The fear of talking to people is very real and effects millions of people - but fortunately it is completely curable. Overcome it fast with easy practical steps.
Feeling incapable of chatting to people is a horrific curse and one which can affect every part of your life. Don't let it ruin your life. Overcoming shyness, social anxiety, and low self-confidence fast. Get on with your life!
Dr. Jennifer Alisons' How to Talk to Anyone is a much praised international best seller, thanks to its practical and easy-to-implement advice. You do not need to become a doctor and learn endless and often useless medical jargon to become a great conversationalist or know to deal with difficult situations in your life. You just need good solid advice you can implement into your daily life immediately with ease.
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An excellent resource, one full of very valuable informations, and tactics. My shyness has plagued me all my life but i am slowly (it takes time!) getting better, thanks to what I have learnt from this book. I am now on my 4th listen to it, which should say a lot. Recommend this for anyone who needs help with shyness, social anxiety and just general help with what to say in different situations and how to act / carry yourself. Great book!
Much much better than I expected. I had heard good reports about this book but took me a few months before i took a chance on it…and i am very very grateful i did. I found the book to be full of genuinely good advice whilst still keeping on the right side of realistic.
Very happy wth my purchase, already listened to it twice and picked up different new things each time.
I have suffered from issues with shyness and social anxiety (or some sort of strain of it) for many years. In particular i find social situations difficult, i struggle to know what to say at times.
After listening to this book…well I am not going to claim i am suddenly the worlds most confident and chatty person cos i am not, but i am so much better. I am so much able to deal with social situations and to know what to say. The book is a great resource and one I intend to listen to many more times.
It increased my confidence. The book was not all about talk, talk, and talk, it was about more. There were humor and incidents. I listened to the book thoroughly and found every piece of information and instructions helpful.
Yes I loved her performance, she was calm and very persuasive.
Jennifer Alison has done an excellent job with this book. Being a good communicator is not easy, not everyone can communicate smoothly or confidently. The book not only encourages to speak but encourages to listening too. It is not a plain book, asking a person to talk well, it is written in a way that reader is obliged to talk.
I can feel the change in me since I listened to it, My friends are amazed to see that I talk these days. Back then I used to be a nerd in a group who don't talk, I was shy to talk, this book uplifted me in a way I am pretty certain none another book can. Moreover, Rachel Austin's performance, the narration made it easy for me to understand. A recommended book.
'How to Talk to Anyone' is really up there with the best. It gives you practical advice and doesn't bombard you with theories or idealism, but gets direct to the point about the behaviors that you have to exhibit and use in order to change your current communication style to overcome anxiety and shyness.
I found lots of useful hints and tips within this book that should help anyone’s communicative abilities. I’ve read other motivational-type books but this one was the most specific and best organized, categorizing various forms of communication as well as the dos and don’ts.I feel more confident after reading this book.
What to change to be 'better' at something? Get this book! I cannot recommend it enough!
A book that ACTUALLY helped me - a rare find! A rare gem in a field of nonsense. I found the sections to do with overcoming shyness the most useful. Narration was spot on and it was a good length - long enough to contain plenty of info but not so long it was boring. Very good! A***
Definitely! This book exceeds expectations. A lot of books like this take a very generic approach and I'm happy to say that this one really stood out. I've read a few of Jennifer Alison's books now and they just keep getting better. Her style is refreshing. Unlike so many other authors, she seems to really respect her readers. She doesn't patronise or offer loads of generalised advice. Rather, she always starts by encouraging you to really think about yourself, your experience, your feelings and your behaviours. Then she guides you through the self progression. I have found that this approach really works; the more you understand your fears, flaws and anxieties, the more you get out of the advice that follows. She challenges you to step outside your comfort zone and she gives you the confidence you need to do so. In my opinion, this is another winner from a great writer.
I love the chapter on conversation in the digital age. It's very current and really it's something we could all benefit from reading. The fact that we spend so much time texting and emailing nowadays really does make face to face conversation harder. Nearly everyone I know has social anxiety to some degree and this part of the book really gets to the bottom of it.
I think this book would be good for just about anyone. Whether you have social anxiety or you just don't know how to successfully strike up a conversation. I got it because I get nervous when speaking to groups at work and I'd like to feel more comfortable going out on dates. So far I'm happy to say that it's definitely working :)
If we are talking about non-fiction then I would say it is in my top 5 books, up there with classics by people like Dale Carnegie.
