The fear of talking to people is very real and effects millions of people - but fortunately it is completely curable. Overcome it fast with easy practical steps.
Feeling incapable of chatting to people is a horrific curse and one which can affect every part of your life. Don't let it ruin your life. Overcoming shyness, social anxiety, and low self-confidence fast. Get on with your life!
Dr. Jennifer Alisons' How to Talk to Anyone is a much praised international best seller, thanks to its practical and easy-to-implement advice. You do not need to become a doctor and learn endless and often useless medical jargon to become a great conversationalist or know to deal with difficult situations in your life. You just need good solid advice you can implement into your daily life immediately with ease.
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My problem has always been shyness, since i was a kid. I hated social situations or anything i didn't have full control over. I have been following the advice in this book for about a month now and can feel myself gradually but surely getting better.
I no longer have huge fear over social situations, i am getting there slowly and for that i am very grateful to the author of this book. x
I liked the narrator a lot...only criticism would be the cover of this book which is not great.
Much much better than I expected. I had heard good reports about this book but took me a few months before i took a chance on it…and i am very very grateful i did. I found the book to be full of genuinely good advice whilst still keeping on the right side of realistic.
Very happy wth my purchase, already listened to it twice and picked up different new things each time.
An excellent resource, one full of very valuable informations, and tactics. My shyness has plagued me all my life but i am slowly (it takes time!) getting better, thanks to what I have learnt from this book. I am now on my 4th listen to it, which should say a lot. Recommend this for anyone who needs help with shyness, social anxiety and just general help with what to say in different situations and how to act / carry yourself. Great book!
That it worked!
Not that i know of.
Her voice was great.
Easy to understand and to follow.
Cry once...in the best way.
Because I felt a positive change inside.
I hate how i am in public situations, to the point i often avoid them.
I feel awkward, never know what to say, i feel nervous and at times properly frightened.
Avoidance is easier than tackling it.
Things have changed and I put it 90% down to this book and 10% to myself.
Advice anyone can use.
I am so much better and for that I am eternally grateful to the author. I still have a little bit more to go but i have never felt so positive.
As my subject says, this was a hugely informative but also hugely enjoyable book to listen to, really helping me with everything from shyness to making small chat and actually mostly with dealing with an upcoming wedding and upcoming job interview. I feel more prepared, more relaxed and more realistic.
Terrible cover but great book! :-)
My shyness issues are almost completely gone. What other bigger recommendation can I give for this amazing book that that?!
My issues may be different from other people but were difficulty (to put it mildly) with social situations - anything from parties, to meetings, to even talking on the phone. I found them all a struggle. I was seeking help and was recommended this book by a professional.
Good solid EASY TO FOLLOW advice is very very difficult to come by, but i am grateful to find it in this book. One small section I did not fully agree with to be honest but 95% of this book was pure gold and more than worth the cost of it.
Very happy and I am writing this review to recommend this book to anyone who may be going through similar issues.
If they had the same confidence, shyness, social anxiety, social awkwardness issues that i sometimes have, then yes, DEFINITELY, as i have found it hugely beneficial. Very very glad i got this book.
I have suffered from issues with shyness and social anxiety (or some sort of strain of it) for many years. In particular i find social situations difficult, i struggle to know what to say at times.
After listening to this book…well I am not going to claim i am suddenly the worlds most confident and chatty person cos i am not, but i am so much better. I am so much able to deal with social situations and to know what to say. The book is a great resource and one I intend to listen to many more times.
Really useful nook, full of very good practical advice. I have been dealing with general social anxiety, shyness etc for most of my life. This is not an overnight cure but i can sincerely say I am handling difficult situations so much easier. I can now see why so many people have recommended this book to me.
Perfect length. Not too long, not too short. The perfect length to get the message across. Narrator i would say was 4 / 5.
Great book, i feel so much better and will continue to use the advice in this book everyday!
"Very helpful book. Good for everybody"
I’m not a shy person but I don’t enjoy prolonged conversations. I learned more about why my conversational style sometimes rub people the wrong way. I guess I need to be more open to other people’s ideas and try not to always moderate conversations. People tend to react positively to empathy, I’m more likely to point out what you did wrong than tell you sorry. I haven’t gotten the hang of it but I think now if I’m not sure how to respond, I just stay quiet. I guess saying nothing beats saying the wrong thing.
Practicing reading body language with the TV on mute. It felt like learning to walk around blindfolded. It already improved my manner of approach when I have a few minutes to observe a potential client from a distance. I at least have a rough idea of their moods and this also allows me decide the best way to talk to them.
I’ll recommend the book to my friends. In my line of work, being a good conversationalist is very important and I think this book has a lot of good tips they can learn from.
"Practical tips for overcoming social awkwardness"
This is my first listen of a Rachel Austin narration. I liked the flow, the conversational tone made it easy for me to listen for long periods. The information is presented in a down-to-earth manner. Rachel Austin delivered a professional and engaging effort that kept the conversation fresh. Her audio cues were also on-point.
