It's easy to identify rage in people who lose their temper at traffic jams, unruly children, unresponsive coworkers, and unrealistic bosses. But we may not recognize more subtle manifestations of anger, such as being uncomfortable with loose ends, acting impatiently, or being overly critical. That is anger, too. And, as is so often the case, angry folks don't seem to realize that the behavior causing them problems at home or at work actually stems from unrecognized and unresolved pain and emotional injuries from the past. Is all this negative emotion inevitable, or are there choices about how to respond, choices that can improve personal relationships as well as emotional health?
The Anger Trap is a landmark book that strips away the myths and misconceptions about anger and reveals how you can learn to distinguish between healthy and unhealthy anger so that you may choose or help someone else to choose a better, more spiritually enlightened path. The Anger Trap examines the root causes of anger and can help you realize your patterns and break the destructive cycles of criticism, frustration, and irritation that hurt you and others around you.
Drawing insight from timeless spiritual wisdom as well as cutting-edge research, Dr. Carter offers practical techniques to free you from anger, its hidden insecurities, fears, and selfishness and thereby improve the quality of your home and workplace life. The book clearly illustrates how the change process works and The Anger Trap is filled with real-life examples of the ways people have come to terms with their anger by applying the concepts Dr. Carter outlines.
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This is a great book read in a warm tone that provides different perspectives on anger from the authors clinical experience. The book isn't excessively long and the information is not repeated. Questions are given to facilitate the readers personal development at the end of each chapter.
This book is of a more reflective read and not from a cognitive behavioural perspective, there are other popular books in that format. I recommend this for those looking for insight into their personal and relationship problems with a view to changing their beliefs and behaviours that are not working. This book does not offer quick fixes but does support lasting change.
"Troubling but enlightening"
The truth sometimes hurts. If you or anyone you know is deeply troubled by anger, this book will help in understanding and begin the healing process. I found the discussion on "passive aggressive" behavior particularly enlightening and useful. It is long, the real-life stories are troubling, but its worth it because the lessons are life changers.
"Simply the best anger management book"
This audio book is the best anger management book I have read so far. If you have anger management that manifest themselves in passive aggression or active aggression , this book addresses the root cause with hope, compassion and skills for making unproductive anger a productive emotion. I leaned more from this book than any other out there so far. I wish I would have listened to this book before my wife filed for divorce. I pray that people in the same situation listen to this book to prevent the damage that divorce does to a family. Keep trying to reconcile, God brought you and your spouse together so it's Gods will to see you do what is necessary to turn your anger emotion into productive communication and reconciliation.
"Excellent message delivered kindly with compassion"
Takes a difficult topic and breaks it into meaningful pieces and then brings it all together In an affirming and inspiring manner
The reader is excellent
Captures nuances sets a like able pace and has a pleasing voice
"Real advice and strategies!"
Anger can be a tough emotion to manage, but this book could be the answer to doing just that! It's not random relaxation and stress advice..Its real tools that actually work in the heat of the moment The real. ..gritty and messy moments! Its the best anger book Ive ever read! Life-changing!
A book that can motivate change and gives you the tools to bring those changes into your life
Very good and very practical book for anger management and realizing the roots of your behavior . I learned a lot as I'm struggling with managing my anger for years. No therapy or other books helped me as much. Thanks a lot.
"Ok, But No Actual Tools to Help"
It was a good read as to 'why' you get angry and then spend the whole book to convince you not to get angry. It was appealing to your rational brain and rather than any emotional brain. I found no tools here at all to help when you are in a difficult spot to calm yourself down. So I was pleased with the 'psychology of anger', but not much actual useful help.
"Already understood, but now I know my next step."
1) Petition for this to be taught in school. 2) I wouldn't include God. Sounds like a cop out for not understanding how to scientifically being able to explain something.
I learned a couple of things. Not much. This is something that should be taught in grade school because there are too many terrible parents out there that do not teach it, even subconsciously.
The narrator did a good job. No complaints.
I know how to use my anger's energy constructively. I was looking for a book that will teach me to convince people that my way of thinking is correct so that I don't get so angry at their stupidity. This wasn't the right book for that. It teaches you to lower your standards and accept their stupidity in order to not get so angry or to waste your time trying to use that anger's energy to try to reason with a brick wall. Good book if you are not very sharp to begin with, but I didn't get much from it because the situations I'm in are not so simple that converting my anger into constructive energy can solve the problem. I'm going to go read a book on how to manipulate people to my will and make them think it was their own idea.
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