In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be positive all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people.
For decades we've been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F*ck positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let's be honest, shit is f*cked, and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn't sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is - a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck is his antidote to the coddling, let's-all-feel-good mind-set that has infected modern society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up.
Manson makes the argument, backed by both academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited - "not everybody can be extraordinary; there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault". Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek.
There are only so many things we can give a f*ck about, so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.
©2016 Mark Manson (P)2016 HarperCollins Publishers
So painful, couldn't even get through it. The author seems so full of himself, and regularly uses tortuous metaphors at unnecessary points.
"The no-BS approach to Buddhism"
The no-BS approach to Buddhism, paradoxical thinking, and 'letting go'.
Mark Manson's personal experiences; the lifestyles he's lived, the places he's been, and the people he describes. Everything about it echoes known truths, but it's presented in such a comprehensive fashion.
The story about Josh, although brief, tackles the counterintuitive implications of life and death to a tee.
I laughed numerous times. Some of the lesser-known advice was presented in such a humorous, lighthearted manner.
While mirroring Buddhist philosophy within the context of the self-improvement genre might normally be considered overkill, Mark Manson does an exceptional job of demonstrating some of the most important paradoxes therein, and asking the crucial questions that could potentially lead to a more fulfilling existence. Tackling themes such as rejection, anxiety, death, and our society's self-indulgence and sense of self-importance, this book isn't just a reminder not to follow the herd, but to also look within and accept responsibility for one's own shallow desires, addictive personalities, or other roadblocks to a meaningful existence.
This book is one of the better self-help books I've ever read, and the performance was phenomenal as well. I'd gladly read this a second or third time.
"Great book for the "everyman.""
This was written well—though sometimes I found the anecdotal descriptions a little tedious or obvious.
The book is funny, direct, and for the most part, I agree with a lot of Mark Manson's ideas.
However, after listening to the book once, it seemed like his point was: "Your problems aren't that bad; don't be narcissistic; get over it." But there are some issues that are much more complicated than that—and the cause and/or result of all problems can't just be roped into selfishness, narcissism, and immaturity. Granted, these can be causes/results of behavior, but the view is limited.
In my opinion, this book is helpful for getting through the day to day minutiae and trivial problems we have in relationships and business, and perhaps not in-depth enough for those with more deep-seated issues or trauma.
All in all, this book is worth a read, if not for the entertainment value alone, but also for a crash course in how to not be a big baby about things that don't really matter in the long run. It's a good introduction into some older philosophical and religious concepts as well.
"NGAF - Not as simple as it sounds"
Part of me bought this book because I thought it was funny and quirky, part of me bought it because I was sick of giving a f*^k about so many little things that ate up my day, I didn't have any energy for the things that really mattered.
This book isn't about throwing everything to the wind and turning in to a useless blob. It's about giving f^*ks where f^*ks deserve to be given, placing your f^*ks where they're going to do you good instead of drag you down. I highly recommend it, but if you pass on it, I really don't give a f^*k.
"keeping it real and knocking it out of the park"
I loved the down- to-earth delivery of some deep and rich content. It left me with a mental picture some GF coins - where there's only so many things in life 'really' worth spending them on.
"Honest Fun Wisdom"
I think this book well deserves to have both the print version in your shelf and the audio in your phone
There isn't a moment of boredom, but the last chapter is perfection.
When you choose a path, you choose the problems with it. Because there are always problems. Just try to get better problems. Choose the pain you want to suffer.
Mark Manson made a great work, and I think this book will really help anyone who dares to listen and get a slap in the face.
"Nice book, great audiobook"
I have always enjoyed Mark's writing, so I pre-ordered the ebook. But often not having as much time to read as I'd like, I decided to pick up the audio book version. Roger Wayne is fantastic! He didn't just "read" it he was in it. Excellent.
I like Mark's succinct writing style. It's got a lot of Buddhist references in here.
Just a very fluid read, he put emphasis where it needed it, he impersonated voices when it was called for. One of the best narrators I've heard.
If I could have I might have but I did not. But there is a lot to absorb and reflect upon.
"I Don't Give a F*ck if You Read This"
An excellent look into life from a rational perspective. Gives a good guide to take off the blinders of positivity and choose what is and is not important to deal with. Also, if you like the book, look into stoic philosophy.
"Exactly what I needed"
An entertaining book with substance and wonderful insight. The topics are thought provoking and serious but discussed with realistic situations, some humor, and honesty. I highly recommend!
"I really enjoyed it. Top ten for sure."
Well, they swear alot and it takes a minute to get going. But it's quite good and well worth a listen. I loved it.
"Entertaining with Great Insights"
No F-cks Given
Who was my favorite character?.... What a stupid question.
Stop asking me stupid questions.
There are many "Core Values" that self help books help you find. Mark explains what his current Core Values are, which at first glance are quite unusual, then he explains them in a way that makes sense. I've listed out my core values before, but I now have to rethink them and possibly change them to better suit me after listening to this book.
The tone of the audio book, which was not recorded by him but I think the narrator did an excellent job, was very in line with the title of the book. I've read a lot of self help books and a lot of them overlap. When I first downloaded this one, I was hesitant to start it because I hate how all of them always start out by trying to capture the "I've been where you are before" stereotypes. From the get-go, the book is very entertaining. It packs in humor into an otherwise depressing subject. A lot of authors go for empathy when addressing serious problems such as "Worrying too Much." Mark jumps right into humor and sarcasm. It was packed full of useful information for somebody like me who worries too much about what others think. At the same time, he kept it entertaining so that I plan on listening to it again just for the humor and to let the information sink in again.
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