At the age of 26, Tina Swithin was swept off her feet by a modern-day Prince Charming. Married just one year later, Tina soon discovered that there was something seriously wrong with her fairy tale. The marriage was filled with lies, deception, fraud, and many tears. Tina was left in an utter state of confusion. This wasn't the man that she married - was it?
Tina first heard the term narcissistic personality disorder from her therapist in 2008 but quickly dismissed the notion that something could be wrong with her husband. It took several years for Tina to begin researching the disorder, and suddenly the past 10 years of her life made complete sense. Tina soon discovered that there is only one thing more difficult than being married to a narcissist, and that is divorcing a narcissist.
Tina's blog, One Mom's Battle, was created in 2011 to document her struggles with divorcing a narcissist in the California Family Court System. Tina's blog gained international attention and a quarter of a million page views in its first year while appearing on The Huffington Post, Examiner.com, Washington Times and Yahoo.com. Tina's blog has become a support system and a lifeline for thousands of women across the world, and her new book, Divorcing a Narcissist, will take that support system to the next level.
In her book, Tina explains how a smart, independent woman can fall prey to a narcissistic man. Tina discusses the red-flag reflections that she chose to ignore while dating and during the marriage. Tina acted as her own attorney in a divorce that can only be described as hell on Earth, and she will share the strategies that helped her to navigate through this battle while maintaining her sanity and sense of humor.
loved this book it helped me understand narssasism more, Tina your an inspiration thank you
I have mixed feelings about the book, the writer gives a clear description of her experience some of which resonated with me and helped me to reflect on my own experience, other's, not so much. While I have no wish to re-victimise the writer I did honestly get the sense that some parts of the story were dramatised or embellished, for example an account of a pool accident describes how her 7 year old (if I recall correctly?) daughter counted each gulp of water as she desperately tried to keep herself and her sister afloat, I found that implausible, in another part the writer discusses an entry in her daughter's diary, which I didn't feel needed to be shared publicly. All in all it was light on advice, but really helped me a lot and just 'nice' (though nothing nice about narcissism) to know other people are going through similar experiences and you're not alone.
I wish I read this earlier in my divorce process. I gained so much knowledge and peace of mind knowing that I’m not alone and a lot of my ex’s behaviors are ‘normal’ characteristics of a narcissist.
really comforting knowing I am not the only one that thinks the court system is crazy! wish the author had narrated it as I would feel more emotion, but I found this book very helpful.
Book is nothing like the excerpt. Amazingly little insight into her own behaviors which she describes but doesn't reflect on.
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