In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be positive all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people.
For decades we've been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F*ck positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let's be honest, shit is f*cked, and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn't sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is - a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck is his antidote to the coddling, let's-all-feel-good mind-set that has infected modern society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up.
Manson makes the argument, backed by both academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited - "not everybody can be extraordinary; there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault". Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek.
There are only so many things we can give a f*ck about, so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.
©2016 Mark Manson (P)2016 HarperCollins Publishers
lots of swearing and immaturity initially followed by patronising generalisations. profanity masquerading as wisdom. disappointing but good in small parts. sorry for non use of capitals. I'm being lazy and don't give a f#ck
If you're looking for (another) self help book with lists, tactics and reviews of your life so far and feel good ways to 'fix' broken you then don't by this. Throw your money at the people that cite numbers of successful candidates but always omit those that fell by the wayside (because their method doesn't work for most).
I purchased this almost as entertainment but it seems I have found at least one of the few 'gurus' that give an honest appraisal of life. Not so much a negative or stoic view as such, but the author simply offers some facts that will hopefully give you a little more perspective and guidance on how to live the life you want. Or not. Who gives a f**k?
Listened to twice in under a week.. A MUST! Will also be purchasing the hardback copy to! If your unsure on the authors style or outlook, I'd highly recommend checking out his articles on his website, just Google markmanson blog
Honestly, this isn't a bad jumping off point for kicking off some deeper thinking. However, it is pretty damn sexist in places, and straight up lazy in others. Mark is definitely someone who, despite all his self work, hasn't really thought that some of his readers might be, y'know, um.. women. Still it doesn't take away from what is being said most of the time, just a shame no one in the whole editing process pointed out some of his goddawful lazy stereotypical ideas might want to have an equality update. From the smallest things (like calling men, well 'men' but women the infantilizing and unequal 'girls') to the glaring fact that he maybe shouldn't put on an array of mock squeeky 'girl voices' when quoting words of women.. ... .. Yep. That really happens. Definitely not intended for women listeners, which is a shame as I don't think the ideas behind this apply to any one gender alone.
The first part of the book, with its slight over use of vulgar language, gives a different perspective on how to approach life. I liked the description of where best to place your "f**ks to give".
Unfortunately the second half of the book descends into waffle about the authors life experiences, which are not particularly interesting.
The reason I love this book is because it doesn't take itself too seriously, it's written for the average joe who worries to much about daily life. If you're uptight/snobbish you probably won't enjoy this but if you're just a normal person stumbling through life I believe there's a lot you can take away from giving this a listen/read.
after ariana Huffington I was not expecting much. the title was a bit misleading and i was not expecting to learn much spiritually. however this book mesmerised me. it is modern and adapted to our generation. the examples used are hilarious. there are so many great moments. his conclusion of the romeo and Julie wad epic. I would definitely consider buying the actual book. the approach was easy to understand yet very deep. I have personally related to so many of these concepts and he wraps it up so beautifully. hope I get a chance to meet mark one day in mauritius.
This is more about choosing what to care about than not caring about anything and actually reflects a lot of learning from Buddhist principles. Humour and personal examples help to apply the theories. Book is written in a logical way, so you go through a journey with the narrator. Great book!
Probably not. It has an interesting premise, and a lot of the points the author makes are useful and logical, but as a 34-year-old woman, I found it hard to relate to a lot of what the author said. It seems he's garnered most of his wisdom from years of partying and traveling. Both of those are things I haven't done extensively and don't really do now. The principles still hold true, but I probably didn't need a whole book to learn them. I think a simple blog post would do.
I really liked the narrator. Even when the book became repetitive, I was able to pay attention to him, which is saying something for me.
"NGAF - Not as simple as it sounds"
Part of me bought this book because I thought it was funny and quirky, part of me bought it because I was sick of giving a f*^k about so many little things that ate up my day, I didn't have any energy for the things that really mattered.
This book isn't about throwing everything to the wind and turning in to a useless blob. It's about giving f^*ks where f^*ks deserve to be given, placing your f^*ks where they're going to do you good instead of drag you down. I highly recommend it, but if you pass on it, I really don't give a f^*k.
"A book for 20-somethings, but not me"
I think The Subtle Art... might have had more impact upon me if I was 20-something instead of 59-years-old. The language isn't really an issue (it just becomes another word that doesn't even seem to have much meaning); it's more that Manson is repetitive and doesn't offer anything original that most people haven't learned for themselves in a few decades of experience. For me, the same ideas are expressed much more elegantly, cogently, and thoroughly in The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can't Stand Positive Thinking by Oliver Burkeman.