No but i liked her voice, easy and nice to listen to
I found it best to listen to in sections, to let the advice and information seep in. Listening to it all at one go may be a little difficult to really get the best out of it.
I am giving this a 10/10. Very happy with it, helped me a lot, especially when dealing with social situations, talking to people at work and helped me get over a lot of my shyness and social anxiety. Those 'i dont know what to say" moments are a lot less now. Very happy.
If they had the same confidence, shyness, social anxiety, social awkwardness issues that i sometimes have, then yes, DEFINITELY, as i have found it hugely beneficial. Very very glad i got this book.
That it worked!
Not that i know of.
Her voice was great.
Easy to understand and to follow.
Cry once...in the best way.
Because I felt a positive change inside.
I hate how i am in public situations, to the point i often avoid them.
I feel awkward, never know what to say, i feel nervous and at times properly frightened.
Avoidance is easier than tackling it.
Things have changed and I put it 90% down to this book and 10% to myself.
Advice anyone can use.
I am so much better and for that I am eternally grateful to the author. I still have a little bit more to go but i have never felt so positive.
"Very helpful book. Good for everybody"
I’m not a shy person but I don’t enjoy prolonged conversations. I learned more about why my conversational style sometimes rub people the wrong way. I guess I need to be more open to other people’s ideas and try not to always moderate conversations. People tend to react positively to empathy, I’m more likely to point out what you did wrong than tell you sorry. I haven’t gotten the hang of it but I think now if I’m not sure how to respond, I just stay quiet. I guess saying nothing beats saying the wrong thing.
Practicing reading body language with the TV on mute. It felt like learning to walk around blindfolded. It already improved my manner of approach when I have a few minutes to observe a potential client from a distance. I at least have a rough idea of their moods and this also allows me decide the best way to talk to them.
I’ll recommend the book to my friends. In my line of work, being a good conversationalist is very important and I think this book has a lot of good tips they can learn from.
"Practical tips for overcoming social awkwardness"
This is my first listen of a Rachel Austin narration. I liked the flow, the conversational tone made it easy for me to listen for long periods. The information is presented in a down-to-earth manner. Rachel Austin delivered a professional and engaging effort that kept the conversation fresh. Her audio cues were also on-point.
The book has made me more interested in going out. I am also less inclined to ignore phone calls in lieu of messages. I think over time, it had become very easy for me to hide behind text messages and emails especially with family because I didn’t get along too well with my siblings. Now I try my best to talk more and text less. I am still getting the hang of talking to strangers but at least now I’m less likely to brush off an advance from someone new. There might yet be hope for my love life!
The author also talked about issues that were very personal to me. Being a person of above average intelligence, I’ve always had problems reading social cues and wondered why conversations seem to do on the downtrend once I get involved. Eventually I began to consciously avoid group discussions except at work where it is unavoidable. One change I made to the way I talk to people was to reduce the way I critiqued their ideas and inadvertently correct people’s grammar and language. I also tried to minimize gesticulations and body language that may indicate irritations. I was so surprised at the results these seemingly little changes brought about to my conversations at work and at home. I’m being giving more time during group sessions and I don’t see the smirks I used to get from my colleagues when I talked or tried to get a message across. This has made me feel more confident and less apprehensive about team sessions. I also noticed it’s easier for me to hold confrontational discussions with my boss without either of us flaring up. I also try to make eye contact more lately than before and at least I now understand that I glared in the past which made people feel like I was judging them, making them defensive. What I liked the most about this book is that I can see that my relationship with others and my conversations have greatly improved. I now look forward to meetings and people smile at me more than before which is a very good feeling that I find that I enjoy a lot. It makes me feel more confident and I owe that to the book. I would gladly recommend this book to everyone. It was a very interesting read for those seeking to improve themselves, great tips for work, family life and even dating and relationships.
"Know Thyself & Others:Golden Rule of Communication"
This is another great inter-relationship book by Dr. Jennifer Alison.
Let’s face it, communication is both important and integral to life itself, yet many of us know next to nothing of how to do it effectively. To her credit, the author discusses how understanding who WE are as well as who OTHERS are affects and influences the way we communicate, for good or ill. Personally, I think an in-depth study into the types of people, such as through the enneagram, is really helpful to apply the concepts the author outlines in this book.
I think of a good conversationalist as interesting, so I applaud Dr. Alison for getting into areas like body communication, the 10 things people want from a conversation and 15 things that make a great conversationalist.
We can all improve the manner in which we communication, so add this book to your list of things to absorb. The narrator modulates her delivery well, and there is some good information in this book.
