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I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t)
- Telling the Truth about Perfectionism, Inadequacy, and Power
- Narrated by: Lauren Fortgang
- Length: 10 hrs and 44 mins
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Summary
The quest for perfection is exhausting and unrelenting. We spend too much precious time and energy managing perception and creating carefully edited versions of ourselves to show to the world. As hard as we try, we can't seem to turn off the tapes that fill our heads with messages like, Never good enough! and What will people think?
Why? What fuels this unattainable need to look like we always have it all together? At first glance, we might think its because we admire perfection, but that's not the case. We are actually the most attracted to people we consider to be authentic and down-to-earth. We love people who are real; we're drawn to those who both embrace their imperfections and radiate self-acceptance.
There is a constant barrage of social expectations that teach us that being imperfect is synonymous with being inadequate. Everywhere we turn, there are messages that tell us who, what, and how were supposed to be. So, we learn to hide our struggles and protect ourselves from shame, judgment, criticism, and blame by seeking safety in pretending and perfection.
Based on seven years of ground-breaking research and hundreds of interviews, I Thought It Was Just Me shines a long-overdue light on an important truth: Our imperfections are what connect us to each other and to our humanity. Our vulnerabilities are not weaknesses; they are powerful reminders to keep our hearts and minds open to the reality that we're all in this together.
As Dr. Brown writes, "We need our lives back. It's time to reclaim the gifts of imperfection - the courage to be real, the compassion we need to love ourselves and others, and the connection that gives true purpose and meaning to life. These are the gifts that bring love, laughter, gratitude, empathy and joy into our lives."
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- Rohma
- 09-08-18
Eye-Opening
I am someone who always tries to view the world through different lenses, through differe t people. The book has helped me see how society as a whole can shame and how we can do so, unknowingly.
Highly recommend this!
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- M🙂
- 21-06-16
Great book
Interesting book which has been an eye opener for me. Lengthy but a worthwhile listen. Def recommend.
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- Mrs V J Baker
- 19-10-20
I thought it was just me
I’ve been in a dip pit of shame for months now. After I found this book I have been able to forgive myself, and that is the greatest feeling anyone can experience. Thank you Brené Brown you have changed my life.
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- neil davies
- 20-01-21
Loved it
Thought provoking + life changing. So glad I stuck with it even though I disliked the narrator.
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- Anonymous User
- 08-09-21
Everyone should read this book!
This book has totally transformed my view of myself, others and the world around me, and it explained so much about why I have struggled for so long. It gives the theory and background as well as really practical tools for building resilience to the shame that is all around us every day. Even if you don’t struggle badly and have good shame resilience yourself, this will give you an insight and to help you understand those who don’t and why some people behave the way they do. If everyone read this and followed the advice, the world would be a much better place! Utterly brilliant!
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- James Thomas
- 11-10-22
Fantastic. So informative and so true
There is so much to learn about communication from this book. The insights into shame were outstanding. As a man reading this, I discovered so much about women and a lot about myself and how I communicate
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- sam
- 10-06-19
Great insight into shame and perfectionism
Great insight into shame especially as a shame to see how we are socially wired and made to feel from a young age, depending on your environment and parents. not much in the way of coping techniques but still a very relatable breakdown of shame and the importance of courage and vubrebiliity in order to truly connect and to begin to heal and form better relationships
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- Anonymous User
- 18-10-20
Awesome
such a powerful narrative. Everyone should have the opportunity to be made aware of the contents.
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- Natasha
- 22-09-17
brilliant book, will be listening to it again
Brilliant
e think. i will be listening to again. Mainly based on research with women but does have a chapter for men. i thonk this relates to men and women alike
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- Noor B A Darigha
- 14-11-19
Insightful!
I thoroughly enjoyed this book that explained the way in which we experience shame and we continue imposing it on other. It has developed myself awareness of shame as a person, mother, daughter and in other ways.
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