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Disarming the Narcissist cover art

This author is a Flying Monkey!

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1 out of 5 stars
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1 out of 5 stars
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1 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 07-03-18

This book will keep you in the abuse cycle longer and give the perpetrator new avenues to cause harm!Dangerous, victim-blaming, perpetrator-excusing. Do NOT listen to the things she tells you to do, this book will help you to become MORE invested and MORE entrapped in this abusive relationship, it will make it so much harder to leave than it is right now.
People who are in a relationship ALREADY KNOW that the abuser is damaged and in pain and have ALREADY tried everything in their power to support, love, be kind, compassionate, giving, choose their words carefully, choose their actions carefully, see EVERYTHING from the narcissist's point of view. Writing a book instructing people who are being abused by a narcissist to try harder/try a slightly different way or maybe just the same way of doing all those things is vile! She also counts only physical abuse as a reason to leave and gives no strategies for leaving.

The way she tells you to talk to a narcissist it is as though she has NEVER met one in her life, it is as though she thinks they will just sit there and listen to everything you say, you know, like a NORMAL person!
Maybe it's because she's only dealt with Narcissists when they have been forced by court to have therapy so they HAVE to appear to listen to her that she is so utterly deluded about how they behave towards their loved ones.

She wants you to feel sorry for narcissists, she wants you to try and re-mother them, she wants you to try again, bend yourself a little harder this time and, most dangerously I think, she wants you to believe that you have the power to CHANGE this disordered person. YOU CANNOT CHANGE A NARCISSIST! NOT EVER!

This Author is a massive Flying monkey!

23 of 24 people found this review helpful

Minimalist Parenting cover art

Really patronizing narrator

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3 out of 5 stars
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1 out of 5 stars
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3 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 27-05-17

Liked the podcasts and lots of content great but the narrator sounds so patronizing in this book! Especially in sections where she talks about her daughter and what specifically worked for her repeatedly.
Also not sure if it's because of narrator but it comes across as lots more to do rather than minimalist with relentless lists and planning and more lists, it's a bit overwhelming!
I really love the podcasts though so I'm not sure if maybe just the narration that makes it come across as kind of self congratulatory and a bit rigid with relentless planning lists and rules.

I love the idea and maybe the actual book would be better or with a different narrator.

3 of 3 people found this review helpful

The God of Small Things cover art

Exquisitely, horrifyingly, grotesquely and tragically beautiful.

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5 out of 5 stars
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5 out of 5 stars
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5 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 23-03-17

Read this when it first came out and it instantly became my favourite book. I have come back to it all these years later on audible and it is every bit as captivating, pulling you into the lives of the characters and making you feel everything.
The book covers many, many upsetting topics (partner abuse, child sexual abuse, death, murder) it talks about the caste system and rules of men and women. It does all this in such a vivid, almost palpable way that you can't help but finding yourself deeply involved with the characters in such a way that you come away feeling angry, elated, frustrated, hopeful, sick, distraught and much more.
Highly recommend!

9 of 10 people found this review helpful