One person talks; the other listens. It's so basic that we take it for granted. Unfortunately, most of us think of ourselves as better listeners than we actually are. Why do we so often fail to connect when speaking with family members, romantic partners, colleagues, or friends? How do emotional reactions get in the way of real communication? This thoughtful, witty, and empathic book has already helped over 100,000 people break through conflicts and transform their personal and professional relationships. Experienced therapist Michael P. Nichols, PhD, provides vivid examples, easy-to-learn techniques, and practical exercises for becoming a better listener and making yourself heard and understood, even in difficult situations.
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"This is more than a good book; it is a vital manual for any of us who would either like to feel good about our relationships or avoid dying before the end of our lives." (Carol M. Anderson, MSW, PhD, Western Psychiatric Institute and Clinic, Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania)
It wasn't clear to me that this book would focus so much on listening to partners and family members, but although I had bought this to help with listening in work settings, I found it so useful for my personal life that I listened to it all.
"One of the best books I've read in a long time"
Loved it all around. Wonderful insight, stories and instruction. I will definitely be reading (listening) to this over and over for years to come. I've already gifted this book to 3 others!
"Really appreciated this"
There are 4 basic means of communication:
I have had very little training on the last. This book was excellent and I'm excited to apply what I've learned.
"Well worth the time!"
Within the knowledge of this book lies the key to many of the world's relationship struggles. The opportunity that this information brings to you and your relationships is priceless. I would suggest this book to anyone!
What a great eye opener. I had a suspicion I was a poor listener, but wow did I learn a lot from this book.
"I must be a bad listerner cuz i kept tuning it out"
It needs to be shorter. Felt like it just kept going on about the same thing.
I would only keep the first 3 hours.
"You need this book"
If you're into self help books, you must get this one. I got it thinking it was going to be about kids and their phones. If I had to sum up what it was about without simply saying listening. I would say it's about human decency. Not the Hollywood kind with unattainable acts of benevolence but about the just being a better person kind. Part way into it, I thought this book can really help me with my annoying relationship with my mother, or help my already good relationship with my wife. At the end I realized this book can help ME. In all parts of life. I try to listen better to everyone because it benefits me. I highly recommend this book.
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