"He takes one concept and beats it to death for several hours"
This must be a book for the intellectually challenged. He takes the Buddhist concept of suffering being the central element of life and the acceptance of this in the 21st century then hits you on the head with it for many hours. This epiphany comes after many years apparently getting it wrong and now at the sage age of 30 he rediscovers it like an undergrad sophomore and should perhaps reread his book again. Anyone who purports to get it, doesn't get it.
"Read with caution!"
He puts a few things in perspective. That is it.
I really think his message could be dangerous for some type of minds. I initially liked his approach, but at the end of the day he seems to be putting a damper on wanting life to be great. He makes life seems as though it will suck most of the time so you need to find joy or "feel goods" in the most simplistic aspects of life, therefore, lower your expectations and have less stress until you die. He has a refreshing take on some things in the beginning, but then it fizzles bad to me after chapter 4. I will admit that my take is probably extreme, but in all, it's still accurate. He says some good stuff, but there is nothing wrong with striving for success and trying to be the best you possible.
Roger Wayne was a great narrator.
"Promising title, weak on substance"
This book has a funny and intriguing title. And Audible’s editors declared it the best self development title of 2016. So, I bought it.
The book sets out a more or less complete philosophy of life. Given this, I assumed the author had lived a long life, learned and relearned profound lessons, and was at a point where he could distill which lessons were truly the most valuable.
The book starts off strong with some interesting ideas. But its assertions seem to get weaker and more debatable as the book progresses. By the end, it felt to me as if the book had lost its way.
About halfway through I found myself wondering whether my assumptions about the author were correct. I checked. Nope. He’s just a smidgen over 30.
What leads a person just out of his 20s to decide he’s qualified to instruct everyone else how they should best live their lives, I don’t know. I finally lost all faith in the author when he quoted Timothy Ferriss.
"Great book for the "everyman.""
This was written well—though sometimes I found the anecdotal descriptions a little tedious or obvious.
The book is funny, direct, and for the most part, I agree with a lot of Mark Manson's ideas.
However, after listening to the book once, it seemed like his point was: "Your problems aren't that bad; don't be narcissistic; get over it." But there are some issues that are much more complicated than that—and the cause and/or result of all problems can't just be roped into selfishness, narcissism, and immaturity. Granted, these can be causes/results of behavior, but the view is limited.
In my opinion, this book is helpful for getting through the day to day minutiae and trivial problems we have in relationships and business, and perhaps not in-depth enough for those with more deep-seated issues or trauma.
All in all, this book is worth a read, if not for the entertainment value alone, but also for a crash course in how to not be a big baby about things that don't really matter in the long run. It's a good introduction into some older philosophical and religious concepts as well.
"Shallow and Cliche"
Mark Manson, no. Roger Wayne as narrator was good I would listen to his narrations.
Full of premises and thesis that we as readers/listeners are supposed to take in as truths without much evidence. His supports all come from anecdotes and lacks real methodology behind his ideas. The author is also in his 30s, its a bit hard for someone with still many more years of experience ahead to be telling others how to live life. It's almost like listening to a teenager for marriage advice, where's the background and proof to these assumptions that we are supposed to take as truths? There really isn't anything new here; everything is just a retelling of cliche ideas like being true to yourself etc. The entire thing just spins into a seminar about how to live life when I thought the book was about how not to give a fuck.
None. The story about Dave Mustaine was kind of entertaining.
If you've read other self help books skip this one. If you're over 30 skip this one.
For a book that comfortable with the f-word, it is tediously lame. Kudos to the author who found a way to sell this though, can't deny his business acumen. Go read the Coquette instead, at least she's actually funny. (Although as a Russian I did laugh out loud when I heard the bit about Saint Petersburg as a profound experience. Hey Mark, come visit Igarka with me)
Wasn't feeling it after the first few chapters. I can see how his writing style would be fun to read in smaller chunks like a blog, but his overall style and message got a bit repetitive and not particularly insightful. Performance was great, I'm probably just not the right audience for this author as a woman in her thirties. While I like the idea of helping younger people deal better with stress and realizing they don't need to put so much pressure on themselves- I can't say I support a culture of low expectations and such a negative view of the world. Would not recommend.
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