The fear of talking to people is very real and effects millions of people - but fortunately it is completely curable. Overcome it fast with easy practical steps.
Feeling incapable of chatting to people is a horrific curse and one which can affect every part of your life. Don't let it ruin your life. Overcoming shyness, social anxiety, and low self-confidence fast. Get on with your life!
Dr. Jennifer Alisons' How to Talk to Anyone is a much praised international best seller, thanks to its practical and easy-to-implement advice. You do not need to become a doctor and learn endless and often useless medical jargon to become a great conversationalist or know to deal with difficult situations in your life. You just need good solid advice you can implement into your daily life immediately with ease.
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Much much better than I expected. I had heard good reports about this book but took me a few months before i took a chance on it…and i am very very grateful i did. I found the book to be full of genuinely good advice whilst still keeping on the right side of realistic.
Very happy wth my purchase, already listened to it twice and picked up different new things each time.
An excellent resource, one full of very valuable informations, and tactics. My shyness has plagued me all my life but i am slowly (it takes time!) getting better, thanks to what I have learnt from this book. I am now on my 4th listen to it, which should say a lot. Recommend this for anyone who needs help with shyness, social anxiety and just general help with what to say in different situations and how to act / carry yourself. Great book!
My problem has always been shyness, since i was a kid. I hated social situations or anything i didn't have full control over. I have been following the advice in this book for about a month now and can feel myself gradually but surely getting better.
I no longer have huge fear over social situations, i am getting there slowly and for that i am very grateful to the author of this book. x
I liked the narrator a lot...only criticism would be the cover of this book which is not great.
If they had the same confidence, shyness, social anxiety, social awkwardness issues that i sometimes have, then yes, DEFINITELY, as i have found it hugely beneficial. Very very glad i got this book.
That it worked!
Not that i know of.
Her voice was great.
Easy to understand and to follow.
Cry once...in the best way.
Because I felt a positive change inside.
I hate how i am in public situations, to the point i often avoid them.
I feel awkward, never know what to say, i feel nervous and at times properly frightened.
Avoidance is easier than tackling it.
Things have changed and I put it 90% down to this book and 10% to myself.
Advice anyone can use.
I am so much better and for that I am eternally grateful to the author. I still have a little bit more to go but i have never felt so positive.
I have suffered from issues with shyness and social anxiety (or some sort of strain of it) for many years. In particular i find social situations difficult, i struggle to know what to say at times.
After listening to this book…well I am not going to claim i am suddenly the worlds most confident and chatty person cos i am not, but i am so much better. I am so much able to deal with social situations and to know what to say. The book is a great resource and one I intend to listen to many more times.
Really useful nook, full of very good practical advice. I have been dealing with general social anxiety, shyness etc for most of my life. This is not an overnight cure but i can sincerely say I am handling difficult situations so much easier. I can now see why so many people have recommended this book to me.
Perfect length. Not too long, not too short. The perfect length to get the message across. Narrator i would say was 4 / 5.
Great book, i feel so much better and will continue to use the advice in this book everyday!
Definitely! This book exceeds expectations. A lot of books like this take a very generic approach and I'm happy to say that this one really stood out. I've read a few of Jennifer Alison's books now and they just keep getting better. Her style is refreshing. Unlike so many other authors, she seems to really respect her readers. She doesn't patronise or offer loads of generalised advice. Rather, she always starts by encouraging you to really think about yourself, your experience, your feelings and your behaviours. Then she guides you through the self progression. I have found that this approach really works; the more you understand your fears, flaws and anxieties, the more you get out of the advice that follows. She challenges you to step outside your comfort zone and she gives you the confidence you need to do so. In my opinion, this is another winner from a great writer.
I love the chapter on conversation in the digital age. It's very current and really it's something we could all benefit from reading. The fact that we spend so much time texting and emailing nowadays really does make face to face conversation harder. Nearly everyone I know has social anxiety to some degree and this part of the book really gets to the bottom of it.
I think this book would be good for just about anyone. Whether you have social anxiety or you just don't know how to successfully strike up a conversation. I got it because I get nervous when speaking to groups at work and I'd like to feel more comfortable going out on dates. So far I'm happy to say that it's definitely working :)
I would because sometimes we all need reminded of stuff. We all have our hard days and this will be very helpful at this times.