"So much better than I expected!"
It made me see the problem of social anxiety under a whole different light. There were sides to the problem that I had never considered, and having a fresh perspective makes it all much clearer. I like how Dr. Alison never talks her readers down, nerver tries to be condescending or superior, but the language she uses is accessible and relatable for everybody, not in the sense that it has simple words (it is actually complex and well developed in its expressions and ideas), but in that it it's easy to identify yourself with what she describes and see the situations the points out. That makes the solutions easier to see and easier to apply in reality.
I loved that it offers an in-depth view of social anxiety and how to learn to overcome this shyness. Theere are many layers and sides to communication, interaction with people, and the fear we have in certain situations, and Dr. Alison addresses them all. It's a thorough coverage of the most common issues, but she goes all the way to offer lasting, actual solutions. It's not just a series of pointers or tips - it truly gives you a way to make things better.
More than a scene, I particularly enjoyed the chapter dedicated to how in order to talk we must be able to listen. When we try to learn the art of conversation we think too much about what we should be saying, about choosing the right words, about learning to give, and we forget that knowing how to give is just as important. That's why I found that chapter so relevant and it's by far my favorite.
"First you must listen"
This is one of the most serious approaches I've ever seen to the topic of social anxiety. Far too many people have to live with it every day, and it's reassuring to know that this problem is being handled with the care it needs. To come accross this book can make all the difference in someone's life, and that cannot be underestimated.
"Great Practical Tips"
Among all the audio books I have listened to so far, "How to talk to anyone" by Dr. Jennifer Alison truly stands out. The tips are quite easy to put into practice as against my previous experience with other audio books.
Establishing a conversation especially with people I meet for the very first time has always been a major problem to me. Often times I do feel inferior, shy and surrounded by social anxiety. In my day-to-day activities I come across people I do feel I could talk to them, but couldn't.
With great tips from Dr. Jennifer Alison as put forward in this audio book, I have come to realize that building self confidence is of great importance in any conversation and practice truly makes one perfect. Since I listened to this audio I have learnt to overcome any kind of anxiety and view myself to be superior, not neglecting the personality of those I'm speaking with.
I am one person that is good at conversation via social media, anything that has to with using the keyboards I'm always very okay and I can say all I wish to say, but the greatest challenge is to say similar things in a face to face conversation. I've learnt to limit this very act, as explained by the author here, one could totally lost his ability of physical conversation when used to communicating with people always, via writing.
I could Imagine myself admiring someone and all I could do is to resort to findings means to get his/her social media profile identity in order to talk to the person whereas I do meet the person always.
I'm so delighted to have come in contact with this book. I have learnt to build self confidence and overcome shyness. Since I set my goal of talking to at least one new person everyday, my conversation skills have improved rapidly. In all, I have learnt to continue practicing speaking to people without entertaining any fear.
I can say it again and again, this audio book is quite unique and the best. It forms part of my achievement for this year. I recommend anyone out there to listened to this book. Even those that are bold in speaking can also learn new tips to move ahead. Hopefully, I will be good public speaker soon. My worries are over.. Thanks to the author Dr. Jennifer Alison.
"Another Masterpiece! This is for everyone"
This is such a great book, filled with so much information, advice and exercises. I just can't seem to get enough of it in just one listen. I would advice everyone to listen to this book over and over again. I can't emphasize this enough.
No, this was my first. I think she did great. Words were spoken with such clarity and precision. Her attitude was uniform throughout the whole book and she applied emotion where necessary. Nice job!
The following were said by Dr. Alison in this book. "Conversation is not war, its a way of bringing people together". "Allow yourself to be flawed". "Being able to admit your mistakes takes strength but people will respect you for it". There are so many wise sayings in this book that I just can't get enough of. One thing is for sure, am going to have better conversations after this. Am implementing all I have learnt from this book to change my life for good.
I knew I needed some help to improve my conversational skills but after listening to this book, I feel like I have a long way to go. There are so many angles to this than I ever imagined. Am glad I came across this book. Dr. Alison is clearly an expert in this field. The guides in this book shows that She KNOWS what she's talking about. This book is for everyone and not just for those who experience social anxiety, shyness and low self confidence. The practical guides in this book will help improve to a great extent our interactions with one another. The book addresses the problem of social anxiety and shyness from the root and suggest ways and exercises to curb these problems and bring out the real being that has been trapped deep within us. I have come across people that sound different in person than how they sound over the phone or when chatting on social media platforms. This book is ripe for this generation as we are gradually replacing physical connections and conversations with social media platforms and apps. So many people today are limitless on the web, showcasing their various conversational prowess "online"...The problem is, this prowess completely disappears when you encounter such individuals in person. We need to start living life to the fullest both offline and online. We all need this book.
