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  • When the Past Is Present

  • Healing the Emotional Wounds That Sabotage our Relationships
  • By: David Richo PhD
  • Narrated by: Tom Pile
  • Length: 10 hrs and 20 mins
  • 4.8 out of 5 stars (80 ratings)
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When the Past Is Present

By: David Richo PhD
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Summary

In this audiobook, psychotherapist David Richo explores how we replay the past in our present-day relationships - and how we can free ourselves from this destructive pattern. We all have a tendency to transfer potent feelings, needs, expectations, and beliefs from childhood or from former relationships onto the people in our daily lives, whether they are our intimate partners, friends, or acquaintances. When the Past Is Present helps us to become more aware of the ways we slip into the past so that we can identify our emotional baggage and take steps to unpack it and put it where it belongs. Drawing on decades of experience as a psychotherapist, Richo helps listeners to:

  • Understand how the wounds of childhood become exposed in adult relationships - and why this is a gift
  • Identify and heal the emotional wounds we carry over from the past so that they won't sabotage present-day relationships
  • Recognize how strong attractions and aversions to people in the present can be signals of own own unfinished business
  • Use mindfulness to stay in the present moment and cultivate authentic intimacy
©2008 David Richo (P)2014 Audible Inc.

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Mind blowing.

Arguably one of the most important books you will ever read especially if you are not familiar with the notion of transference. You might need a second reading of the first chapters though.

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An excellent book

One of the best books around that explains the unconscious processes that affect our relationships.

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Laborious

Whilst the message of this book is of value and I understand the thoughts behind the process, I found this a laborious listen. I have persevered about three quarters of the way through and now frankly given up as I would prefer to spend my time listening to or reading material that spurs me on. I found it convoluted and repetitive, notwithstanding the importance of the message it was trying to convey.

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Blew my mind, changed my world

this book changed my view of myself and my relationships. well read, clear, scientific and not too much spirituality

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I full and insightful book

I loved the book, it answered so many questions about why we behave how we do.
I’d recommend it to anyone who is repeating patterns of behaviour and has an inkling it may come from childhood and growing up. It will definitely help anyone on a soul search and spiritual pathway to understanding themself

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In a nutshell

Everything about this title made perfect sense. I think I was ready to hear the wisdom. I wish is found this sooner.

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Helpful in every way

If your looking for this then it’s the perfect find for you.Thorough,thoughtful and insightful!

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Fantastic

I picked this audiobook straight after finishing another audiobook by the same author. Enjoyed it as much as I did the first one. As I write this review, I'm starting to listen to a third book by the same author.
I find the narrator's voice very soothing and in line with the book's valuable message.

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Fantastic piece

A very nice listen . I am now following David Richo and will learn more.

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acceptance aside, this is a book is a must.

the wonderful people and experiences past, and this book create a wonderful potentia freedom from the known. a book I wish I read a decade ago.

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