?? It wasn't a story! But what I liked most about the book was it was full of stuff i was able to use in my own life. It was very realistic which made a nice change.
Nice voice, nice to listen to.
No idea how to answer that, sorry!
I liked this a lot and i find it helping me on a daily basis since I got it. Very good value for money too, a lot better than other books i have read in this section.
If we are talking about non-fiction then I would say it is in my top 5 books, up there with classics by people like Dale Carnegie.
No but i liked her voice, easy and nice to listen to
I found it best to listen to in sections, to let the advice and information seep in. Listening to it all at one go may be a little difficult to really get the best out of it.
I am giving this a 10/10. Very happy with it, helped me a lot, especially when dealing with social situations, talking to people at work and helped me get over a lot of my shyness and social anxiety. Those 'i dont know what to say" moments are a lot less now. Very happy.
"Very helpful book. Good for everybody"
I’m not a shy person but I don’t enjoy prolonged conversations. I learned more about why my conversational style sometimes rub people the wrong way. I guess I need to be more open to other people’s ideas and try not to always moderate conversations. People tend to react positively to empathy, I’m more likely to point out what you did wrong than tell you sorry. I haven’t gotten the hang of it but I think now if I’m not sure how to respond, I just stay quiet. I guess saying nothing beats saying the wrong thing.
Practicing reading body language with the TV on mute. It felt like learning to walk around blindfolded. It already improved my manner of approach when I have a few minutes to observe a potential client from a distance. I at least have a rough idea of their moods and this also allows me decide the best way to talk to them.
I’ll recommend the book to my friends. In my line of work, being a good conversationalist is very important and I think this book has a lot of good tips they can learn from.
Very helpful book, full of very good practical advice - the best part is the advice actually felt realistic, it felt like things i could actually do in my own life.
Narration was very good. Loud, clear and engaging voice.
I guess the thing to remember is the things you will learn from this book will take time to seep in (although i found positive changes immediately!) as you cant expect to change a life-time of habits overnight, but stick with it, it does work. I am walking testament of that!
Dealing with social anxiety / anxiety / self-esteem / shyness issues is not easy but it can be beaten. This is a fantastic book that will give you a lot of the tools you need to progress in life.
"Practical tips for overcoming social awkwardness"
This is my first listen of a Rachel Austin narration. I liked the flow, the conversational tone made it easy for me to listen for long periods. The information is presented in a down-to-earth manner. Rachel Austin delivered a professional and engaging effort that kept the conversation fresh. Her audio cues were also on-point.
The book has made me more interested in going out. I am also less inclined to ignore phone calls in lieu of messages. I think over time, it had become very easy for me to hide behind text messages and emails especially with family because I didn’t get along too well with my siblings. Now I try my best to talk more and text less. I am still getting the hang of talking to strangers but at least now I’m less likely to brush off an advance from someone new. There might yet be hope for my love life!
The author also talked about issues that were very personal to me. Being a person of above average intelligence, I’ve always had problems reading social cues and wondered why conversations seem to do on the downtrend once I get involved. Eventually I began to consciously avoid group discussions except at work where it is unavoidable. One change I made to the way I talk to people was to reduce the way I critiqued their ideas and inadvertently correct people’s grammar and language. I also tried to minimize gesticulations and body language that may indicate irritations. I was so surprised at the results these seemingly little changes brought about to my conversations at work and at home. I’m being giving more time during group sessions and I don’t see the smirks I used to get from my colleagues when I talked or tried to get a message across. This has made me feel more confident and less apprehensive about team sessions. I also noticed it’s easier for me to hold confrontational discussions with my boss without either of us flaring up. I also try to make eye contact more lately than before and at least I now understand that I glared in the past which made people feel like I was judging them, making them defensive. What I liked the most about this book is that I can see that my relationship with others and my conversations have greatly improved. I now look forward to meetings and people smile at me more than before which is a very good feeling that I find that I enjoy a lot. It makes me feel more confident and I owe that to the book. I would gladly recommend this book to everyone. It was a very interesting read for those seeking to improve themselves, great tips for work, family life and even dating and relationships.
Helpful, genuine and life-changing.
A genuinely incredible book, helpful to myself who suffers from social anxiety and shyness issues and I'm sure helpful to people from all walks of life.
I now find small-chat and striking up conversations quite easy - this is something i used to find, literally, impossible!
Excellent book, very helpful.