"Excellent book, a real lifechanger"
I have suffered from crippling shyness and anxiety as one of the effects of a mental disorder for as long as I can remember. After reading and applying this book, I feel I've made real, sustainable progress for the first time. There's a great explanation of the root causes that helps you to understand where your difficulties in speaking to people come from. Understanding why we have problems talking to people makes it much easier to change those behaviours.
The main part of the book explores how to become a good conversationalist. The advice and exercises are simply excellent. Anyone, not just people with anxiety/shyness issues, would benefit from reading this book. One of best pieces in the book was explaining how to make the other person you are talking to you feel important and how that improves your ability in conversations.
As I mentioned the book is very proactive, you do it, rather than just listen to it. It can be a little scary for someone like me starting off, but once you build some momentum, your confidence grows massively. Already, I'm starting conversations with people on the train to work. I haven't come across anything as practical and workable yet and I'm really impressed. It doesn't make any silly promises that its going to change your life overnight, but with the right amount of work and effort it will in time.
The narration was excellent, very well done and very easy to listen to. A great option for when you have a few free minutes during the day. Very highly recommended for anyone with difficulty talking with people, even extreme cases like me.
"Valuable and effective information & advice"
informative, valuable, effective
Low self-confidence and not being able to talk to people, especially to strangers, is a big problem for an individual who is experiencing this problem. But fortunately, we can eliminate these unpleasant feelings. This very useful and helpful self-help guide, with all the information and valuable advice will definitely help anyone who is facing low self-confidence, shyness, social anxiety and the like. I recommend it!
"Another Excellent Write-up From Dr. Jennifer Aliso"
I already recommend this audiobook to a Friend, Cedrick is a very close friend, but he is very shy and suffering from social anxiety. He always comes up with great ideas, but he is always so timid to say it out unless you squeeze it outta him. I think he needs this book and I believe it will really help him greatly.
What I like best about this audiobook is my realization about people who are very quiet, being quiet doesn't mean that individual is battling low self-esteem. I have seen this in a friend. When we first met, my thought was he is in a league with Cedrick. James hardly talks as long as you are in a good term, but the day I saw how much he could talk, I was speechless myself. As well, I find this recommendable especially because of how Jennifer Alison have listed out of the various challenges most individuals suffering from social anxiety, low self-confidence and shyness talking in front of a large group of people face and the easy way out.
She was crisp and her pronunciations are very clear, I listen to this book during bedtime and most time, it seems very easy because it reminds me of those days when bedtime story are being read to me. Audiobook had always been my wife's as well my bedtime buddy.
A couple of sections in the audiobook moved me, but section 10 is one aspect of the book that moves me most. This section talks about the secret tricks that makes conversations so much easier. It explains how to make it easy to keep people around by figuring out how to make those around us feel important, valued and have a sense of belonging. This includes humility and listening to other peoples' ideas, talking less about oneself and much more.
This is another excellent book from Dr. Jennifer Alison, one of the reasons I particularly love this book is because I have a friend who battles socail anxiety. This book is for anyone battling any symptom of anxiety which includes shyness. If you need help to have a better social life and how to quickly overcome social anxiety, low self-confidence and shyness, then this is a book you won't want to miss out reading. This is going into the collection of my favorite books and I am recommending this to everyone as I have to a friend.
"This book is motivating and inspiring"
The book was written in such a way that people from different walks of life can understand and put into practice the different techniques needed for effective conversation or communication and how to build good self esteem.
I love the fact that Jennifer Alison was able to list out the challenges people face when making conversation and provide straight forward solution. Also I was able to realise that being quiet or shy doesn't mean someone have a low self esteem and everyone can really build the courage needed to talk to anyone confidently.
Listening to this book have made me realise how technology and social media have really affected our mode of communication, self esteem and confidence in making physical conversation. Personally, when am asked to give speech or having a conversation especially with opposite sex, am always worried about what next to say, panicking, but listening to this book have given me the techniques I need to overcome that. I've also learnt how to use body language, to improve my conversation and the best way to ask and respond to question during a conversation. I've really learnt a lot and i really recommended this book to everyone. It really worth it.
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