©2004 Ken R. Canfield; (P)2004 Oasis Audio LLC
"This production is about investing in the individual lives of our children with all our hearts, energy, and self-discipline. A useful lesson that all fathers should hear." (AudioFile)
This book isn't what I was expecting. It has a very Christian focus and constantly quotes from the bible. The seventh secret states that to be a good father you need to indoctrinate your child in Christianity. I put up with it until secret 7, but then I couldn't take any more and turned it off. This book is potentially offensive if you're of a different faith.
"Written exclusively for Christians"
Be aware that this book is written specifically and exclusively for Christians. It seems like there is some good advice, but I'm having trouble getting through it being reminded about every 2 minutes that this book is written assuming (even requiring) core beliefs that are not my own. Although the summary mentions only that the advice comes from "solid scientific research", the book first mentions the Bible as a primary source. Being featured so prominently in the book, this fact should have been included in the publisher's summary.
"Could be shorter and a bit churchy"
As with any work of non-fiction I was hoping that this book would tell me a lot that I would consider beyond common knowledge. Instead it offered a little.
I would have enjoyed this book more if it was made shorter by trimming the elaboration on each point.
I also think books with a strong Christian perspective should be made clear in its description so that non-denominational readers like myself are not caught of-guard and tempted to suspect the author's objectivity.
"Only the devout need apply"
As a new parent, I was looking for parenting advice. What I got was a guilt trip for not going to church. Some of the other advice was OK but it was way too churchy for my liking.
But not bad. The author assumes we're all christians. Given that, I was suprised there were no revelations. It's all good advice, but mostly obvious.
"Very good book"
This was a very good book, and while most fathers would do much of this naturally, it was good to hear it laid out with some suggestions.
"Little more than common sense"
This book is what you'd expect from a parenting book that the average "good" dad would write... Spend more time with your kids, listen to them, love your wife, go to church.
Also the name is clearly a ploy to cash in on Covey's "Seven Habits", since this book has eight secrets.
It is very preachy. If you're not comfortable with quoting scripture and being told to talk to your pastor and to pray out loud with your family... This book will make you uncomfortable.
"Try to get past the delivery"
Try to get past the delivery of information in this book.
I am not a religious man, and this book is.
The humor is dorky.
I read this book to find out what I need to do to become a better father.
The book provided that information.
"This should be read by the Author"
this kind of intimate information should be read by the author. I really like the content of the book but the reader seems cold and detached from the word by word content and message. The reader is good, but not for this type of material.
I am not at the ending yet, but I am sure it is No SECRET!
too cheerful and detached, stock, not emotionally dynamic. artificially happy. Is the reader even a father himself?
the word SECRETS should not be used in Non Fiction. These aren't Secrets, this is well know wisdom. Should replace SECRETS with the word Guidelines or something. These are not secrets of parenting, these are more like Best Methods....
"Good, but be aware if you are a single father"
"The 7 Secrets of Effective Fathers" is a good read/listen as it reinforced and provided additional depth is principals I already knew. It also introduced me to some new ideas to think about and apply in my own relationships with my kids. HOWEVER, buyer beware. This book was written with married fathers in mind. As a single father, I was upset by a few ideas and comments in the book but decided to not let that detract from the positive I was able to get out of it.
"An excellent book"
While this book contains information that most fathers might naturally discover on their own, that information is reinforced and expanded upon. Other areas that we might not be familiar with are also covered. The reading is well done and information is presented in a concise and logical manner. I recommended this book to my son who is himself a new father and would recommend it to all fathers of any age and any experience level.
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