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Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't

By: Dr. Henry Cloud, Dr. John Townsend
Narrated by: Dick Fredricks
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Summary

Safe People will help you discover why good people can get tangled in bad relationships, how to avoid repeating your own mistakes, and how to pick safe, healthy people for the friends you make and the company you keep.

Too many of us have invested in relationships that have gone wrong. Maybe you've been judged, manipulated, or controlled. Or maybe you've trusted the wrong people in the past. It's easy to make the same mistakes of judgment over and over - or, worse, to give up on trying to have great, authentic relationships again. But it doesn't have to be that way.  

In Safe People, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend teach you that being with an unsafe person can be damaging to your confidence, your trust in others, and even your health. You'll learn that you have the power to surround yourself with accepting, honest, and safe people who draw you closer to being the person God intended you to be.

Drs. Cloud and Townsend, authors of the New York Times best seller Boundaries, are here to share the lessons they've learned in their years of practicing psychology and studying the patterns and practices that support clear, biblical boundaries. In Safe People, they offer guidance for making safe choices in all of your day-to-day relationships, from family and friends to colleagues and partners.

Safe People will give you the tools you need to recognize what makes people relationally safe, form positive relationships, and even become a safe person along the way. Drs. Cloud and Townsend share expert insights that will help you ask important questions:

  • How can I learn to pick better friends?
  • Why do I choose people who let me down?
  • How did I end up with this critical boss?
  • How do I attract irresponsible people?
  • Why did I invest money with that unscrupulous person?
  • What is it about me that draws the wrong types of people to me?
  • Why am I drawn to the wrong types of people?

It's time to revitalize your connections and finally start enjoying the healthy, balanced relationships that you deserve.

©1995 Henry Cloud and John Townsend (P)2009 Zondervan

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Good very Good

What made the experience of listening to Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't the most enjoyable?

If you can ignore the very annoying God God God talk, there is Great wisdom there.

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Christian Propaganda

What disappointed you about Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't?

If you enjoyed bible study class in pre-school then this book is for you. If you think the sum of human knowledge is expressed in psalms, stuff the good lord and his PR people said you'll enjoy this almost as much as the Bible, maybe more because it's basically a recap. If however, like me, you've been fooled into thinking this book contains any psychological, clinical, or therapeutic advice at all, then not so much. Or at all. It might make you angry because despite claiming to be good Christians, these guys won't give you your money back and unless you own a time machine, you won't get that back either.

What could Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend have done to make this a more enjoyable book for you?

Not referencing Jesus, the bible or what their god has planned for me in every single paragraph would be a great start. Emblazoning the cover with a disclaimer like WARNING THIS IS RELIGIOUS PROPAGANDA MASQUERADING AS A SELF-HELP PSYCHOLOGY BOOK would be a close second.

How did the narrator detract from the book?

It's hard to detract from absolute drivel.

What character would you cut from Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't?

The authors, the publishers and anyone who conspired to make this happen. Can I get my money back please?

Any additional comments?

Just don't expect to learn anything about psychology from this book. I get that it's not an academic tome but why is it sold as non-fiction?
Even to the layperson, there is just no practical application to any of this, beyond leave it to Jesus, he has a plan for you.

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Perhaps some useful tools but very preoccupied with God

I’m afraid I couldn’t get past the constant references to god, so where the two therapists, who presumably do have some scientific background(?!), may have useful tools and concepts to offer, I couldn’t reach them through the layers of religious treacle.

What a shame!

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Helpful Book

I enjoyed this book, it really highlights the difference between safe and unsafe people, in a variety of settings no matter how subtle. I will refer to this book on creating the ability towards find attracting more safe people.

I recommend this book if you've struggled with relationships.

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great

helped me so much in all aspects of life. I really love this book and will listen over and over.

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A very helpful book

I found this Audiobook very interesting and helpful and easy to follow. I'm glad I chose it.

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narrator

I like the book very much, but not the narrator. made it unenjoyable to listen.

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Must Read

What a wonderful book. It has opened my eyes to myself and given me perspective on relationships. Needs to be read over and over.

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Good book

Really good book I enjoyed listening to the author's stories and research the relax I highly recommend.

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The narrator wasn’t right for me

Unfortunately I’m returning the book. Above everything I found the narrator too animated for the subject matter which really affected how I was able te receive the content.

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