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Babyproofing Your Marriage

How to Laugh More, Argue Less, and Communicate Better as Your Family Grows
Length: 5 hrs and 42 mins
Categories: Erotica, Advice
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Addressing both the male and female perspective, Babyproofing Your Marriage explores the impact of parenthood on marriage. It attacks the complicated subject by detailing the insights of and lessons learned by both men and women. Quotes from real people, bolstered by the author's own experiences as young mothers and wives, give the work a balanced and honest voice, fuelled by first-hand knowledge.

Like a friend who will give it to you straight, Babyproofing Your Marriage speaks to the listener with candor, humor, and empathy. The book explores many common frustrations, including division of labor disputes, the confusion of changing roles and expectations, the anxiety over sex (or lack thereof), and dealing with parents and in-laws.

Yet rather than just providing reassurance that such aggravations are common, the book offers insight into why marital problems occur and how they can be addressed. This analysis of marital issues is especially fascinating because it clearly demarcates the differences in male and female opinion. Explaining the deep divide between how men and women respond to parenthood, the authors provide a way to bridge the gap; they offer innovative remedies for the negative influence of young children on marriage.

Touching a raw nerve, the book strikes at the heart of who we are as individuals, couples, and families, by discussing subjects that are normally taboo. People don't want to appear disloyal to their spouse or seem resentful of their children, but at the same time, they are desperate to find solutions. With insightful analysis, unique advice, and a humorous tone, Babyproofing Your Marriage will become an indispensable guide for parents everywhere.

©2007 Stacie Cockrell and Cathy O'Neill (P)2007 HarperCollins Publishers

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"Will give you an honest look at how your marriage will forever change once baby makes three....The authors - all married, with seven children among them - don't have fancy initials after their names, and the book is all the better for it. Instead, readers will find funny, honest, and candid observations that will have you realizing: 'So, that's what my spouse is thinking.'" ( The Fresno Bee)

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Superb!

This is a must listen for every parent. Study it and apply it. Im excited for you

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  • JustACustomer
  • 04-02-09

I recommend for Men to purchase for themselves.

My opinion: written by women for men. A little one sided. If your a dude buying a book for yourself - it was eye opening and surprisingly did vindicate a number of my wifes statements which made me certain I was being manipulated. (supporting documentation for things like my doing the dishes "turned her on").

The fact that I bought it and listened to it (and called my wife every night while travelling to discuss the subject matter) was beneficial and gave me an unemotional platform to suck some information out of her on her mental mechanics.

I think it meant something to her that with our impending baby that I cared enough to listen to a book on our marriage. She even laughed when I called to tell her that the three female authors (who are a little short on the male perspective) were driving me nuts and I wanted to throw my iPod out the car window.

There was about 45 minutes I was near throwing my iPod out the window of my car as I listened to three women who just couldn't agree with each other more. So brace yourself. Half of the recording is them repeating how many women attested to them that men "just don't get it".

In the end I decided that it was smart that as a man I get the female perspective. I would not suggest listening to this if you are a woman. The male viewpoint may not be represented enough for it to be of value to you. As a matter of fact it could be a detriment. Had my wife bought it for me it would not have had the same affect.

Overall, I did learn a few things and enjoyed using the subject matter to engage my wife and enjoyed relating a number of the topics to her.

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  • Optimusgene
  • 17-09-19

Not applicable in 2019

First, this book focuses strictly on babies. If you are like me and have kids who are a little older (twin 7 year olds), it doesn’t have much to say. Second, and more importantly, this book is only helpful if your marriage is stuck in the 50’s or you and your spouse are. The gender roles it portrays are so old fashioned they aren’t even funny anymore. If you are reading this in 2019, are married, have a baby and you / your husband has no idea how to change a diaper, feels spending time with the family is “emasculating” (direct quote) and doesn’t help with house chores, you / he have problems this book cannot begin to help. Unless your doing a history report on how marriages worked in the 50’s, don’t bother.

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  • RoseBudD
  • 06-04-15

Horrible book

Would you try another book from the authors and/or Christopher Burns and Jennifer Van Dyck ?

No.

Has Babyproofing Your Marriage turned you off from other books in this genre?

Yes.

Any additional comments?

This book was basically an angry mommy gripe fest. These women made their husbands and husbands in general sound like morons. The stories they relayed were of men that were so lazy that they'd go as far as lying to their wives and checking into a hotel than to be a father for the night. I was looking for proactive ways to improve my relationship or keep it alive during what has been a very tough transition for my marriage. I don't want to hear about the idiotic husbands out there and their even more moronic wives. Marriage is a partnership. There was nothing in this book to help the partnership grow and continue. It was just empowering angry women to treat their husbands even more like crap.

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  • Kevin
  • 10-11-09

I want my money back!

This book is nothing more than a men bashing fest! At one point it says "let's put it in a way that men can understand, football terms". The book says that women are perfect and any imperfection is justified and men are useless, lying, selfish and don't love their kids as much as women. It sounds like the authors are married to selfish pigs that only care about not having to be bothered by the kids and they assume all men are like that. It also says that men don't see how they can help because they are totally consumed by being the provider. This book is nothing more than insulting and offensive. I nor all my male friends with kids are anything like how this book portrays men. This book is a joke!

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  • Daniel
  • 24-04-08

Entertaining, useless original research

My wife read this book while I listened to this (abridged) version. Though I think that the compromises proposed in this book could be very useful to certain marriages, the book takes a comically anti-dude stance, mainly offering wives advice on how to train their lazy husband.

In its defense, the book is up-front about its unscientific and speculative nature. Also, the narration excellent, with quotes performed by other narrators to mix it up; it's consistently enjoyable to listen to.

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  • Jack
  • 04-06-14

Waste of Time

What would have made Babyproofing Your Marriage better?

Less sexist babbling. This book has very little to do with suggestions, recommendations, or useful advise. Its more a collaboration of pissed off bitchy wives looking to vent their frustrations.

What do you think your next listen will be?

Nothing by this author/authors.

If you could play editor, what scene or scenes would you have cut from Babyproofing Your Marriage?

I would burn the book/tape.

Any additional comments?

Don't waste your time.

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  • Dylan Wright
  • 12-09-19

Love The Conversation

Really engages your thought process. Turning the advice into practice has really helped after a few days. Hopefully the help lasts longer than just that. Mind you this isn't a book to save marriages but a place to go to know that you're normal and other people are feeling the same thing you are.

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  • Morganne Heminger
  • 29-07-19

Not meant for working moms

SPOILER ALERT: according to this book the key to a happy marriage is to give your husband a BJ once a week. That’s literally the moral of the whole book. Give him “the 5 minute fix” and he’ll do the dishes and want to spend time with the family... wtf?! I was expecting tips for date nights and how to approach certain issues and it was basically the stay at home mom’s woe is me. I really pity some of the marriage examples in this book and would not recommend if your husband is even moderately helpful and/or loving

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 24-03-19

Great Book

What a great read. It really helped both my husband and I see what the other person valued and appreciate each other more. Highly recommended!

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  • Courtney Celum
  • 15-03-19

Loved it!

Loved it! So glad to know that my marriage is not the only one in a funk after adding a baby to the mix.