Everyone knows confidence when they see it; but seemingly no one can actually describe what goes into it or how to get it. The Nerd's Guide to Being Confident is an unconventional way of looking at one of the most basic and obvious human traits and what one can do to gain a little more of it without feeling like a phony. Laughter included.
©2013 Mark Manson (P)2013 Audible Inc.
Love anything by Mark Manson. This was a great quick listen. I've already listened to the whole audiobook twice and the last chapter about 5 times. Would have bought it just for that chapter.
"A More-Than-Pleasant Surprise"
Anything with "The Nerd's Guide to" in the title always stokes my curiosity because I'm a major one. There were a couple of doubts that voiced themselves when I was considering buying this title, including the brevity of the recording and the fact that anything with "Confident" in the title is probably no more than a hyped-up pep talk, but alas, I decided to buy it anyway because, hey, it's only five bucks!
I was blown away, in a good way, by the ingenuity, practicality, simplicity, and impact that this author's writing had on me. I've just finished the book, so time will tell as to whether its writings make a long-term impact on my life, but if the tangible results are as impressive as the subjective conceptual amazement that I experienced while listening to this book, then this will prove to be the most life-changing books per-minute of any to which I've ever listened.
The author has an extremely entertaining and witty way of putting things that guys (at least I) deal with every day and offers--without bull--real ways to deal with it and change it (if change is actually what's called for). I'm a huge fan of the sarcasm-laden way in which he explains the foolproof way to make your life suck as much as possible, opening your eyes with every bullet point. The outro to the book is worth listening to once a day, every day, where he tells the sad story of most guys' normal mode of thinking and how, no matter what they have *going* for them, they always find a way (and when I say "they," I mean "I" also) to envy the next guy rather than have true appreciation for what they've already got.
Mark has sucker-punched me in the brain in the funniest way possible with this book, and I would (and will) highly recommend this book, and find and sign up for the author's blogs.
I didn't think this was as bad as all the reviewers were going on about. Yes, the focus was more for adult males, but I gleaned some useful information from it. But hey it was free so I'm not complaining. I usually give free audio's about 10 minutes and if they don't jive with me I delete and move on and I finished this one. Thanks audible for the freebie.
"Profanity and Shock-Value Content, But Instructive"
I think the narration suited the content very well. However, I absolutely didn't expect the f-bombs and other profanity in a self-help book. An autobiography, comedy, or fiction... perhaps, but not with this. I identify as a nerd, but I'm less likely to identify with this book than might a 20-something male with socialization issues.
In short, you can absolutely get nuggets of value from this book, but you have to shift through a bit of angst-y window dressing to get there.
I didn't feel like Manson understood his topic as it applies to women, nor did he make much effort to reach out to them.
Irritation, but also genuine admiration for a few very good observations that I'd love to deliver to my own boys... through the Mom filter.
Some great advice, but not what I expected based on the title alone. I am recommending this book to friends, but with the caveat that they understand what they're getting.
"do not wast your time"
As other reviewers have noted, this book is geared to the 18-30 male. He has a few interesting insights. Given the shortness of the books, those insights are still too few and far between. Much of it is simply ramblings of a blogger with all the negative connotations intended. The author is way too concerned about sex and does expound crudely for no apparent reason. Mr Manson is clearly confident and happy with his sexual prowess, but I do not think he will really help anyone gain confidence and is not even funny.
"For under 30 straight men. Maybe."
I downloaded Mark Hanson's "The Nerd's Guide to Being Confident" (2013) right before heading off for a day trip to Mt. Baldy. By the time I realized I was so totally NOT the target audience for this book, I had no signal and couldn't download a different book for the drive - so I listened anyway.
I'm not a recent male college grad with self esteem issues on my second or third real job, trying to get laid by a woman in 3 dates or less, as cheaply as possible. I am a straight woman, and I've dated more than one man who has (intuitively) followed Hanson's advice. Dated them once, and definitely no sex. Maybe a polite peck on the cheek.
Not that some of Hanson's advice isn't really good, because it is. Have varied interests. Don't compromise ethical or moral beliefs to date a woman. Don't use time worrying about why someone doesn't want to spend time with you or trying to get them interested - find someone who doesn't waste your time. Adjust your language so you don't mistake your (often temporary) feelings for what you are. Good hygiene is a necessity.
