Let's make a deal, you and me. Let's make promises to each other. I promise to tell you my story. The whole story. I'll tell you about a boy in love with Jesus, who, at the fateful onset of puberty, realized his sexual attractions were persistently and exclusively for other guys. I'll tell you how I lay on my bed in the middle of the night and whispered to myself the words I've whispered 1000 times since: "I'm gay." I'll show you the world through my eyes.
I'll tell you what it's like to belong nowhere. To know that much of my Christian family will forever consider me unnatural, dangerous, because of something that feels as involuntary as my eye color. And to know that much of the LGBTQ community that shares my experience as a sexual minority will disagree with the way I've chosen to interpret the call of Jesus, believing I've bought into a tragic, archaic ritual of self-hatred.
But I promise my story won't all be sadness and loneliness and struggle. I'll tell you good things, too, hopeful things, funny things, like the time I accidentally came out to my best friend during his bachelor party. I'll tell you what it felt like the first time someone looked me in the eyes and said, "You are not a mistake." I'll tell you that joy and sorrow are not opposites, that my life has never been more beautiful than when it was most brokenhearted.
If you'll listen, I promise I'll tell you everything, and you can decide for yourself what you want to believe about me.
This is a story that needs to be told. We are all on a journey. All in need of God's grace.
kept me on the edge of my seat. great for a Christian unfamiliar with the struggles of gay Christians. yes, Cole is a great model of what it means to be gay AND Christian.
First of all, let me say this: I'm a celibate gay Catholic. The problem with this book is that it is redundant. It fails to inspire the reader. The author has no victory in his life and deep down he sounds so unhappy. I'm not sure how this book helps other single gay christians neither do I understand the purpose of it being written?
If was nice to hear the authors perspective as a gay Christian growing up in the evangelical church. I do however have a more progressive view about homosexuality and the church then even he does, which surprised me. Worth the read to help move the conversation forward.
Review: single, Gay, christian
This is an inspirational story for anyone - gay or straight - wanting to know more about the struggles of a suffering minority, and how, through Christ and intimate friendships, gay Christians can find not only strength to endure, but also realistic hope for a wonderfully fulfilled life of love.
While my personal adolescent journey through college was quite different, Gregory Coles beautifully articulates a strikingly similar struggle with the fears, longings, anger, and heart-wrenching questions that I myself have wrestled with throughout my years of celibacy in pursuit of Christ. It is encouraging to hear a reinforcement of the same conclusions, reached through reason, experience, and faith, which I have also come to regarding a God-honoring view of sexuality.
Single, Gay, Christian is a book I wish I had a decade ago; but it's written for today. It addresses the most popular notions used in culture to justify a gay lifestyle in light of Biblical admonishment; it reminds the church body that marriage is not the ultimate goal of life, and to consider and care for their struggling brothers and sisters who do not have it in their future; it ties relevance of the principle of self denial - which is felt so prevailingly for the single gay Christian, into the lives of every follower of Christ; and it provides non-Christians with an opportunity to understand more deeply the decision of celibacy for a single, gay, Christian. Recommended for all people.
The moment I started listening I was challenged. This book succinctly put into words thoughts I have been feeling about the 21st century Church and being gay. As a Christian Conservative, I often fail to realize the burden one might feel as a gay Christian. The open honest dialogue that was shared also convicts me, and encourages me in the temptations with which I struggle.