Author of the best seller Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers, Dr. Karyl McBride draws on her expertise in treating children and partners damaged by narcissists in this practical new guide to divorce and its aftermath.
With more than three decades of experience as a licensed marriage and family therapist, Dr. McBride guides you through the emotional fallout and challenges of being married to and divorcing a narcissist. The court system assumes that both parties in most high-conflict divorces are at fault, but a narcissist can wreak havoc in the divorce process. Dr. McBride shows how to navigate this kind of divorce and how you and your children can heal afterward.
Written for those considering or already going through divorce as well as the professionals working with them, Will I Ever Be Free of You? has three parts: "Recognizing the Problem", "Breaking Free", and "Healing from the Debilitating Impact of Narcissistic Relationships". You begin by learning exactly what narcissism is, how to identify it, and how it affects relationships, then how to begin and carry on through a divorce and make the best decisions for you and your children. Dr. McBride lays out a road map of trauma recovery for the whole family, offering a step-by-step program for recognizing and healing from the particular emotional damage that narcissism causes.
This guide offers new therapeutic strategies and practical guidance for protecting yourself and your children through this difficult time.
©2015 Dr. Karyl McBride (P)2015 Blackstone Audio, Inc.
Wish we had this years ago but even though my children are in their twenties, I can help them deal with him now. All this time and now I have confirmation
that what we suspected and were confused by, was his narcissism. Thank you.
"Good ideas. But, author should not narrate."
Narcissists are not cool. But many of the ideas and lists might want to clarify the spectrum of the disorder and not just black box them - bad people yes, maybe. However, still people that act certain ways that can be understood and maybe handled based upon their own drives. Need more explanation here on what drives the behavior. This would help in untangling their over-bearing issues.
Reading needs a narrator that is a professional. This would help eliminate some of the monotone and inhalation noises that came along for the reading - especially at the end of the book (breath sounds) and the section on child abuse (monotone)? Needed a bit more effort to emphasize a point here and there.
Actions to take against narcissist craziness and the courts lack of insight were helpful. But not everyone married to a narcissist can't stand up for themselves. As a male and ex-spouse, not all information was relevant - the guys perspective here could be beefed up?
That ALL said, listen up and read/listen to this book - especially if you are still listening to the demands of narcissists person in your life. Simply, nobody else seems to want to address this issue - including the courts, mediators, and especially the narcissist.
My reading matter is varied but I purchased this book to provide insight into partners with NPD for my work, this book met my expectations of what I wanted to get from it.
I recently purchased a number of books on this topic and this is the one I chose to read first, I found it a good buy.
Not many writers can pull of reading their book but I found this fairly easy to listen to and thought she gave a credible performance.
I thought it will make a useful resource for someone like me who works with clients in DV relationships. I think clients who are in an abusive relationship would benefit from reading or listening to this book as many of them feel like they are going mad because people outside the home have also brought into the charm and manipulation of the Narcissist and believe the victim is neurotic and has MH issues.
Really insightful look at Narcissist Personality Disorder behavior for those still in the relationship, thinking of separating or divorced from someone with NPD.
"A must-read for staying sane"
I wish this book had been been published back when I was getting ready for and going through my divorce! As a marriage and family therapist, I'm now recommending this book to many of my clients who are considering or in the midst of divorcing a "difficult person." It is validating and informative.
"I love this book, I wished I had it sooner!"
I could not stop reading this book hit everything that I knew wasn't right! LOVE!
"An eye opener!"
Truly don't know. I only purchase audiobooks but in my opinion the audiobook is great
I wish I could have because I was desperatedly looking for answers.
"One track book"
This book's inevitable conclusion is that A) They (probably "he") is a narcissist; and B) even if he's not he's probably close enough - and if you're not sure then: C) Refer to Item A.
If you're involved with a full-blown narcissist sociopath, then be all means, protect yourself. But otherwise, steer clear of the jaded, destructive embodied in this book.
"Lacks Scientific Testing"
The subject matter, having to deal with a narcissist, was great. However, the author contradicts herself fairly often and doesn't seem to notice it. It makes her advice less than optimal. In addition, unlike Martha Stout's Psychopath Next Door, which treated the reader to the full range (or close to it) of psychopathic personalities, McBride has a very limited and rigid view of narcissists. George Simon's In Sheep's Clothing also seemed to understand and convey information better than McBride. But, Sheep's Clothing was about manipulation in general. I was hoping to sink my teeth into an in depth perspective on narcissists. It is clear McBride's views are largely driven by the psych education of the 1960s-80s. She could definitely update her views by taking advantage of all the advancements made in the field. Even with its shortcomings, it was still enjoyable to read. Though, I will keep searching for a definitive book on the subject.
"Will I Ever Be Free of You!"
An excellent book - one of the best I've read yet!! As a divorce court deputy clerk and a retired police officer, this book is hits it on the mark. I recommend it to all divorce commissioners, custody evaluators and mediators, and District Court and Juvenile Court judges. Like domestic violence, the problems identified know no class lines and are hard for most to identify and respond to, until it's too late. The "crazy-maker' tends to succeed in his never-ending lose/lose battle over monies, custodial issues, control, and more, - and at his family's and societies expense. Education is key.
"Super helpful! Will buy the paperback as well!"
Finished this audio book in less than a week during my commute to and from work. The author reads her book, which adds an extra enthusiasm and passion to the information provided! I 100% recommend this book to all families going through life or divorce with a narcissist!
"I feel like I wrote this book!!!"
Anyone divorcing a Narcissist must read this book. It has help me understand that I am not crazy and how I should deal with my ex. When I am done with my divorce I would have been able to buy a brand new car! Please read this book. It will help you understand so many things that you are feeling.
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