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David Bennett came out to his parents as gay when he was 14 and entered Sydney's active gay community a few years later. In A War of Loves, he shares his growing desire as a gay rights activist to see justice for LGBTQI people, his journey through new age religions and French existentialism, and his university years as a postmodernist - before Jesus Christ showed up in his life in a highly unexpected way, leading him down a path he never would have imagined or predicted.

David had believed he was disqualified from God's love until he encountered that for himself in Jesus Christ. In A War of Loves, he recounts his dramatic story, investigates what the Bible teaches about sexuality, and above all demonstrates the profligate, unqualified grace of God.

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An honest account, but with some reservations

This is a book well worth reading, full of honesty and insight into a journey into discipleship. It poses questions about our own journey, and just how committed we are to Christ.

There's a risk that this book be seen as a template for other LGBT people to follow, especially since the path he followed will be pleasing to many in today's church.

Rather, it is a personal journey with something for everyone entering into a serious relationship with God. David relates considerable levels of dialogue between himself and God: ultimately he heard Him and followed the calling He wanted David to follow. Our callings may be different - we ALL need to listen and respond. Sadly, LGBT people tend to be singled out for criticism, when few in the church respond appropriately. Maybe it's a way of deflecting from our failings. Romans 2 is helpful in this respect!

There were a few points in the book which seemed less charitable. David seemed to denigrate less charismatic forms of worship - it may not be for him but people respond to the opportunity to worship in many different ways. He also condemned - by name - some Christian scholars who disagreed with his own conclusions on same-sex marriage. This was unhelpful and rather missed the point I feel. Everyone is drawn into a personal relationship with God and - in the Reformed tradition - through the Holy Spirit we can all come to an understanding of what God expects of us through Scripture. That might be hard for some people, but who said discipleship was easy?

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Edifying and honest

David’s life story and testimony to Jesus is told with a refreshing honesty. It has helped me to clearly understand how to represent Jesus in these times. People should be treated with dignity regardless of their sexual orientation.
As a single heterosexual christian women I found the book to be so encouraging. I have had very few conversations about my singleness, and therefore celibacy, in my 25year christian journey. It’s not a life I chose but a circumstance I found myself in. The scriptures quoted echoed those that have anchored me over the years… Jesus is enough and David’s response to Gods leading does not deny the struggle, which I found really honouring, of David, and the LGBTQ community, and singleness.

Thank you David for such sharing your journey.

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Fantastic book, insightful & inspiring!

David's storey is challenging & inspirational. A must listen book! Whether single, married, straight, gay or anything else this book has something for everyone.

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A must read

Found David’s journey to Christ very inspiring touching and challenging. Jesus desires for ALL to experience His love, unfortunately the church has set barriers that keep people from encountering Christ.
My takeaway is that let everyone come to know and experience the love of Christ, Each of us will continue on a imperfect journey of transformation into His image while we are on earth. Only in heaven will our bodies become perfect.

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An important voice for the church to hear

a very challenging, thought provoking and inspiring story of a journey to live for God

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David is the real deal!

Having met David several months ago, and now having read his book, I have been deeply impacted by his honesty, by his theology and by the touch of God upon him.

As a hetrosexual married Christian leader, this book hit many of my prejudices head-on. Particularly in the final two chapters, David nails truth that not only exposed some of those prejudices in me, but which has actually helped me to realise that sins that I have judged members of the LGBTQI community for in the past are actually more present in myself than I would care to admit.

The underlying theme of this book (hence the title) is that when we experience a true revelation of the love that God has for us, all other loves and desires become secondary. God's great desire for us all is that we would each encounter His love in such a way that it would inspire and even drive us to lay everything else down for it. As with the parable of the man who sold everything to buy the field in which lay the greatest of all treasures, David is living proof that when we choose to lay down our human dreams and desires, and instead pursue a life of sacrificial love for God, that manifests itself in faithful obedience, we can experience a depth of love that truly satisfies us and that many never find.

This book is full of grace AND truth. Not the misunderstood kind of grace that people take as a license to do what they want, but true grace which gives us the power to live a holy life that is pleasing to God.

David's example has challenged me to the core and I would definitely recommend this book to anyone who genuinely wants to know how to effectively minister to people living in a broken world.

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A really helpful memoir of a life of discipleship

David's story is told with a depth of honesty that's disarming and rare. Without making the mistake of resorting to cold rationalism, David allows his story to become a biblical theology of experience. This is a generous gift from David.

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  • Jeremiah M. Lorrig
  • 11-03-20

The intersection of LGBTQI and Christianity

The author makes you think. Obviously many will read this because of the shocking and fascinating story. However, what Bennett successfully does is move beyond the narrative to deep and thoughtful analysis of cultural, religious, ethical, and philosophical issues surrounding the interaction between traditional (orthodox) Christianity and the experiences of LGBTQI persons.

I admit that some parts made me cry, some made me cringe, and most made me think.

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  • Daniel Buck
  • 16-11-18

Just so good

as a straight man this book was great, it challenged my love of scripture and how i love others.

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  • Heather
  • 12-07-21

Good place to start a discussion.

The story of the book is worth the book. If your looked for a book to address the question in the Church this book has a leap in logic. For David transposed the answer for him to be the answer for all is that leap. This book is also a good place to start also for language to have the reader understand homosexuality does not equate to rape or wild sex with anything or anyone.

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  • Jack Wafler
  • 18-06-21

A fight for love

Open your heart to the truth of Scripture and the heart of this man. His story is a fight for love as He discovers the true source.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 28-04-21

Very Insightful

The book W War of Loves is absolutely amazing!! David’s clear, vulnerable, and open account of everything he thought and felt as he navigates through the ups and downs of trying to live for Christ, is something everyone should read!! I’ve never struggled with homosexuality but as a Christian, this helped me capture some beautiful questions to forward other Christians to really challenge them in their thinking. I’ve always had a heart for the ones cast aside and always felt a pull from God to speak up for them...and this has so much insight that I feel even more confident and led to not be afraid to have conversations about this topic when it comes to loving people like Jesus. Seriously people, I don’t care who you are or where you stand, read this book!!!!!!!

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  • BJR
  • 26-03-21

living with attraction

While noting the important role of sexual desire, the author makes a major point: humans can thrive without acting out sexual desire. There are many scenarios in which this happens.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 18-03-21

So honest and so God Glorifying

I didn't want it to end and bought additional copies to give away. The picture this story reveals of the Lord is so beautiful and what is sometimes so hard capture.

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  • Gina Kjar
  • 15-11-20

Adding this to my home school curriculum

we will be adding this to our homeschool curriculum. thank you for a concise and clear view of what a true acceptance of gay celibate Christian both endures and finds joy in within the body of Christ. Because of your very important work, many brothers and sisters will feel the love of the body instead of the rejection. I hope my children's generation will do a better job of loving those marginalized by the church than my generation has.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 12-11-20

Amazing

This book for me as a pastor is so helpful! life changing! Recommending this book!

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  • Julie Moya
  • 30-01-20

Read it so you can refute it ...

The Joshua Harris of LGBTQI has emerged! Wake up Christians!

In this book, Mr. Bennett looks at Scripture in a tiny appendix at the end like it's an afterthought. Then, he attempts to draw credibility by his own story of self denial.

However, not all self deprivation is Biblical, nor selfless, but an exercise in arrogance. The key is whether it is at the request of God. So, this book should have been Scripture-filled. It wasn't.

YouTube Colby Martin. He comes to scary conclusions that Mr. Bennett wouldn't like. But he uses Scripture and applicable culture for 50% or more of the book.