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34 Ways to Talk to a Narcissist: The Narcissistic Borderline Relationship Dynamic

By: J.B. Snow
Narrated by: D Gaunt
Length: 31 mins
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Summary

Many of us try to learn how to communicate throughout our lives with other individuals. We think that once we learn communication skills, we are set to talk to anyone. This belief is one that is quickly thrown by the wayside once we meet a narcissist whom we want or need to communicate with. His thought patterns and speech may be much different from anything we've ever encountered before. Before we know it, we have upset the narcissist and have gotten on his bad side, which is a very bad place to be.

In book one we detailed the different emotional places that the borderline and her narcissistic lover might come from during their development and in response to their relationships with their caregivers. As children, when we experience the overprotective helicopter parent who idealizes us far too much, the parent who can never accept the child's individuality and asks perfection of him, or the cold and emotionally invalidating parent(s) that tell us "boys don't cry", it disrupts our emotional development during the first 18 years, causing things like narcissism, borderline personality disorder, OCPD, avoidant personality disorder, antisocial personality or conduct disorders, or schizoid personality disorder.

First, I want to give a little back information on the borderline-narcissist relationship duo for those who are new to my series and refresh those who have tuned in to my other related books. The relationship duo between borderlines and narcissists tends to be more common than we think. There is no true way to get a good picture of how many relationships span this dynamic, as many borderlines and narcissists go undiagnosed or undetected. Most narcissists don't have the intuition, knowledge of their condition, or interest in their inner world to pursue why they are the way they are. It is unlikely that they would seek treatment because of their overinflated egos...

©2015 J.B. Snow (P)2015 J.B. Snow

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yet another good book by JB Snow

yet another good book by JB Snow

I really like these short books. good study subject.

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  • cheri shelton
  • 18-08-18

Really???

This narrative isn't for the person looking to find anything useful in dealing with a narcissistic relationship. In fact you will learn how to lose yourself. If a person involved in this type of abusive relationship is looking for answers, this is what you'll get: A robotic emotionally devoid voice schooling you in how to placate and feed the narcissist ego and irrational behavior. Run don't walk from this read.

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  • Jennifer Smith
  • 18-09-16

Fair, true, utilitarian

assumes the person relating to the narcissist wishes to live in harmony with the narcissist at every expends to themselves.
if you realise a Narcissit is basically self serving, and you back off when they get upset, you've already got down what this book says. it is a listing of points, and does state that they are highly territorial and have known to kill over things, objects, people that are their s. So get out of their way when anger erupts.

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  • S. Basilio
  • 13-07-17

Not what I expected

This book is about enabling, perpetuating, and catering to narcissistic behavior. That was not what I looking for.

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  • apnp
  • 04-06-18

Not worth a credit

I wish I would have bought this outright instead of wasting a credit. It was helpful just not worth 14.99

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  • Nicole Maddocks
  • 06-05-18

Incredibly boring

This is just a list read aloud. Not worth the time or money (no matter how inexpensive it may be), in my opinion.

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  • C. Bassett
  • 19-10-17

this is enabling

empathic responses are more helpful, I was hoping to find that in this book. however, this book is about enabling and making the problem worse.

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  • Craig
  • 16-10-15

A lot of good tools and information.

Very informative and eye open. Great revelation! This book brought great understanding and helped me to see the origin of some behaviors. It was very interesting to say the least.

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  • KB
  • 02-08-19

Helpful

This book is short and straight to the point.
I felt like I emotionally knew all of this but this book was a quick 'validation.'

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  • Jackie C
  • 30-07-19

The Rabbit Hole

Oh my goodness,this book is the best and the reader did a amazing work. It was as if she was talking about my husband, such a eye opener for me and how to deal with a narcissist husband.

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  • LTR51823
  • 20-06-19

All I can say is very spot on!

Very informative and helpful understanding this type of personality. After listening to this audible book I can now walk away from this toxic behavior.