A great "philosopher" once said, "Trying to understand women is like trying to smell the color nine." But the fact is, men can understand women to their great benefit. All they need is the right teacher. And, arguably, there is no better teacher than John Gottman, PhD, a world-renowned relationships researcher and author of the best-selling 7 Principles of Making Marriage Work.
His new book, written with wife Julie Gottman, a clinical psychologist; Doug Abrams; and Rachel Carlton Abrams, MD, is based on 40 years of scientific study, much of it gleaned from the Gottmans' popular couples' workshops and the "love lab" at the University of Washington. It's written primarily for men because new research suggests that it is the man in a relationship who wields the most influence to make it great or screw it up beyond repair.
The Man's Guide to Women offers the science-based answers to the question: What do women really want in men? The book explains the hallmarks of manhood that most women find attractive and helps men hone those skills to be the men women desire.
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Except for perhaps one or two tips, and that it's worded like all the change or responsibility is for the man, this book is probably the best I've read (heard - thanks audible) and has many lessons. I'm sure I'll play it through a few times.
"Great advice from the Love Lab again"
If you want to develop your communication methods and create a stronger relationship, then this is an excellent choice. The term Zero and Hero are used often, and I like to think you might as well sum it up as how not to be an asshat. I was raised mostly by women and thought I had a decent grasp. This book tied together a lot of parts and pieces of the right things and behaviors floating about in my brain.
Even if you're in a good relationship you can still gain from the insights held within.
"should be mandatory"
if you love a woman, get this book. ATTUNE works immediately. there are some assumptions steeped in traditional role definitions at the end, toward the sexuality section. these may or may not apply to your relationship. either way, the content and the concept are worth a listen.
"Is there a "woman's guide to men"?"
I thought the book was incredibly insightful but after listening to it I feel waited down with an overwhelming job that can never be met. I've made uneducated attempts to accomplish these things with two prior marriages but feel that just like this book describes all time, services, resources go from men to women I would like to hear if there's some sort of balance. It also seemed to me that the more I tried to provide these suggested tasks the higher the requirement became until there was nothing left of me except a spineless man surveying an endlessly demanding woman until I needed to escape to have any vestige of a life of my own where I had some control of my time, my resources, and my own goals.
"We Want to Be Heroes For Our Wives"
This book was a-mazing! As men, we are expected to know how to love women correctly for life but that is impossible,in my opinion, without some serious help. How can we understand women when they are so different? I think many men learn trial by fire and by failing and not understanding why or what went wrong. This book allows us to be heroes by studying up, reading up versus giving up and has practical steps to make us more empowered in relationships. Who really wants to fail in love?
This book will help men (us) to get it right or as close to right as possible. I will recommend this guide to every male friend, relative, mentee and even future sons-in-law so they have a proven guide to make their wives happy. Thank you Gottmans and Abrams!
"A book for women not so much for men."
Instead of just focusing on explaining the woman which apparently can and can't be explained because sometimes alle women are the same and some times all women are completely different.
He did a good job of sounding condescending to men
Annoyance at being spoken down too most of the time. I found my self say yes, but stop talking to me like I am some sort of Neanderthal
This is a book for a self congratulating woman who like to be spoken of in the third person. I regret buying this book I got very little value out of it. The beginning was good I didn't mind what I thought was sarcasm, but as it continued on it got weary. After the way, way to short part about crazy women the book just went all in on women are wonderful no matter what. It did not make me understand women better. Rather it was a bucket list of behavior I should and should not do.
"Very basic info on how not to be an a-hole."
Could be helpful for the most obtuse clueless lot but not for the average good guy.
"Not for Veterans"
This book has great advice, but seems to be written with an audience in mind of those in the initial stages o my a relationship. I have been married for 7 years, though this was helpful, it was not intended for me.
"Their other work is better."
this is a solid introduction to Gottman's work. If you want something better developed that may be more helpful, look to Gottman's book, the seven principles that make marriage work.
this book was not bad by any means. just average.
"Good information, but lacks..."
in general, the book could provided very good information about what is going on, what can go bad, what has to happen to go right in a relationship and marriage. The chapter end summaries were very helpful, and at the same time I sensed this book could have easily benefited from being twice as long by providing specific case study examples of how a dialogue can go wrong, or right for each section. Overall, I felt the book left me thinking if I have to rely on myself to figure out how to apply what I've read, I'll always be a step behind. I don't want to feel so green when it comes to having a familiarity of being as the text describes a hero in some situation and not a zero. Therefore case studies, and specific exercises discussion questions or anything that might help a guy actually think and model this information and put it in practice would take another good book of advice youll lilely forget right ehrm you need it most and make it great.
"great listen for women and men"
this book helped me understand myself as a woman better, definitely recommend to husband and wife
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