What doesn't work that Hanson advises is being a c**** a** that only talks about himself and his interests. Unless you happen to do something really, really, interesting (maybe you've discovered a brand new energy source that will also solve the drought? You work for JPL/CalTech and just discovered life on another planet?), there has to be give and take. Quite frankly, any girl that doesn't want to share at least a few things about herself is just shining you on to get the date over with, doesn't want you to know anything about her, and will never return your calls; or she has serious self esteem issues of her own. And if some girl does go to bed with you, worry about what she wants, not just what you are going to get out of it. Have some pride in what you do.
According to Hanson, "Some people think I'm an idiot" (from his website). I don't think he's a COMPLETE idiot, just a partial one.
"Too much garbage to sift through"
Socially inept male from late teens to early twenties.
The profanity and writing about people, especially women, like they were objects for your personal fulfillment.
His idea of confidence comes off as a narcissistic self-absorption with little to no regard for others. It’s as though considering the opinions of others is indicative of lack of confidence in your own, therefore you need not care what others think unless it benefits you in some way. And if others don’t like you for this, then that's their problem. There’re plenty of other fish in the sea (this applies to friends as much as it applies to women).
The book isn’t completely valueless. There are a few nuggets here and there, but just way too much trash to sift through in order to get them. Also, the narrator was pretty good.
"Depressing, Foul-Mouthed Rambling on Selfishness"
You shouldn't waste your money, time, or mood. Read "How to Win Friends and Influence People" if you need confidence.
"I didn't expect the adult language"
Confidence here is defined from an adult dating perspective. The language was offensive.
Self help books shouldn't need to include warnings for offensive content.
All the f-bombs and sexual inuendo.
"Not totally devoid of value"
Written for young men, I think the author provides a couple of good insights into gaining self-confidence. However, it is mostly fluff and will not help anyone gain insight into their own problematic behaviors or what they themselves may be lacking.
Read this very short lecture simply for amusement and not as a self-help book!
"Not as bad as these people make it seem"
I suppose, I listened to and from work one day and it entertained me during.
Oh, its over, next book.
His narration suits the content very well
I think the best takeaway from this book would be the "Diversify yourself" chapter. It essentially tells you to not sink your whole self worth into one thing (be it work, a hobby or whatever) because if that one thing fails what do you have to fall back on?
I wasn't going to write a review of this book but I felt that it deserved some level headed opinions to combat the petulant rage in the reviews I had seen.
OK, so this book is an amalgamation of various blog posts from this author's page let's get that out of the way first. This entire book is already available for free elsewhere, That being said, thanks AUDIBLE for giving me this book for free and making me aware of the author whom I had never heard of.
The author does curse in this book usually for comedic effect, whether or not it works 100% of the time is based purely on your sense of humor. If you don't like cursing this book is not for you.
The author is a blogger and after taking a look at his site is a commentator on human behavior and society in general. Some stuff he says is good some is bad but it is an opinion and he backs up his statements by explaining the logic for his conclusions. Agree with him or don't but more often than not his statements are valid and it seems like he is genuinely trying to help people with his view points. Some of the reviews that people have put down for this I have to wonder if they were listening to Tucker Max and got confused as to the book they were reviewing. It's not that serious guys!
This book is written by a male and therefore most of the advice is geared for men and yes the 18-30 is probably this guys target audience but there are some good, universal nuggets of truth there that I am planning on letting some of my female friends listen to because it is good advice. And if you are a lady it's never a bad thing to listen to how the other side thinks. Included in the free books audible gave away were The Girl with Glasses and PhiLOLZophy, the former another blog fueled book geared almost exclusively toward women but I still listened to because her anecdotes were entertaining and AGAIN it is never bad to hear how other people think, the latter also written by women was geared for both sexes but more often than not edged toward more feminine values, again not a bad thing.
Lastly, this book is a self help-y book. Not all of the stuff in it is going to apply exclusively for you. You shouldn't take everything in it as exactly how you must live. Listen, consider what he says, leave what you don't like behind, be a better person. It is way easier to complain about things than to talk about what is good.
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