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Becoming Us

By: Jake Graf, Hannah Graf
Narrated by: Jake Graf, Sara Dunham
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This is the inspiring and moving memoir of a couple in search of a normal family life. And in many ways that have found that: married, doing jobs they love and expecting their second child. But their journey there has been an extraordinary one...

Becoming Us is the inspiring and at times heart-breaking memoir of Jake and Hannah Graf, the UK's most visible transgender couple and family. We follow their extraordinary paths towards the 'normality' they have always longed for, as they navigate the many challenges and pitfalls along the way.

Born in 1980s London under Section 28 and assigned female at birth, Jake knew from a young age that he was in body that didn't fit. Hannah was assigned male at birth, and growing up in small town Cardiff she hid her innate femininity from her family and friends until joining the British Army in her late teens. Their journeys were wildly different, Jake falling into drug and alcohol addiction, Hannah excelling in the military and serving across the world. Hannah would later come out as trans and be awarded an MBE by HRH Prince William. Jake discovered community and purpose in the film industry. But it was only after they found themselves that they were ready to find each other.

Now, they are married and parents to two beautiful daughters. Amid soaring levels of hatred and transphobia in the UK, Jake and Hannah have chosen to tell their story in the hope of increasing awareness, raising visibility and spreading some much needed love and understanding around transgender people and their lives. They hope too that in sharing their experiences, they will help in the fight for inclusivity, acceptance and support across all demographics.

©2023 Jake Graf and Hannah Graf (P)2023 Hodder & Stoughton Limited
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'The UK's most influential LGBT Power Couple' - Guardian

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I loved this book. Jake and Hannah are truly inspirational people who have overcome so much. I would highly recommend this book

A beautiful journey

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A lovely heartfelt honest journey of a wonderful couple it’s great how the book gives a real education in identity.

Beautiful book

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Wonderful story of the real struggles of being born in a body you don't recognise yourself in. A sorry of overcoming your own fears and vulnerability but also strength and bravery. Special admiration for the people who supported these two human beings with becoming their true self.

Beautiful!

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Insightful book into an area I did not have much knowledge on. Very well written and narrated.

Interesting & informative

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I found this so uplifting listening to the honesty and openness of two beautiful people. A story of encouragement, bravery and love.
This book is well written and perfectly narrated. Two positive role models of our society.

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