This book is the kind of book that I think everyone should read and/or listen to. Jennifer provides very real strategies and advice for overcoming the doubt or anxiety that may be associated with certain social situations. Social anxiety can be a crippling thing, and it’s something that many of us go through. I think that Jennifer does a great job in offering her advice. The best part about it is that what she offers, her solutions, are incredibly practical and easy to apply to your own life. That’s what makes it such a great read. If you’re looking for answers to problems that keep surfacing—shyness, the inability to maintain a quality conversation, difficult thoughts, feelings, tough circumstances—then you will want to check this out.
Definitely going to recommend this to my friends. In a way, helping spread this information to other people kind of helps all of us in the end. If we all approach social interactions with a level of openness and comfort then it just means that conversations, social gatherings, etc will be more fun and engaging. Glad that I read it!
"Feel more at ease in social situations"
Absolutely fantastic book and most definitely my favorite in a very long time. Helped me deal with a load of issues. Social anxiety and shyness issues have always plagued me and they are most definitely not easy to overcome but i found the advice in this book to be excellent.
Of course not everything worked immediately, it did take a week or two for some things to click into place and their is one section (to do with social occasions) i had to listen to several times, but that is fine - u cant expect a life long list of bad habits to be eradicated with a single listen. It does take time but it is worth it.
A wonderful book and i hope it helps you as much as it has helped me.
"Excellent book, a real lifechanger"
I have suffered from crippling shyness and anxiety as one of the effects of a mental disorder for as long as I can remember. After reading and applying this book, I feel I've made real, sustainable progress for the first time. There's a great explanation of the root causes that helps you to understand where your difficulties in speaking to people come from. Understanding why we have problems talking to people makes it much easier to change those behaviours.
The main part of the book explores how to become a good conversationalist. The advice and exercises are simply excellent. Anyone, not just people with anxiety/shyness issues, would benefit from reading this book. One of best pieces in the book was explaining how to make the other person you are talking to you feel important and how that improves your ability in conversations.
As I mentioned the book is very proactive, you do it, rather than just listen to it. It can be a little scary for someone like me starting off, but once you build some momentum, your confidence grows massively. Already, I'm starting conversations with people on the train to work. I haven't come across anything as practical and workable yet and I'm really impressed. It doesn't make any silly promises that its going to change your life overnight, but with the right amount of work and effort it will in time.
The narration was excellent, very well done and very easy to listen to. A great option for when you have a few free minutes during the day. Very highly recommended for anyone with difficulty talking with people, even extreme cases like me.
"Genuinely helpful and informative!"
A genuinely helpful and informative book, dealing with many issues to do with knowing what to say in many situations. For me I had issues with social situations. At times it was shyness, at times it was social and other anxieties and at times it was just being stuck for words, or worse saying the wrong or inappropriate thing. I found the flow of conversation a hard thing to get. Whilst I am not exactly perfect now, by half way thru this book i did see a noticeable improvement which has carried on ever since.
Absolutely. This is a really great book full of solid practical advice with just the right amount of self discovery. It covers a wide spectrum of conversational skills; from body language to conversation starters. There is a lot of focus on how to get people to enjoy talking to you, including some top notch advice on how to be a good listener and how to show people that you're interested in what they have to say. I hadn't ever thought about conversation in this light and I really think the author did a fantastic job with it.
There are quite a few humorous moments throughout the book which is quite rare in books about self progression. I love the fact that it's impactful without being too heavy or monotonous.
Initially I did listen in one sitting but I'm planning to listen to it again over the space of a week or two so I can really focus on it and get even more out of it.
Conversation is such an integral part of life. Feeling confident when you're speaking to people can make such a difference to your experience with others. I feel a lot more secure in myself now and I already feel less anxious about socialising (including when talking to people I find intimidating!). I highly recommend this book and I think anyone could benefit from it. It's great to learn how to really have time for other people and keep our communication with one another healthy and enjoyable!
"Dr. Jennifer Alison Saved My Social Life"
I was that person who, if you could get me to a party, would always slink in the corner and not want to talk or do anything. If I ever did talk, I never felt like I said the right things, and my conversations were always filled with those dreaded awkward silences.
After taking the time and patience to listen to what Dr. Alison had to say, I am now a much more confident and social person, with many more lasting relationships than I've ever had.
Thank you for saving my social life Dr. Alison!
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