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Summary

Sunday Times Best Seller

Mums: are you feeling lonely, confused or worried? Are you panicking that maybe you’re getting everything wrong? Does it, in the words of Lorraine Candy’s own teenage daughter, ‘suck to be you’ (Mum) right now? 

Welcome to the most challenging part of your parenting journey: the teenage years.

It was all going so well and then, out of the blue, the little girl you love to the moon and back turned into an irrational, fire-breathing dragon. She lives in a messy pit of wet towels and sticky mugs, hoarding other people’s phone chargers and eyebrow tweezers, while rudely rejecting maternal intervention or affection.

Do not worry. You’re not alone. Parenting columnist Lorraine Candy, a mum of four (including three teens), is here to help. Her warm and witty family memoir will lead you to a more harmonious parenting place. Alongside a wealth of hilarious personal anecdotes, Candy offers you useful, easy-to-follow, well-researched guidance from experts.

This is a survivor’s guide for mums. This book will help you connect with your daughter and feel good about your mothering as you raise the bright and brilliant young women of tomorrow.

©2021 Lorraine Candy (P)2021 HarperCollins Publishers Limited

Critic reviews

"The mothering manual we all need." (Claudia Winkleman)

"Parenting is a massive tsunami of inadequacy. This book is a gentle, supportive hand to help us ride that tsunami, both personal and objective. I found it deeply comforting."(Davina McCall)

"This book is for all mums of teenage girls who are still standing despite the daily takedowns, the hourly scrutiny of our various failings and the moment-by-moment dissection of our useless boomer existence. It will make you want to run into the street shouting 'See? It's not me – it's HER!'" (Jackie Clune)

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Amazing

I’m a father of a soon-to-be 13-year-old girl I have found this book extremely insightful and helpful and I’m grateful for the offer who has recorded their experiences and passed insights on to a wider audience I highly recommend this book

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A must read book!

This book is amazing and I am literally recommending it to anyone that will listen. Totally spot on and it has completely changed my outlook on life with my teens! I no longer feel alone. Have been a big fan of Lorraine Candy since stumbling across her midlife podcast but now post this book I just want to give her a massive hug and say a huge thank you!

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Well worth it if you have a daughter

I would wholeheartedly recommend this book. In fact, it should be issued to every mother upon giving birth to her daughter! I wish Lorraine had written it earlier! I’ve found it massively helpful already.

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The Bible for all Mothers of Teenagers

Gosh I wish I had this book when my children were tweens!! So much amazing information and experience.

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You must listen to this!

I feel so fortunate that I discovered this book early in my daughter’s teen years. I had been worried that we were drifting apart and that our constant bickering would lead to a breakdown in our relationship. A few chapters in and Lorraine’s calm, sensible advice helped me see where I could change in easy ways and not take everything so personally.

Having listened to the whole book now I’m going back to the start to pick up more tips I may have missed first time around. Since listening my daughter and I have had no major arguments. I’m not saying that we will never argue again! But without her needing to change her behaviour at all I feel totally different and it simply doesn’t affect me as it did, meaning more harmony at home.

Cannot recommend more highly!

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Reassuring bible

Found this book at a desperate time and laughed and cried throughout and found reassurance in the experiences and content shared. Thank you for writing this, really has been a huge support and resource bank of tips and strategies for surviving this stretch of life!

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Wow laughed and cried !

This book is so relevant … I couldn’t wait to put this book on! I’m so pleased I listened on audible … Lorraine Candy I’m so glad I found you. The section about university was particularly emotive even though my daughters are only tweens I could tell the writer spoke from the heart. It really makes you realise that the time we have with our girls at home is short don’t sweat the small stuff but discuss the important things ! I love the tip discuss side by side rather than face to face. I admire the time and thought Lorraine clearly put into how to best raise your girls whilst being a busy working mum, how did you do it ? Time to think is a luxury, sometimes I feel I’m just in a whirlwind. This is a must read trust me it will lighten the load !

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Amazing! Every Mum of tweenies needs to read this!

Recommending this to all my friends of daughters. I laughed, I cried and I took on board a wealth of facts and tips and reassurance. A fantastic read, entertaining, informative and well worth a read/listen.

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Very useful and enlightening! Will re-listen frequently!

I wasn’t sure what to expect, as a Mum of a 17yr old who so far hasn’t caused too many sleepless nights, I thought it may be interesting for some hints on communication, especially as we’re getting to that going out with not a lot on and parties!

It was more than that and really made me think and question how I approach things and whether it’s me who has the ‘issues’!

The writer is very honest and down to earth, also brave to be so open, as are her girls to give permission for it to be public.

I had to slow the speed slightly as it raced in places, but the narrator is the writer and can be forgiven!

Thank you. I am going to upload it to my other half’s phone, he needs to hear this stuff more than me!

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Absolutely fantastic book on teens

Listening on the tube I would find myself laughing, literally, out loud with many strange looks, such were the brilliant descriptions of the antics of Gen Z teens. So helpful, my husband is now listening too and Lorraine has produced an up to date handbook for managing your teen. Listen to it now!