to this, such amazing stories. Esther is the best therapist. I love it

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part of you in every story,

touching, piercing through- the stories are so raw and real, they make you cry on how little bit of you is in every voice. love it!

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Honesty ❤

A great listen. Thank you to the very brave couple who were hopefully helped to grow their relationship ❤

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  • 01-06-19

got my tearing up as usual

There's something about real unfiltered stories - in particular, one we rarely hear about: the challenges of immigration laws in romantic relationships. kudos

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  • Lia
  • 18-03-19

Honest, Emotional and Raw

Esther Perel skilfully instigates moments that change her client’s paradigm. She does it methodically and with artistic skill. Seeming to immerse herself completely in each individual’s experience to gather a deep understanding of their needs. The podcast is beautifully done and we can all only wish to find a therapist with a mind as progressive and holistic as hers!

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  • LAX2NRT
  • 09-10-18

Not Nearly as Good as the Podcast

As a fan of Esther Perel’s “Where Should We Begin?” Podcast I was underwhelmed. This feels like a “bonus” episode crafted from not particularly strong leftovers. It was a bit disappointing.

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  • Anne
  • 26-10-18

Isle of the counselor

I wish she would have addressed the obvious personality disorder... But maybe because it's only one session? Otherwise it's terrific, exactly what you would expect, it's basically audio voyeurism -- like reality TV to a point

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  • Pam Flores
  • 12-10-18

Ester Perel Will Transform Your Relationships

I first heard Ester Perel on a podcast about regaining intimacy in relationships where infidelity has occurred. Her ideas were like a breath of fresh air. It was like she had turn on a light in my thought process that I never realized had been turned off in the first place. I then found her podcast, Where Should We Begin, and was floored by the vulnerability of the couples she interviewed. We can all see ourselves in each and every couple; recognize their challenges and accomplishments in our own lives. Esther has this talent of revealing what is at the core of each couples issues, in a way that has them, and you as a listener, going, “ah-ha!” Her podcast is so exceptional, and her books are as well. If you ever want to listen to the stories of others, empathize with them, learn from them, then Esther Perel’s work is for you.

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  • Tal
  • 18-10-18

Perfect

fascinating. Frofound. Surprising. Heartbreaking. Inspiring. Ms. Perel is an amazing therapist and person: so intelligent and perceptive... This listening experience was a pure delight for me, and invited much refleciton on my own life, marriage, motherhood, childhhod and all my relationships.

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  • Renee
  • 06-10-18

liked even when I expected not to

I really enjoyed learning to the different struggles that couples and families have and Dr. Perel's ability to get them to explore their feelings and emotions in a supportive way.
I picked the book as it was the 2nd pick and closest thing to something I was interested in. I was sad when it ended as I really enjoyed all the guiding advice.
Give it a try. I think you will not regret it.

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  • Rada
  • 05-10-18

wow.

like seriously. I dislike podcast but this..is..amazing and you can learn so much from it to help your own relationship become stronger. to understand your partner more and just learn be a better person. Try it, if you dislike it just return but I strongly recommended everyone to try this book :)

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  • jlontanon
  • 18-05-19

To much drama

To long to listen to others not taking responsibility. I would would simplify in 3+1 rules

1.- Listen without judging.
2.- Respect the other person always.
3.-Love the other person as they are, completely not by parts.

+1 Be honest and don’t lie.

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  • Fenyx
  • 22-10-18

Man shaming and irresposible counseling

This therapist is a perfect example of unprofessionalism. In the couples counseling, she tends to blame the men for nearly everything, portraying the women as victims. I don't claim to be a marriage expert, but as a woman I have been happily married for over a decade to a man in a marriage which according to nearly every statistic out there should not have lasted, and the way this therapist portrays things simply isn't accurate. There are a few moving moments in some of the stories told, but for the most part I was shocked at the unprofessionalism and clear bias this therapist portrayed.

The icing on the cake came in the example of the final story, that of a newly divorced couple who got along well and wanted to ensure they continued to do so. This so-called therapist repeatedly encouraged the man to give his wife the second child she'd always wanted as an "apology" for all he supposedly did wrong during their marriage. She also stated that the act of considering financial readiness prior to having a child is ridiculous and unnecessary. This woman clearly comes from a background that places great value on bringing children into the world regardless of the circumstances, but to guilt a newly divorced man into having another child with his ex-wife when he has already stated his reasons for not wanting one is ridiculous, unprofessional, and wrong. She should lose her license for that type of "treatment."

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  • me
  • 18-10-18

Not in a relationship happy to have listened.

Such a helpful and eye opening experience. I recommend it to anyone, especially those not currently in a relationship.

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