The book has made me more interested in going out. I am also less inclined to ignore phone calls in lieu of messages. I think over time, it had become very easy for me to hide behind text messages and emails especially with family because I didn’t get along too well with my siblings. Now I try my best to talk more and text less. I am still getting the hang of talking to strangers but at least now I’m less likely to brush off an advance from someone new. There might yet be hope for my love life!
The author also talked about issues that were very personal to me. Being a person of above average intelligence, I’ve always had problems reading social cues and wondered why conversations seem to do on the downtrend once I get involved. Eventually I began to consciously avoid group discussions except at work where it is unavoidable. One change I made to the way I talk to people was to reduce the way I critiqued their ideas and inadvertently correct people’s grammar and language. I also tried to minimize gesticulations and body language that may indicate irritations. I was so surprised at the results these seemingly little changes brought about to my conversations at work and at home. I’m being giving more time during group sessions and I don’t see the smirks I used to get from my colleagues when I talked or tried to get a message across. This has made me feel more confident and less apprehensive about team sessions. I also noticed it’s easier for me to hold confrontational discussions with my boss without either of us flaring up. I also try to make eye contact more lately than before and at least I now understand that I glared in the past which made people feel like I was judging them, making them defensive. What I liked the most about this book is that I can see that my relationship with others and my conversations have greatly improved. I now look forward to meetings and people smile at me more than before which is a very good feeling that I find that I enjoy a lot. It makes me feel more confident and I owe that to the book. I would gladly recommend this book to everyone. It was a very interesting read for those seeking to improve themselves, great tips for work, family life and even dating and relationships.
This book is the kind of book that I think everyone should read and/or listen to. Jennifer provides very real strategies and advice for overcoming the doubt or anxiety that may be associated with certain social situations. Social anxiety can be a crippling thing, and it’s something that many of us go through. I think that Jennifer does a great job in offering her advice. The best part about it is that what she offers, her solutions, are incredibly practical and easy to apply to your own life. That’s what makes it such a great read. If you’re looking for answers to problems that keep surfacing—shyness, the inability to maintain a quality conversation, difficult thoughts, feelings, tough circumstances—then you will want to check this out.
Definitely going to recommend this to my friends. In a way, helping spread this information to other people kind of helps all of us in the end. If we all approach social interactions with a level of openness and comfort then it just means that conversations, social gatherings, etc will be more fun and engaging. Glad that I read it!
Very helpful book, full of very good practical advice - the best part is the advice actually felt realistic, it felt like things i could actually do in my own life.
Narration was very good. Loud, clear and engaging voice.
I guess the thing to remember is the things you will learn from this book will take time to seep in (although i found positive changes immediately!) as you cant expect to change a life-time of habits overnight, but stick with it, it does work. I am walking testament of that!
Dealing with social anxiety / anxiety / self-esteem / shyness issues is not easy but it can be beaten. This is a fantastic book that will give you a lot of the tools you need to progress in life.
"Feel more at ease in social situations"
Absolutely fantastic book and most definitely my favorite in a very long time. Helped me deal with a load of issues. Social anxiety and shyness issues have always plagued me and they are most definitely not easy to overcome but i found the advice in this book to be excellent.
Of course not everything worked immediately, it did take a week or two for some things to click into place and their is one section (to do with social occasions) i had to listen to several times, but that is fine - u cant expect a life long list of bad habits to be eradicated with a single listen. It does take time but it is worth it.
A wonderful book and i hope it helps you as much as it has helped me.
Helpful, genuine and life-changing.
A genuinely incredible book, helpful to myself who suffers from social anxiety and shyness issues and I'm sure helpful to people from all walks of life.
I now find small-chat and striking up conversations quite easy - this is something i used to find, literally, impossible!
Excellent book, very helpful.
"Dr. Jennifer Alison Saved My Social Life"
I was that person who, if you could get me to a party, would always slink in the corner and not want to talk or do anything. If I ever did talk, I never felt like I said the right things, and my conversations were always filled with those dreaded awkward silences.
After taking the time and patience to listen to what Dr. Alison had to say, I am now a much more confident and social person, with many more lasting relationships than I've ever had.
Thank you for saving my social life Dr. Alison!
"Shyness is almost totally gone"
Well i guess some people prefer to read books but personally i find audiobooks a lot easier to consume
Liked her voice, simple and easy to follow and understand.
IT ACTUALLY WORKS...which makes a change for books in this genre!
I would give this book 9 out of 10. I would have liked a few more of examples of other people who got better but apart from that I LOVED the advice and tips and found it all very very useful!
"Different, but in the best possible way"
It was different from the other books i have read about this sort of thing...which was a good thing!
So much about small talk, how to impress people in an HONEST way and not being manipulative or fake.
Fantastic. Helpful. Great. An awesome book I have already recommended to many people.
"So much better than i expected it to be"
So much better than i expected it to be. I learned so much and got real practical SOLID tools to use in my own life, really helping with shyness and being able to talk to people, especially strangers or difficult / awkward situations. Highly recommended.
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